TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 2

[TidyDancer]

New thread. :)

I usually agree with Hec, but in this case all that is necessary is for Tidy to forward her last email to Gluezilla on to Sisterzilla.

There is absolutely no point in Tidy re-hashing everything for the sister - that just opens the floodgates for Sisterzilla to start pestering Tidy.

This.Has.To.Stop.Now

Spell it out for the thickos.

1. I was sent an STD card
2. I thought this meant I would receive a wedding invitation.
3. I was told that I was not invited.
4. The bride then asked me to decorate her wedding venue.
5. I refused.

Leave out the feelings and the reasoning. The expression of these, however legitimate, is what they're focusing on. The facts speak for themselves.

It has to stop soon or we'll need a new thread.

Yes to forwarding on email to bride cuntworm to sister cuntworm.
And leave it at that.
Don't feed the cuntworm ego.

OP please please make sure you get back with the full story don't play dumb , your not!

This:

1. I was sent an STD card
2. I thought this meant I would receive a wedding invitation.
3. I was told that I was not invited.
4. The bride then asked me to decorate her wedding venue.
5. I refused.

This is great!!!!

I think what I said above is wrong no need to go in to full detail just the facts and please say this!! Whoever said that above I salute x
It is never a good idea to clearly demonstrate to someone how little they mean to you, just before asking them for a massive favour.

I am quite sure that I do not require counselling or have issues with seeing my self worth. I am also not a doormat. Thank you anyway.

I am going to reply. I have decided as much because while I don't generally care what people think of me, before they make their evaluations I would at least like to have my say!

So it will be factual and that'll be it. I'm not going to rant, I will just make it clear what's happened. Shall be interesting to know if gluezilla has got even close to admitting the truth!

I like the suggestion that you ask GlueSisterZilla what the problem is as she understands it. Because "What is the problem? " is a reasonable response given how clearly this had been spelled out already.

I think that you need to assume that unless you know otherwise that the sister is going to see that gluezilla is BU. Everyone here does. She probably doesn't know any of the facts and could become your ally. Treat it as a chance to explain you POV to someone who might be able to influence gluezilla and put an end to this. Don't be too abrupt with her and I wouldn't say not to contact you again as that sounds too emotional and defensive. If she does contact you again you can alway decide whether to reply. and don't defriend on facebook because we want to hear all about the final decorations and whether they go with the Sylvanian animals theme

I really hope your not going to give in and decorate. This is not a friend but a user, a true friend would never do something as crass as this to an old friend. Stuff what she or anybody else thinks, she obviously does not think much of you! Every poster in this thread and the other is at bridezilla behaviour, that should tell you something

I've read both of your threads. I've recently been a bride myself and I keep trying to be as reasonable as possible when thinking about this situation, stepping back and putting myself in her shoes, should she get the benefit of the doubt.

And every time the answer is no. She really is 100% in the wrong here. No grey area at all. What she's done is rude and thoughtless and she doesn't seem to care at all even though you've pointed this out. You should not be having to explain yourself to her sister now. Don't hold back, she needs to hear the situation for what it really is.

What Hecsy said, with Balloon's final sentence:
It is never a good idea to clearly demonstrate to someone how little they mean to you, just before asking them for a massive favour.
and with the email you send to her sister attached for good measure.

I think the time has passed for being offhand - she's bitching about you and I'd be furious at the attempt of emotional blackmail and pressure now.

It's a script.

Bridezilla is upset because you didn't do what she expected to do - do as you are told and fawn over her.

She's pissed off that you have stood up for yourself.

She's badmouthing you to everyone who will listen (this is in the list I wrote earlier) playing the victim and martyr.

The emails will continue for a while yet.

Then she will apologise but still blame the whole thing on you - it wont actually be a proper apology, she will again bad mouth you because you've seen through her fake apology, emails, texts and rumours will start or carry on -
it will all die off slowly. Just as long as after you have sent sisterzilla the email you no longer respond to anything.

It's so bloody predictable.

You obviously haven't read the thread about her pisstaking cousin then RaspberrySchnapps. If it was just Gluezilla then I wouldn't have said anything but this and the pisstaking cousin made it look like it might have been a pattern of people abusing Tidy.

I'm sorry for suggesting it Tidy - you've probably just been unlucky rather than being the sort of person these people latch onto. It was just the last response and the email from the sister that made me think that maybe they expected you to just roll over and that they were just flabbergasted that you stood up for yourself.

I really wasn't trying to cause offense but you did say in the thread about your cousin that you let her get away with all sorts of crap and this looked to maybe be a pattern.

Bridezilla is BU to cry.
I've already explained to her why.
I made all my plans
When told of the banns,
But I am, it turns out, NFI.

HTH

Christ on a bike ...

This really is gobsmacking. I am getting so irritated on your behalf Tidy i feel like flying half way round the world and gate crashing their wedding and opening a can of whoopass on this fruit cake (speaking of cake i hope this doesn't go the same way as the last minute cake bridezilla thread - utter madness and getting family involved too).

If it was me i would have to reply with an unemotional run down of the facts. I would also point out that no one should 'rely' on anyone they haven't already agreed something with. How fucking presumptuous 'i know, i wont invite Tidy (and 20 others) to save cash, and because they've saved the date then i know they are free to run around helping behind the scenes of my speshul day. I mean WHO wouldn't be HONOURED to do that'

And then get upset. NOT because she has pissed all over your friendship, oh no, but because YOU are not helpy welping the pwincess bwide out. She's crazy in the coconut.

I'M FURIOUS FOR YOU

Perhaps you should direct the sister to this thread, which is one of the most incredible threads I've ever seen.

Is anyone starting to feel a bit sorry for the bride?

I have to say, I'm not entirely sure why people are furious and livid on your behalf, OP.

I mean, she's taking the piss, yes. But the group hatred towards her is getting slightly odd.

Of course Tidy is upset, she has every right to be. BUt the rest of you..

No.