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Original poster

to let dd have a day off school because i miss her?

465 replies

LittleLisa78 · 22/05/2013 22:45

DD is in reception. DP works shifts and doesn't have a weekend off til July but does have many weekdays off. Youngest DD is 1 and very full on so elder DD has not had any real one on one time with me since she was born and has been asking repeatedly for it but it's difficult with dps shifts and extra curricular activities after school. She and I both just want a full day with each other having fun and doing things it's difficult to do when I have younger DD to look after too. AIBU to consider letting her have a day off school to do this?

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MortifiedAdams · 22/05/2013 22:46

Where will your youngest be?

Couldnt you do it on a weekend day your dh gets off and he can have the youngest?

scaevola · 22/05/2013 22:48

Yes.

It's half term next week. Plenty of weekdays available then.

VinegarDrinker · 22/05/2013 22:48

Does he not have any days off in half term?

AlanMoore · 22/05/2013 22:48

I think that's ok, as a one off. My dd got sent home from nursery the other week for a mysterious temperature but she was fine and we had a lovely day! Enjoy yourselves :)

OwlinaTree · 22/05/2013 22:48

Isn't it half term next week?

deste · 22/05/2013 22:49

I didnt think school was optional.

TheSmallClanger · 22/05/2013 22:49

Can you get a babysitter and sack off the after-school stuff sometimes?

I think taking her out of school isn't a good idea.

VinegarDrinker · 22/05/2013 22:49

And I would say yes YABU and setting up a dodgy precedent

RhinestoneCowboy · 22/05/2013 22:50

I've done that a couple of times in the past! Its really nice, I really enjoyed it, and I think its a lovely sweet thing to do. I hope you enjoy it Smile.

Even now, though my son is older, sometimes I crave that "you-me" time, as we don't often get it.

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LittleLisa78 · 22/05/2013 22:50

DP could have her in the week but doesn't have a weekend off until end of July when it'll be school holidays anyway and elder DD would've gone almost 15 months with no one on one time with me

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AgentProvocateur · 22/05/2013 22:50

YABU to give her the message that school is optional.

ohforfoxsake · 22/05/2013 22:51

I give mine 'duvet days', not frequently but regularly (once or twice a year). My eldest gets the most out of. He is very self contained and the least demanding - the one who needs the attention the most but asks the least.

Just make sure you make it count and don't spend the day doing chores. Smile

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 22/05/2013 22:51

It's half term in a week!

ChippingInLovesSpring · 22/05/2013 22:51

YANBU - she's in reception not doing her GCSE's - she'll benefit more from a day with you to herself :)

flowery · 22/05/2013 22:52

YABU that's an incredibly bad example to set your DD and you are inviting problems later on. School is not optional and there is half term and holidays and babysitters if you feel you need some one on one time with her.

TheSmallClanger · 22/05/2013 22:52

As I said, could you not stop/interrupt the after-school activities and do something after school?

2rebecca · 22/05/2013 22:53

Yes, she'll have to get used to the fact that she has a little sister. You maybe have to design stuff you can do with her and the baby with her being the centre of attention and just pushing or carrying the baby around things she enjoys doing.
One on one time will have to wait until your husband can look after the baby for a few hours, eldest kids don't get lots of individual attention any more when they have younger sibs.

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LittleLisa78 · 22/05/2013 22:53

I don't have anyone else to babysit. We're going away as a family next week - I was thinking of DD and I having a day to ourselves in june

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BriansBrain · 22/05/2013 22:53

I don't normally ever agree with time out of school but in reception and a well spent day togeather could mean much more to her health and education.

Have a special day togeather but make it a Friday so she has the whole weekend to forget to mention it at school!

VinegarDrinker · 22/05/2013 22:54

Have a day on your holiday that DP looks after the younger one all day? Or do several activities - one a day, even - just with the two of you?

Why does it have to be a whole day?

WorraLiberty · 22/05/2013 22:55

It's not a good message to send...that school is optional if there's something better to do.

If you're going away as a family, why can't you use one of those days for 1 on 1 time, while your DH looks after your other child?

ChippingInLovesSpring · 22/05/2013 22:55

Having said that - if your DP is home in the week, why can't you have time with her in the half term hols?

TwasBrillig · 22/05/2013 22:55

Can't you have a half day with just her when you're away next week while your partner has some fun with the other one?

I'm curious about the duvet day poster above -what on earth do you tell school? Do you tell them in advance??

LingDiLong · 22/05/2013 22:56

But if you're going away as a family next week can't you have a day to yourselves while you're away?

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LittleLisa78 · 22/05/2013 22:56

She knows school isn't optional - she has no problem going to school. Even if she missed an activity it only gives us 3 hours or so, I'd like a day

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