To be pissed off PIL looked after baby while I was at work and left me with upset, screaming child

[Mamacj]

At work this mornin so was dh but he was with dc most of time. Apparently he thought pil did fab jobplayin with dc and really stimulating him. I came home to a screaming tired underfed baby who needed a full outfit change. This was one of the first times they had dc and I had left instructions which they did seem to attempt to follow. Dh can't seem to understand why I think they are useless AIBU???

I seriously suggest you find a tardis. To get you to the current century.

Oh and a backbone would be handy too.

Yabvvu, and ungrateful. Why did your dh not feed your ds then as he was there.

Seriously sweetestcup again I thought that was normal

Ok...why did you think this was normal?

she needs more than a bloody tardis

Sorry op, but the dh not changing nappies is bonkers.

always

Interesting. Am a bit drunk and may have missed the nuances skimmed

Present your evidence to the bar whywhywhywhy?

well if you find a man who physically neglects his baby attractive then go for it. My husband was the first person to change our firstborn's nappy as i couldn't. he didn't have a clue but got on with it as it had to be done.

Your DH doesn't change nappies? Why not? Is it not his child? Does he think they arrive potty trained? If he wouldn't do it you can hardly blame PIL!

You left instructions? FFS, why? Surely they brought up your DH?

Your DH is being a prize twat and you are being unkind to PIL.

A few years down the line and you will look back in shame. I promise you.

Part of it could be that he can't do anything right in my eyes!!

So has he tried to change nappies but you have not allowed him to?

He definately hasn't tried to do the nappy changing !

Ok, the more I read, the less I want to stick up for you.

I see what yo up mean, always

Either you are a doormat and to be honest coming across as incredibly naive and a bit thick

Or ..... something else.

if my ds's marry a woman like the op I'm topping myself

Why the fuck didn't you tell him to get involved? What exactly do you think dads do?

He's 8 months and he hasn't changed a happy I thought he was a couple of months old. OP you infuriate me. Why do you let a man behave this way. Either leave DS with him and stop being a control freak and allow him to step up or leave DH because he'll never be good enough.

SSD - your DS will hopefully be a decent man who is interested in caring for his child.

Really? YABU and ungrateful!

i'd be more pissed off with fucking useless husband and father than his parents.

he refuses to change his child's nappy?
ffs.

Actually I think we are being a bit mean to her DH. I think DH probably tried to put the nappy on once but OP is such a control freak she flipped on him and told him it was all wrong so DH decided to leave her to it since she knew best. DH and his parents probably don't get a look in with DS. It's all about OP and her DM.

He'd be doing every fucking nappy change from now on if I had anything to do with it.

Actually. No. He wouldn't. Because his arse would be on the sunny side of the latch. Permanently.