To have hid and not answered door......

[Clumsyoaf]

Aibu? 830 this morning my SILs their DHs kids etc turn up at front door.... Can see they are laden with presents but I didn't open the door. My children and I have been excluded from lunch tomorrow and I guess I'm still raging mad. On top of which my 4 yr old has been unwell overnight and here's me hair scraped back off white (ahem grey) holey pyjamas whilst they all look like something out of dynasty with their matching handbags and shoes!

So would I bu to not answer door, respond to messages etc or respond with " I'm actually rather upset that my children and I are not welcome at the lunch tomorrow so which would have meant more to us than your gifts do please don't worry about bringing them round. - clumsy."

Thanks, don't want to respond until I can think objectively and mn us great for perspective! Btw I didn't know or expect them to be coming... Completely random visit as they all descended on in laws last night from various parts of the country.

What do you mean by excluded? I know that sounds a daft question, but is the rest of your family going and you aren't? or is it SILs turn to host her family and they have run out of room?

Why aren't you invited?

I probably would have opened the door said "Are you kidding me?" And shut it again.

YANBU simply because 8.30 is way too early to "pop round" unannounced. We'd have all still been in bed too.

Um .... well, you're being fairly rude but I would imagine it's quite satisfying!

Did your brothers exclude you from lunch tomorrow? So they're having/hosting lunch and didn't invite you - why? I need to know before I can judge!

Why have you been excluded from the lunch tomorrow? What happened to your SIL? Did they just go away?

Why are you excluded from lunch?

Yanbu - 8.30 is too early.

My mil is hosting Xmas as always.. Overheard a conv between mil and ail where sil wanted a civilised sit down lunch which wouldn't happen withy little ones.... We were to be invited over for breakfast. So I called Mil a few days later and told her I had overheard and that me and the children wouldn't be coming on Xmas day.

I agree with endo btw, 'popping round' at 8.30, especially on Christmas Eve - no!

You could tell them later you and your DH were, ahem, so busy being festive you didn't hear the door?

More details on why you are/feel excluded!

Cross-posted.

So they left you out because you've little ones? That's fucking rude. What did they do when your brothers had little ones?

You may want to link to your original thread op.

Given the circumstances, ywnbu. Seems like they turned up early to catch you unawares. Sneaky.

Shame your dc had important maintenance work needed so they didn't malfunction!

Hope your dc feels better.

Is your MIL very old and can't cope with lots of little ones?

I remember your thread about this.

I'm shocked that MiL hasn't stood up for you, did you not tell dh about how the SiL's pressured her.

You were right to ignore the door by the way!

Oops completely wrong thread. Sorry op, not had a lot of sleep. I'll check my facts next time!

I can't find the link but I posted a while back if anyone knows how to find it?? It's my husbands family. They knocked for ages kids upstairs me behind sofa... Bil came round back of house and older SIL was like we'll she can't be out cars here..... Helllluuuuu... She can't be asleep the curtains are open yoooouuuu hooooo clumsy? They knocked for around (a v long ) 5 mins then called the landline mobile etc and then left.

The OP's DH is away on deployment. The SIL's decided they would rather have a 'civilised' christmas than have clumsy and her children there.

OP YADNBU What they did was nasty.

Regardless of anything else, visiting anyone at 8.30 is rude.

Your dh isn't going is he???

YANBU at all. I'll bet they showed up that early on purpose too.

Argh posted too soon!

...to catch you out!

Clumsy's other thread

What did your MIL say when you called her and said that?

YANBU to not answer the door, 8.30 is way too early to just pop in on someone!!

YANBU I remember your original thread and I am glad to hear you told MIL you had overheard.

I hope you and your DC have a lovely day tomorrow OP x

8.30? No way would I have opened the door.

Especially after the shit they pulled.

What did mil say? Has mil told her darling daughters you know/

Sugar I think mil was and still is upset, she and Fil came to dds nativity play at nursery and took is for dinner after. She did say we were always welcome and apologised for sil but I made it clear in a firm way that's mind was made up. I am too dependent on inlaws to say anymore, my mil helps me out no end with childcare when I am working and j really did feel for her.

calling at that time is certain to catch you in and off your guard.

YANBU!!