AIBU?
To tell my "friend" to piss off
HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform · 13/06/2013 13:43
I lost a fair bit of weight a few years ago (40lbs) and I have a friend, who I met as I was losing the weight, who seemingly has to remind me of how big I was (size 16), particularly that I was big on my wedding day. I don't understand why she has to bring it up all the time, particularly when she is substantially bigger than I am yet I wouldn't dream of calling her fat. Her most recent comment, looking at a picture of said wedding day, was that my tummy stuck out far farther than my boobs (it didn't). I just don't understand it.
She also criticises my grammar, which I think is normally quite good, today accusing me of corporate speak. Who fucking cares if I said something she deems "corporate" (evidently me).
WIBU to tell her to fuck off? She's not being particularly kind, which makes me feel shit, and she is currently staying with me (rent free) at weekends so she can keep her job in our city having moved hundreds of miles away to save money.
bettycocker · 13/06/2013 13:45
She sounds pretty unpleasant. I would only say things like that to someone if I really wanted to piss them off. Fuck off might be a bit harsh, but you could tell her that you're no longer able to accomodate her. YANBU btw. It sounds as though you don't like her.
tripecity · 13/06/2013 13:48
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HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform · 13/06/2013 13:48
I don't like her right now, betty though we usually get along quite well. I'm smarting a lot over the fat comments and the picking on my grammar today tipped me over the edge.
I just feel a bit used - both for the accommodation and as a target to pick on to boost herself a bit. Probably being over sensitive but it has made me feel shit today.
rockybalboa · 13/06/2013 13:53
Absolutely tell her to fuck off. For starters tell her that unfortunately you can no longer accommodate her at weekends and she'll have to make other arrangements. I wouldn't pick her up on the generally rudeness until after she's gone but YANBU at all to say something afetrwards. What a bitch.
MamaChubbyLegs · 13/06/2013 13:55
She sounds like she's taking you for granted. Say something to her! It might make things uncomfortable and kick her into looking for a hotel for the weekend or it might make her rethink how she treats you. Perhaps she doesn't realise that what she says hurts you. She won't unless you say something.
If she's a good friend, she'll apologise. If she doesn't apologise, ywnbu to give her a list of local b'n'bs and tell her to piss off get on her way 
Solo · 13/06/2013 13:56
My two best friends at school were always bigger than me (by a long way). We are still friends and the same (weight) still applies, but I wouldn't dream of being offensive to them about it and never have!
I'd be packing your 'friends' belongings and de friending her from my life!
Mollydoggerson · 13/06/2013 13:56
She sounds very insecure.
First and foremost you have to look out for yourself, so I think it is fair for you to say that you'ld like to get your house back to yourself and could she start looking for weekend accommodation elsewhere.
If you don't want that confrontation then tell her your cousins/friends/colleagues will need accommodation in two weeks time so she wont be able to kip at yours from July on.
Fenton · 13/06/2013 13:57
You need to get yourself a (fictitious) lodger because you could do with the money. This serves two purposes, gets her out of your house and lets her know what a sponger she has been.
As for the rest of it, - yes, jealousy I think, so don't give it headroom, or her houseroom.
. Definitely agree she is jealous. And she stays with you at the weekends for free? Talk about biting the hand that feeds you, what the hell is wrong with her?KeatsiePie · 13/06/2013 14:02
Probably being over sensitive
You are NOT. It is completely insanely mean to tell a friend, unsolicited, for no reason, that she looked fat on her wedding day. What the fuck?! She sounds awful. Get her out.
Tell her that firmwide housewide personnel evaluations indicate that her performance has shown a poor ROI, which has led to a reorganization of your hospitality department and now most unfortunately she has been made redundant. Give her five minutes to pack up her things and escort her to the door.
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