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To be pissed off PIL looked after baby while I was at work and left me with upset, screaming child

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Mamacj · 27/04/2013 22:16

At work this mornin so was dh but he was with dc most of time. Apparently he thought pil did fab jobplayin with dc and really stimulating him. I came home to a screaming tired underfed baby who needed a full outfit change. This was one of the first times they had dc and I had left instructions which they did seem to attempt to follow. Dh can't seem to understand why I think they are useless AIBU???

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Pollydon · 27/04/2013 22:18

YANBU

usualsuspect · 27/04/2013 22:18

Yabu

gordyslovesheep · 27/04/2013 22:19

OMG they looked after him so you could work, played with him but forgot to keep him look like new in a pristine outfit ...the bastards - leave them

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow · 27/04/2013 22:19

Yabu.

Loshad · 27/04/2013 22:19

yabu

Freddiemisagreatshag · 27/04/2013 22:20

yabu

dribbleface · 27/04/2013 22:20

Outfit change as in soaking wet/poo covered or just grubby?

AgentZigzag · 27/04/2013 22:20

YAB a bit U, if this is their first time that doesn't mean they're useless.

Having them tired out is a good thing isn't it? And a bit of nosh and change of outfit is relatively minor things to fix.

If your DH thought they did a good job of looking after them and he was there, I can understand if he was a bit Hmm about you saying his opinion doesn't count.

Could some of it be because it was their first time babysitting and you're a bit on edge about it?

BoundandRebound · 27/04/2013 22:20

Yes you are unreasonable

But you'll get over yourself in about 10 years and a couple more kids

Grin
picnicbasketcase · 27/04/2013 22:22

Bit of both really. Very good of them to look after him obviously. However, it shouldn't be too much to expect that they should any necessary care during that time that you would do, put him down for a nap, feed him, change him etc. It shouldn't be a case of you doing all the same things you would have done during that time, only later.

alwayslateforwork · 27/04/2013 22:23

Mm, if you'd been at home playing with him and he got overtired and started bawling just before dh got home, would dh have the right to tell you that you were a crap mother and criticize your lovely day?

Holier than fricking thou.

Babies get mucky, hungry, and bawl. They do that whether super mother has been present or not. Lighten up and say thank you, and get over yourself.

DearPrudence · 27/04/2013 22:23

YABU. I know it can be a challenge to accept that other people don't look after you child exactly as you would, but it will cause you a whole lot of stress if you insist on every detail being as you want it.

OriginalRoute · 27/04/2013 22:23

YABU May I introduce you to the concept of paid child care, and the difference between it and MASSIVE FAVOUR.

OriginalRoute · 27/04/2013 22:23

YABU May I introduce you to the concept of paid child care, and the difference between it and MASSIVE FAVOUR.

sweetestcup · 27/04/2013 22:24

You sound nice Hmm

alwayslateforwork · 27/04/2013 22:24

Especially as you left instructions which they did their best to follow.

morethanpotatoprints · 27/04/2013 22:25

FFS.

I wish we had had family to provide free childcare, sorry but get over yourself. YOUR child, if it bothers you so much look after your own child. Angry

freddiemisagreatshag · 27/04/2013 22:26

Were they typed instructions, laminated, taped to the fridge?

Seriously. Unclench. Your DH was there, he didn't have a problem. Or isn't he as good a parent as you?

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Mamacj · 27/04/2013 22:28

Ok I am a bitch! But my mum normally looks after dc. I thought today the PIL could have him but this afternoon drove me mad after they totally tired dv out. My PIL are coming to babysit one evening this week not my idea but I am dreading what I am going to come back to, I know I am bein horrible but does anyone understand- I'll be the one up thro the night dh does nothing

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Pollydon · 27/04/2013 22:28

Erm, so under feeding a baby is alright then ? O kaaaaay Hmm

Pollydon · 27/04/2013 22:31

Oh and more than, op was at work, not off on a jolly!

AgentZigzag · 27/04/2013 22:31

I'm sure the little mite wasn't a starving wreck when their mum came back Polly Grin

Original poster
Mamacj · 27/04/2013 22:31

He was soaking wet and I honestly think it is easier paying for childcare- the adoring grandparents are happy to be involved for a few hours but then leave you all the crap

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Mamacj · 27/04/2013 22:33

My dh is happy to play super daddy in public but does not in the house that's why he had to have them over today

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morethanpotatoprints · 27/04/2013 22:33

Mamacj.

Hey welcome to the real world, you have your mum and pil to provide childcare for you and you are moaning. You sound the most entitled person I have ever heard of.
Yes, you do have to get up with small children during the night.

Do you ever spend or want to spend time with your dc? Why did you have kids? I think I will hide your thread because you are making my blood pressure rise Angry