My poor dd.

[Grindmygears]

My DD left primary last thursday. She had a lovely day with all of her class mates.

Now she has found out that one of the mums organised a party at her house for the leavers but left my DD and a couple of others out.
DD was the only girl not invited.

She's devastated. She thought they were all her friends.
Aibu in that if you have a class party you should invite them all?

I could cry for DD.

[BadSpeakingSkills]

That's fucking awful


Your not in the south are you ? Friend said something similar on FB this morning about a massive leaving party and 5 from the class not invited

[Grindmygears]

The North BAD. Cheshire as it happens in a very snooty area.
Your face needs to fit around here or you're treated like poop.

[Grindmygears]

Thanks BUZZARD. Sh'e a lovely kid

[EarlyIntheMorning]

starrystarryknut is so right. I absolutely hate confrontation but in this case, I really feel you need to confront the mum in question. Do it as calmly as you possibly can, so that your DD can see you trying to right a wrong. And try to not assume she's been left out on purpose until there's absolutely all evidence to the contrary.

[EarlyIntheMorning]

Evidence that she had been left out on purpose I mean

[MerylStrop]

What awful behaviour.

No don't contact the mother

Please contact the school however. They can have a role in ensuring that such appalling unkindness is not tolerated in future. Invitations in class - NO, not unless everyone is invited. Teachers present - NO, not unless everyone is invited.

[thefirstmrsrochester]

The PTA have shown themselves in a disgraceful light here, never mind the mum host. If there was a 'class gift' them all the class should have been invited to the 'presention'. The poor kid who was turned away!
I'd be unable to contain my anger.
Sadly this is a valuable lesson to your dd as to just how terribly some people behave.
High five to the mum going round to pull the host up on her appalling behaviour.

[DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved]

How cruel, not really any excuse that will explain this is there? Apart from 'nasty parent beyond belief'.

I would talk to the school, surely they know they have to be very careful about this kind of thing?

[lunar1]

I would be contacting the school to find out if PTA funds were used. Your poor dd.

[Grindmygears]

Other angry mother has kicked right off. Her son has SEN and was told to leave. She went and knocked on mothers door. Mother basically told her to feck off.
Her son is such a sweetheart, he just doesn't know how to express his feelings.

The excuses are..
They didn't have enough room.
They didn't think our kids would want to come.

Full of shit. Boy am i annoyed.

[FannyMcNally]

YOU'RE annoyed! I'm flipping fuming here! < support emoticon>

[CeliaFate]

I'd send an email to one of the nice mums saying how disappointed your dd was not to be invited by BitchMum, wondering if you've done something wrong to be the only few not invited and "accidentally" post it to everyone at school.

[Grindmygears]

The mother reminds me of that posh woman in the program The Good Life.
She's a cow.

[SlangWhanger]

WOW, that is even more awful. I was still thinking it may have been a mix up. I would find it hard not to post post something on Facebook (not that I have Facebook )
I would be livid.

[Grindmygears]

Celia. The parents at the school hardly speak to me, they're all very clicky. I don't have there emails.

[chocoluvva]

Better to be the perfect example of gracious behaviour. That will show the nasty child and her mum up better than anything else.

Did the PTA get the teacher a present which was presented to him at this do?

[Grindmygears]

I would Slang but i know my friends would cause trouble on the status.

[Grindmygears]

The present was off all the children as a thank you to the teacher. We had all chipped in a fiver.

Nasty mother had organised it. She has her beak into everything.

[CeliaFate]

It doesn't sound as though you can do anything to shame this woman, so you'll have to rise above and spoil your dd yourself.

[Grindmygears]

I will Celia. Those people can go and f**k themselves.

[newestbridearound]

She sounds absolutely vile. To exclude children in the first place is awful, but to then actually turn one away is abhorrent. She sounds ghastly and I pity her poor child who is going to grow up having that behaviour as an example. Like several others I would definitely find out about the school's knowledge in all this.

I hope that you and DD and all the other children and mums can have a lovely day out to make up for it.

[chocoluvva]

Nasty mum sounds a bit desperate to be in favour with the school/school mums. Poor her; all the effort she's gone to but she's still foolish and unhappy.

Rise above it grind - you're much better than this.

[Grindmygears]

Thanks CHOC and i will. We're better than them no matter who we are.

[JuliaScurr]

if they're all going to the same secondary, how about a 'welcome' party with invitations pointedly given to everyone?
so sorry for the bad luck of being forced to mix with such unpleasant people.

[encyclogirl]

This is just dreadful. OP your poor dd :(

We threw a leavers party at our house for the graduating class (much smaller number of 18). The only child not to answer was a guy with SEN. I got it into my head (wrongly) that ds12 had deliberately not invited him. Really stupid of me as my dd has Downs, and SN are not something ds12 even really considers. Anyway I ended up stalking the mother around Tesco's to ask her if she'd seen the invite.

She had, but just hadn't thought it necessary to respond as he was obviously going to go.

The idea of us on purpose excluding one of the class is just so hurtful and nasty. Every single class member showed up it was a blast.

How that woman could have sat down with the list of names and struck 4 off is beyond me.