To tell my "friend" to piss off

[HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform]

I lost a fair bit of weight a few years ago (40lbs) and I have a friend, who I met as I was losing the weight, who seemingly has to remind me of how big I was (size 16), particularly that I was big on my wedding day. I don't understand why she has to bring it up all the time, particularly when she is substantially bigger than I am yet I wouldn't dream of calling her fat. Her most recent comment, looking at a picture of said wedding day, was that my tummy stuck out far farther than my boobs (it didn't). I just don't understand it.

She also criticises my grammar, which I think is normally quite good, today accusing me of corporate speak. Who fucking cares if I said something she deems "corporate" (evidently me).

WIBU to tell her to fuck off? She's not being particularly kind, which makes me feel shit, and she is currently staying with me (rent free) at weekends so she can keep her job in our city having moved hundreds of miles away to save money.

[StealthPolarBear]

Bigdoms the op has spoken directly to her friend

[YouStayClassySanDiego]

Did she offer an apology of any sort before she left?

[HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform]

RTFT BigDomsWife - you will see that I haven't slagged her off and I have been direct with her but been belittled for being hurt. And as I've grown some balls today you can fuck right off too.

[HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform]

Not a jot YouStay.

[minouminou]

The OP hates confrontation, and has, over the years, been a put down by this so-called friend. It's been really difficult for her to do this, so asking for advice is just fine.
She's given us facts, this is not slagging her friend off.

[YouStayClassySanDiego]

You can now start to enjoy your weekends without her dragging you down.

Change that lock though, just in case.

[NoisesOff]

OP, you're a star!

[scarletforya]

Good for you OP!

What a nasty parasite! No shame! Can't believe she kept the keys. probably thinks it will all 'blow over' and she can come back! heh...oh change those locks OP!!!!

Enjoy your house back! Glad to see you're putting up with no crap any more!

[EagleRiderDirk]

Yay! Well done!

Definitely change your lock. See it as throwing away one chapter and opening another.

[NotYouNaanBread]

Hurray for you! Well done for standing up for yourself against such a complete horror!

[dubstarr73]

Id email her and ask for the keys but the change the locks anyway.I wouldnt trust her as far as i could throw her.But well done for growing some balls ,all you have to do now is keep them.

Id get your hubby now to deal with her that way less likely to catch you on an off day

[dubstarr73]

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[pigletmania]

How rude, I would be saying adios to her

[HadALittleFaithBaby]

Late to the thread but well done Hotel! I would ask for the keys but also change the lock before next week because I wouldn't put it past her to just pitch up again next week as if nothing happened!

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

HotelTango - it might be worth checking your lock to see if you can just change the lock barrel, rather than the whole lock - that is much cheaper. We had to change our locks a couple of times when ds1 lost his house keys, and we just changed the barrels rather than the whole thing.

Oh - and well done for sorting this situation out - now promise me that you and your dh are going to celebrate tonight, and have a wonderful weekend!

[OhTheConfusion]

Well done! Some people never fail to amaze me!

[pigletmania]

Oh right just read the rest of your thread, well done you. Bigdoms she has, why Gould op put up with being treated like shit

[dubstarr73]

Please keep us updated though,whether she tries her luck next week.

Enjoy your weekend

[EagleRiderDirk]

hotel just because a few people here and me think given her actions she may show up next week, please don't spend your time worrying about that. You seem like a very nice person, so I know if she shows up with the toddler in tow you are going to feel guilty at least for the kid. Change your lock barrel and make sure you and OH are out at the time she normally arrives so you aren't there for any blackmail/guilt tripping that may happen.

Also if you and OH go out and she doesn't try anything at least you and OH will have had a nice date.

[MissStrawberry]

Ask your DH to get your keys off her. She has no need to keep them and if she refuses to give them back demand to know why. Check your stuff in case she decides to take it by accident.

[Pagwatch]

Change the locks.
even if you get the originals back she could have spent 10 mins this afternoon getting them copied.

[ExitPursuedByABear]

Hurrah for you. You can have a lovely relaxing weekend.

What is it with some people? They must have rhino hide.

[Mia4]

YANBU, sounds like she has issues with herself-be it body weight or self esteem- and needs to put you down to make herself feel better. It's very toxic OP, i'd suggest distancing yourself.

[HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform]

I've had an email from her saying she didn't realise that she was being offensive and upsetting. I might respond to it in a couple of weeks if I think there is a benefit to me (and a bit to her as it isn't nice to be dropped without a full explanation) but for now I am going to enjoy the sunshine and change the locks!

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

Well bloody done!