I love my children too much to work full time..

[LostMarbles99]

AIBU to be royally pissed off at the person who said this to me today?

Am just back at work 2 weeks after birth of first baby who is now 7 months. 'Friend' was adamant that I must regret it and then proceeded to say that she loves her children too much to be working full time.

Yeah because I hate my child and can't wait to get away from him

I'm working full time as I'm the main earner and we need the money.

Why are people so insensitive?

What do you say?

"Just remember, some of the worst things people will say to you as a parent will be said because they are desperately justifying their own choices"

Eldridge - too true

one of the best bits of advice i got was, 'when you give birth you also give birth to a stream of irrational guilt'. i was like nah it's ok i was raised a catholic so i'm well practised at that and she was like, 'nope this will take you to whole new levels'.

given we all know that at heart the idea that we'd deliberately say cruel things like the OP did is horrible. there is no way she couldn't know how barbed and hurtful that comment was.

someone said, 'people aren't being mean they're just lacking empathy' - that's kind of the definition of mean. unless you're a sociopath you've just never bothered to develop your empathy and put it into practice which is... mean. usually those are the kind of people who've never really had anything hard happen to them or shit land on them through no fault of their own that they didn't see coming. when the shit finally does hit the fan for them they throw the most almightly tantrums ever because they really believed that good things happen to good people and you make your own choices and well she must have asked for that and blah blah blah. when life slaps their perfect unexamined arse they are apoplectic!