My poor dd.

[Grindmygears]

My DD left primary last thursday. She had a lovely day with all of her class mates.

Now she has found out that one of the mums organised a party at her house for the leavers but left my DD and a couple of others out.
DD was the only girl not invited.

She's devastated. She thought they were all her friends.
Aibu in that if you have a class party you should invite them all?

I could cry for DD.

Ps if she can't mix with someone from a council house she must be very insecure about her own social status. Bit pathetic really.

OP I am having a similar-ish problem (though not quite as extreme as this!) at the moment, am also wondering whether to confront or take the higher ground for the sake of peace.

IMHO people like this are either jealous or insecure - either way, satisfy yourself somewhat with thoughts of what life must be like inside her head (i.e. miserable).

It's really pathetic of nasty mum - I mean is she actually frightened of your DD or what?

I've just read the whole thread and I am so sorry your lovely DD has been treated like this. I have no idea what goes on in some peoples awful minds that would make them do something so nasty to others. That woman is totally disgusting but you and your DD are fantastic. I hope you get some answers to all this...that woman should hang her head in shame! Oh and I would be asking the school a lot of questions about this too!

Not much to add that hasn't already been said but your DD sounds amazing. She'll go far in life, much further than the bastards who did that to her.

Horrible but I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of saying one word.

I don't agree. If you don't say anything they won't give a shit anyway.

I would contact the school and find out exactly what the party was supposed to be and how it was funded.

I can't believe they kicked out that poor SEN boy. He must have been so upset.

My son has ASD and the idea that he'll never get any invites like other children makes me so sad.
To hear a story like this only emphasises this.

I'd be confronting the PTA over this shocking snobbery and exclusion bullshit, 4 children not invited, i'd be shitting fire now.

And remember, her mortgage might have bought them a naice house, but it certainly hasn't got them any class or grace. You are a great example to your DD (obvious from her reaction).

I would definitely confront this woman, her behaviour is unacceptable, and see the head.

Wow. Just wow. OP I am so sorry to hear this.
I'm Cheshire based too, and some of the mothers in my DDs class are cunt worms, and behave like this too.
Just remember that they are NOBODY. This is what I tell my DD.
Do not feed their egos, just note down for future use and IGNORE.

The nasty mother is just a cow. She's an over the top drama queen. If I confront her it'll prove to her that I'm just a rough arse in a council house. I'll just smile and wave.

Fellatio my dd is a peer councillor and and an e buddy with the younger kids. She's not a bully

I wouldn't even smile or wave. She will think you care!! Don't feed the ego!

Thanks fun. Cuntworms made me laugh.

Have read the thread with my jaw on the floor. How awful!

I think take the moral high ground and ignore the mother.

But do definitely ask for a full explanation from the school, as another poster said up thread it is possible they do not realise what this dreadful woman has done, 'in their name', as it were.

Hopefully they will monitor her much more closely in future. And cramp her spite.

I would, however, contact the school given that the PTA and a teacher were involved. If it was a class party, excluding 4 pupils, they should not have attended AT ALL. It doesn't matter who was paying/private party etc.

^This.

The school needs to know. It needs to not happen again.

Dd is acting like she doesn't care but she does. She's putting on a front in front of her friends. Hopefully she'll make some new ones in high school

Nasty mother and I both have younger dd's in the same class. I won't allow this to happen again.

You're welcome.
Sadly this isn't the first such tale, and even more sadly it won't be the last.
Becoming a mother seems to bring out the worst in the majority of women. It took me 3 years to find other mums who were on my wave length. Keep looking, there are decent folk out there!

I guess the school and the PTA had no idea about these 4 being excluded. I think it was a 'private party' rather than a school do.There is nothing to stop them using the school logo and inviting the teacher. I would definitely tip the school off though incase they try to pull the stunt again in later years!

I can't imagine that the teacher would know and not do/say anything and just turn up. It would be very unprofessional and a no no here. By the sounds of the teacher he can't know that some children were deliberately excluded surely?

I think that school do need to be informed. It can't be allowed to happen again - well, not the teacher and any official PTA representation - not if children are being excluded.

If this mother is currently on the PTA she should be told to leave, or made to, by the school. You can't have someone on the PTA who will willingly excluded elected children. They have to work for all the children.. It wouldn't be allowed where I work.

That's what I thought xylem. The teachers and staff are lovely and I can't imagine that they would of done this.