To feel a little bit pleased about what has happened to the OW?

[drfayray]

My ex left me after 24 years for this woman who got him interested in kayaking. He spent a fortune on gear and cheated on me for nearly a year on this Kayaking Kunt (KK) as she was known to me.

I am now divorced and trying to live as good a life as I can with my 2 DC.

I have just found out that the KK has extensive nerve damage to both her arms and hands... Caused by kayaking...

Karma is REAL!

Ignore the paticularly venomous comments op

Such as the 'no wonder he left you' clap trap.

Seems some of those accusing you of being bitter and spiteful should look in a mirror and invite some more compassion and love into their own lives.

As they are obviously lacking it.

I think karma is bull shit.

Quite safe to have a little smirk.

I think thats a very nasty attitude OP, and if 'karma' is real, its coming for you....

You're okay now though. Nerve damage probably means she will never ever be okay again. Is that karma?

OP did you not realise you are actually supposed to pray each evening to God, Allah and Krishna that the OW lives a long and happy life with your ex OH because we on mumsnet never, ever judge anyone. Oh and if you think you would have escaped any negativity by writing your ex OH had gotten crotch rot instead of OW having a brush with the Kayak nerve destroyer then forget it. We never judge anyone ever on Mumsnet.

Terms and conditions apply of course it is perfectly reasonable to judge little girls who run away with their teachers and anyone suggesting Tyler isn't good enough to play with her little India.

Now I remember why I hid the relationships board.

It is would be easy to feel a certain sense of... Comeuppance? or even justice in a situation like this. Very easy I would imagine, even for a fleeting second.

However it isn't Karma, it's just an unfortunate thing that has happened to someone else.

You're not a bad person to feel this way, you said yourself you don't want to feel like this. Nothing bad is going to happen to you for doing so, but it's not a good way to feel.

It's negativity and none of us need that in our lives.

Just shake it off as another step to moving on and letting go.

Karma is a barrel of woo shite.

I can imagine being pleased if he had left her for another younger kayaker, but not for her suffering frigging nerve damage.

At the end of the day she was single and free to shag who she wished, if a man is married than he should be able to keep his cock in his pants or he should leave his wife.

I'd probably like you. Don't beat yourself up over it. They both did a very bad thing to you and your children.

*feel like you!

YABU

Well, actually how you feel is how you feel, but some thoughts should remain firmly in your head :)

I would feel the same. Ignore all the 'saints' on here.

OMG, there are some perfect people on here and some stupid comments.
Ignore them OP, this feeling will make you feel a bit unreasonable, you will move on a bit more and this is good. only when you can't move on do you become bitter and twisted, so dunno what those comments were about

Isn't Mumsnet made up mostly of the thoughts that should stay firmly in our heads, Samu? :o

Best not to say how you feel on MN sometimes OP.

I won't comment on whether or not YABU, but I can guarantee you won't be feeling better after reading your replies.

But if I kept all of the thought in my head that should probably stay there...I would be a mute!

You have had some nasty replies op but theu are probably bitter and feeling spiteful about something else and taking it out on you for sharing your feelings.

Take pity on them, they know not what they do

YANBU. Id feel the same.

However, you should really try not thinking about them at all now if you want to truly move on, your aim should be indifferance. Easier said than done though i know.

A quoute a (try to) live by is "being bitter is like drinking poision and expecting somebody else to die"

You do yourself more harm than good. So have a smirk to yourself (i bloody would) then just forget them.

I disagree with everyone just blaming the husband. Yes, he's the one who took the vows and should have kept his junk in his pants. I'd be damn angry with him too. However, the OW could have had some class, morals and respect for other people's marriages. I don't blame you for finding a small bit of pleasure after this woman stole your husband and tore your family apart. I'd want to rip both their heads off. Lol I'm not crazy I swear! :)

I have nerve damage, and like weegiemum I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

YABVU. She wasn't the one who cheated, he was.

I'm sure it's usual enough to feel like that under the circumstances.

That is very true Allyours

Fuck that. I'd be delighted

I'm a bitch though.

Just read your previous threads, DrFay - and I still stand by my previous comment that you should be aiming all your thoughts of cosmic payback at your ex, who sounds like an utter, utter knobhead!

I would also still feel a bit of "serves you right" myself though - was in a similarish position myself some years ago (but with no children, thankfully!) and I was utterly gleeful when I found out the ex had to have varicose vein surgery, but would have probably been just as gleeful if it had been OW.