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AIBU?

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To have hid and not answered door......

327 replies

Clumsyoaf · 24/12/2012 08:58

Aibu? 830 this morning my SILs their DHs kids etc turn up at front door.... Can see they are laden with presents but I didn't open the door. My children and I have been excluded from lunch tomorrow and I guess I'm still raging mad. On top of which my 4 yr old has been unwell overnight and here's me hair scraped back off white (ahem grey) holey pyjamas whilst they all look like something out of dynasty with their matching handbags and shoes!

So would I bu to not answer door, respond to messages etc or respond with " I'm actually rather upset that my children and I are not welcome at the lunch tomorrow so which would have meant more to us than your gifts do please don't worry about bringing them round. - clumsy."

Thanks, don't want to respond until I can think objectively and mn us great for perspective! Btw I didn't know or expect them to be coming... Completely random visit as they all descended on in laws last night from various parts of the country.

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HollyBerryBush · 24/12/2012 09:12

Ok, let me get this right - your Dh is in the services and abroad? You and the kids are home alone? Mil & Sil are having a civilised dinner because your children are quite small?

That is plain mean, small minded, unchristian and unchristmassy

Good on you for pulling MIL up on it though.

Have you got any family coming to you?

sooperdooper · 24/12/2012 09:13

Just read a bit of your other thread, it sounds like your MIL is being bullied into this by the SIL, how horrible, v glad you didn't answer the door

Clumsyoaf · 24/12/2012 09:15

No family, all my family are in the states.

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BegoniaBampot · 24/12/2012 09:17

Feel for your and Mil. Tell SIL to stuff her presents where the sun don't shine.

VBisme · 24/12/2012 09:17

8.30 was designed to catch you out Angry what a horrible woman.

MissPants · 24/12/2012 09:19

I would be replying to SIL to the effect of "I'm sorry SIL but arriving unannounced at 8.30am is just not CIVILISED behaviour".

Clumsyoaf · 24/12/2012 09:21

So should I text? My MiL has just left a message on landline asking for me to call her when " I return home" as "the girls" would love to see the children and must have missed me. Also asking me to three way Skype if Ben calls today Hmm do the nieces nephew sisters bils can say hi....

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Sparklingbrook · 24/12/2012 09:22

I am just Shock. They haven't left the presents outside have they?

ZebraInHiding · 24/12/2012 09:22

I remember your other thread. Yanbu.

Clumsyoaf · 24/12/2012 09:22

Misspants that is so tempting ... But I know I would later regret it

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Clumsyoaf · 24/12/2012 09:24

No MIL said they had gifts to give to kids and were excited about seeing them open them .... BIL has anew HD camera so will record and send to the children's daddy..

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DrinkFeckArseGirls · 24/12/2012 09:25

They need to be pulled up on this. Also delete the post with your DH's name.

Sparklingbrook · 24/12/2012 09:25

I really feel for you. What a crappy situation. Sad

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly · 24/12/2012 09:25

Perhaps you should say actually, we were in, but I don't wish to see them.

You are welcome to come round. Alone. We would love to see you. But if you come with them, I won't answer the door. I have no intention of spending any time with them, as I have already clearly stated.

BegoniaBampot · 24/12/2012 09:26

So are you on your own for Christmas Dinner OP? can't believe they will happily eat dinner knowing you and your children are alone and without their dad. I imagine their dinner might not be as jolly as they think.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 24/12/2012 09:26

Missy's answer is very appropriate. They behave disgustingly to you but it's you who is afraid to rock the boat?!

ChasedByBees · 24/12/2012 09:27

Wow they are so rude. Good for you though. I wouldn't let them come round later at all. Why should you have to see them today if they're not prepared to have you round tomorrow? That's so unchristmassy - I feel really angry on your behalf. :(

BegoniaBampot · 24/12/2012 09:27

Agree, let them know you are upset, don't let them merrily off the hook.

Ruprekt · 24/12/2012 09:30

How awful for you. What cows your SILs are!

I hope you have planned something lovely for your family tomorrow.

What will DH say when he knows you were excluded?

sooperdooper · 24/12/2012 09:31

Could you ring your MIL back and say you would've preferred they gave the children their presents on Christmas day, had you all been invited!!!

RandallPinkFloyd · 24/12/2012 09:32

If anyone rocked up at my house on a non-work day at 8:30 in the morning they would not be greeted well!

I haven't seen your other thread but it sounds like she needs to be told to shove it.

8:30 my arse.

bradywasmyfavouritewiseman · 24/12/2012 09:32

did you tell your dh?

BegoniaBampot · 24/12/2012 09:34

Does she read mumsnet? Always wonder if someone is reading a thread and recognises someone is talking about them.

Sparklingbrook · 24/12/2012 09:36

I hope she is/they are Begonia, and I would love to read the SILs defence of the situation TBH.

ShipwreckedUnderTheTree · 24/12/2012 09:38

I hope so begonia. Would like to think anyone reading this about themselves would be shocked and ashamed of what they are doing...

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