"If my son was a dog, I'd put him down"

[PoppyAmex]

Yes, I know IBU for reading Daily Mail links, but I just don't understand where they get people like this woman from.

I'm pregnant at the moment and this article really made me sad, it's just so undignified for everyone involved.

here

This is the follow on article to her original one two or three weeks ago.

It's one line in a whole article taken out of context from how it was originally written.

She has 4 children with ADHD, she her self has ADHD. Her last child, the one the article is about is the most severe, although she did get funding for her daughter to go to a residential school. She is now alone, surviving on carers allowance and is thoroughly browbeaten by life and the system.

?I don?t want to be doing this when I?m 80 and he?s 40,?

Would you?

I think she has been brave to say what she's said tbh. I can't believe she'll be getting a lot of praise for it.

What she said was very harsh but parents of children with disabilities and behavioural needs often need to come to drastic points before they receive the help needed. I'm in no way agreeing with what she said, but the article showed no empathy for what is an incredibly difficult family situation.

As pointed out to me by an academic scientist (of some sort), animals sense when there is something wrong with their young and eat them.

In context the remark makes sense - she is worn out and needs help.

Try being the parent of a disabled child who has challenging behaviour - there is very little support out there.

Spend a day in her shoes and you might just understand the point she is trying to make.

Against my better judgement, I read the article. I can't believe the way the article is written, so judgementally and with no understanding of what it's like for a parent in those circumstances.

It's not just what you have to deal with when your child has ADHD and other issues.

It's the fact that all around you, you see parents enjoying their children and having fun and you know this will never be your life.

I really feel for her.

I just felt sorry for her, its hard for her and everyone involved. Shes loves him deeply but finds it very hard, who wouldnt? I think its too easy to judge without being in her shoes.

What a vile article.

The writer is blaming her for everything. Last time I checked, it took two people to get married and subsequently divorced.

Is she to blame for her sons special needs? Ofcourse she bloody well isnt.

And if saying a ridiculous statement gets her on tv talking about how hard life is for carers in this country then why shouldnt she.

I agree, that article is vile. Some massive cunt wrote that.

But that's my point - does the DM scour the country for vulnerable people and casts them into these unsympathetic personas with horrible "strap lines"?

I just keep thinking about her elder children will feel reading this and seeing their mother vilified on national press.

I fully sympathise with her comments.
Her life must be tough and there is absolutely no end in sight

hideous article
I couldn't finish it
The journalist is a disgrace

You should know by now that the DM is a scummy piece of shit.

They dont care about people. They are just chasing the next sensationalist headline.

Maybe the article is so negatively written blaming her and making out like she is the problem- so that society etc. do not have to be held accountable to such families. Discredit the people who speak out. Way to go. Poor lady.

Op have some compassion.

Well, she her self is ADHD, she had 4 children with ADHD and it is implied it is hereditary.

There is an ideal society model and a real society model. In an ideal society people would make a responsible elective choice with regard to having children and genetics. However we are in a real world where, I dare say, she clung on to that little bit of hope this child would be "normal" (I don't like the word in this context but I cant think of a better one). No one gets pregnant with the intention of giving birth to anything other than a healthy baby.

My heart does go out to this woman. She must be so isolated, devoid of company and friendship and utterly in despair and at her wits end with no respite.

As the lad gets bigger and gets his adult strength, she will be beaten, and she is right, there is no help out there for beaten and abused mothers. And she will probably hide the fact her child beats her, that in some ways is worse than your partner carrying out acts of DV.

From the original article, it was said the lad had an array of LDs as well, he will be unemployable with that level of anger and no qualifications. He is tied to her for life. What happens to him when she dies is anyones guess.

That poor mother must be utterly, utterly exhausted. I really feel for her.

i haven't read the article ( i dont click on Dm links)
but from the other posts here i can tell that this woman must be at the very end of her tether at most points of her waking day, with no end in sight. i have nothing but sympathy for her. and for someone to take the words of a desparate woman and twist them for a shocking headline is fucking appalling. i hope this article works in her favour and someone somewhere is able to offer her some sort of help. maybe a neighbour that didn't realise she was coping alone with 4 children all with ADHD, or a local councillor or something.

Just think how utterly exhausted and depressed someone must be to say that. I suspect she has depression and needs help. This article is a cry for help.
Why do we always let people hit rock bottom before intervening? A friend of a friend is the divorced mother of an autistic child. The strain caused her to have depression and to comfort eat to the extent that she needed a gastric band. If she could have just received help to start with maybe none of the rest would have happened.

The boy in the photograph looks like he has fetal alcohol syndrome.

I feel SO sorry for this mother.

Her life must be HELL.

I feel for the mum. The DM article said that her youngest, who is 10 years old, has a mental age of a two year old. How exhausting must that be to have a toddler-mentality child for 10 years! No logic, no ability to rationalise, constant need for attention. Totally draining. Not to mention her three other children and her own condition.

in context the remark makes sense
its a comment about the violence that she has to tolerate daily