To tell my "friend" to piss off

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I lost a fair bit of weight a few years ago (40lbs) and I have a friend, who I met as I was losing the weight, who seemingly has to remind me of how big I was (size 16), particularly that I was big on my wedding day. I don't understand why she has to bring it up all the time, particularly when she is substantially bigger than I am yet I wouldn't dream of calling her fat. Her most recent comment, looking at a picture of said wedding day, was that my tummy stuck out far farther than my boobs (it didn't). I just don't understand it.

She also criticises my grammar, which I think is normally quite good, today accusing me of corporate speak. Who fucking cares if I said something she deems "corporate" (evidently me).

WIBU to tell her to fuck off? She's not being particularly kind, which makes me feel shit, and she is currently staying with me (rent free) at weekends so she can keep her job in our city having moved hundreds of miles away to save money.

Right calm down. Seriously she cannot refuse to leave.

If she does, just explain that you are happy to give her reasonable notice (ie the weekend - though personally I would tell he she has only enough time to pack up her stuff tbh), but that if she refuses or starts making you uncomfortable, you will be prepared to phone the police.

This is YOUR flat.

Don't go into specific points. Don't give her the chance to make 'counter-arguments'.

Just repeat, sorry this is not working for us any more. You will have to leave.

You don't sound pathetic, just someone who wants to avoid an unpleasant confrontation. I would be the same, but you need to confront her otherwise you will continue to feel like this.
Don't engage her, just say you'd like her to leave as it sent working out. If you need to get your stuff and go out after you tell her.

Yes no exscuses that way she cant wheedle her way around it.If she refuses to leave phone the police.You dont sound pathetic.

If she wont leave don tell her your phoning the police you leave and do it in peace.

I did it.

She's getting her stuff together. I am shaking like a leaf in the bedroom. She made some attempts to contradict me but I wouldn't let her.

Well done

Just read all the way through.

Well done you did brilliantly!

I hate confrontation as well and I know how draining it can be when someone makes you have to pull them up on they're behavior.

Well done

Go with a broken record. Something like
"Its not convenient for you to stay here anymore" or
"Its not working out for us havingyou here on the weekend"

Don't engage in a conversation, just repeat.

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You star.

Well done. You are RIGHT don't forgrt that

Yay! well done!! :)

Haha. I am. I just texted DH saying friends should enhance your life not make it work, realised had I sent it to friend she'd have corrected me to "detract" and that's why I'm right to tell her to fuck off

Almost stopped shaking. Still hiding until she is gone though.

Well done OP. I'm proud of ya. :o

Well done. Enjoy the rest of your weekend and don't give her a second thought.

FFS why is she not gone?

Good for you, well done :)

She probably realises you mean business, and is trying to work out her options, DO NOT be drawn into any conversations with her.

Stay strong :)

Just read whole thread - good for you!

You are completely right, friends should bring positivity not nasty comments. Don't calm down and feel sorry for her, she has been very rude and ungrateful.

Delighted for you! Well done! Now make sure she leaves...

Well done Hotel and don't back down.

Stay calm and make sure you get your keys back.

Not Happy to say anything to her directly but happy to slag her off on Mumsnet? That makes you as unpleasant as her. What ever happened to being truthful to people? i.e. I feel hurt when you say XYZ??

Well done! She's not gone because she thinks you will back down. Stay firm.

She is definitely pea green (well done to you for losing the weight and keeping it off :)) Do you really need this negative drip, drip every weekend? It sounds to me as if you have come to end of this 'friendship'.

She's gone now but taken the keys with her. I can easily change the lock (we have an inner door with a mortice lock on it) which is probably a whole lot less hassle than asking her for the keys back. Especially given the emotional response from having to confront her!