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To think this lady was rude

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AuntyVirus · 14/08/2013 00:56

I have a 19 year old daughter who tonight I have had to phone in her place of work and tell them that she was unable to do her night shift as she was unwell.

Dd had been feeling a little unwell but was already to go to work until she suddenly started throwing . I
Called work and explained that she was unwell
And apologised for the last minute notice. It was 50 minutes from when her shift was due to start .

The duty nurse who I spoke to then proceeded to tell me how she didnt believe that this sickness was sudden , and why couldn't my daughter phone in . After explaining that she was in the bathroom throwing up and it wasn't sudden I had explained she had felt unwell most of the day. Before hanging up on me she told me she would get management to phone me tomorrow .

Should I complain about the nurses attitude or should I leave it as it was short notice when I phoned . My daughter is still throwing up although not as much and was even going to try and go into work as she felt as though she had to prove to nurse she was ill .

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Emilythornesbff · 14/08/2013 21:17

It's not nice when ppl are rude.
So if you feel you should complain thn do so.
But I'm not sure I would in this situation because it might be uncomfortable for your dd.

Original poster
AuntyVirus · 14/08/2013 21:17

Can I just add that this was only the 2nd time in two years dd has phoned in sick , and the first time she did phone herself so it is not a regular thing that dd phones in or I phone in on her behalf .

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Dancergirl · 14/08/2013 21:20

But pagwatch you probably haven't been in that situation.

I'm assuming your son is an adult?

So you can honestly say that if he was struck suddenly with severe vomiting and was in the bathroom and managed to utter to call his workplace, you would refuse? Really?

hamab · 14/08/2013 21:22

I just think she was rude because she was thinking "how the hell am I going to get someone else to help me tonight for a night shift" - you can't work the night shift if you've not slept all day - who sleeps all day thinking they may or may not work the night shift. She'd have been on her todd, running all over the place, leaving people in wet beds and feeling crap.

I think it's more to do with that than being disrespectful. And really wanting reassurance that if she has to go through this night, this person is really ill and not down the pub, on holiday or working for an agency for better money.

I hope your dd is ok, there's nothing more worrying - but please try and understand from the other side.

Salmotrutta · 14/08/2013 21:29

This reminds me of pupils not bringing in sick notes when they get back after illness:

Pupil: "But my mum phoned in to say I had diahorrea/vomiting/Lurgy!!"

Me: "but we need an actual note for the record because the phone call could have been made by your best mate Darren for all we know"

Pupil: "but my mum phoned in!"

Me: "yes, so you say but we still need a note"

Pupil: "but my mum phoned in"

Me: "waaaaaah!"

ImperialBlether · 14/08/2013 21:31

In our workplace (a college) we are told to ring in asap so that cover can be arranged - if we're not well enough to ring up then someone else can ring up. It's no big deal; there's nobody judging us. They just need to get someone into the class.

Dancergirl · 14/08/2013 21:31

salmo but how does the written note prove anything? Does the school keep a record of all parents signatures??

Pagwatch · 14/08/2013 21:34

You are kind of proving my point Dancergirl.
I am sitting here mulling over why it might be that I think phoning in is odd and you are barking at me about refusing to phone in for a rapidly and continuously vomiting son.

Salmotrutta · 14/08/2013 21:35

Well, form teachers do have files where letters, signed forms etc. from parents are all kept so its possible to compare signatures should I think little Jimmy or Janey has been pulling a fast one.

You get a bit of a sixth sense for it.

Pagwatch · 14/08/2013 21:35

I once had to phone in from the hall phone with vomiting and horrendous diarrhoea. I should have a blue Peter badge or something.

Salmotrutta · 14/08/2013 21:37

I have a chocolate coin Pagwatch.

It's from last Christmas and it was lurking in the cupboard.

You can have that.

Salmotrutta · 14/08/2013 21:38

Did you not know that schools keep parental correspondences Dancergirl?

They don't just chuck em out you know.

ilovesooty · 14/08/2013 21:39

My favourite sick note from a pupil read:

"I am sorry my son was not in school yesterday, He was sick. He is writing this note as I am cleaning the attic and my glasses are dusty" Grin

Salmotrutta · 14/08/2013 21:40

Hahaha!

It always amazes me the detail some parents add in!

About explosive diahorrea... Imagine how mortified the child would be Grin

ImperialBlether · 14/08/2013 21:41
Grin
Dancergirl · 14/08/2013 21:43

Wonder what my school thought of my mum's notes. I took loads of sickies from school and she wrote me a note every time. Think she quite liked my company!

Pagwatch · 14/08/2013 21:43

My last note for DS1 was

'dear sir . I am sorry pagboy was late but he had to help the dog shit'

Perhaps that's why he dosen't ask me ?

Salmotrutta · 14/08/2013 21:45

ShockGrin

Salmotrutta · 14/08/2013 21:45

I wonder what they said in the Staffroom...

Pagwatch · 14/08/2013 21:46

Haha !
Do you laminate some of them Salmotrutta. I would enjoy those Grin

Pagwatch · 14/08/2013 21:47

It was actually true but a long story.
I did explain properly. DS1s teacher was fab and enjoyed it.

hamab · 14/08/2013 21:50

"I am sorry my son was not in school yesterday, He was sick. He is writing this note as I am cleaning the attic and my glasses are dusty"

That's just beautiful. I'm going to have to send dc in one day with that one.

Salmotrutta · 14/08/2013 21:57

I love a good parental correspondence!

Especially the complaining or demanding e-mails.

Unfortunately sharing them would out me as some are very interesting...

MysteriousHamster · 14/08/2013 22:06

Hope your daughter is okay, OP

primallass · 14/08/2013 22:12

You do realise that all the 18 and 19 year old university students who are staying away from home have to deal with this sort of thing on their own? If they have an accident or are ill they have to contact hospitals and doctors on their own, get there (by taxi if necessary), contact work to let them know they're not coming in, etc..

Of course, but if you are in the same house as them at the time then you wouldn't make your 19-year-old take herself off to hospital in a taxi ...

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