to be absolutely gutted to find out I'm PG with DC3?

[AnotherTeacherMum]

Found out today that I am pg- bit of a shock.

TMI bit (included so I don't get lynched for being lax about contraception), condom split went for morning after pill well within timescales- could not believe it when I got a positive test today.

DH had a business go under just over year ago, we are in £50k debt (as well as mortgage, only about £10- 15k equity in house as bought at a bad time) he's currently working as a taxi driver (his income doesn't even cover bills) so heavily reliant on my bursary now and me getting a job in Sep (which I now realise is about a week after I'm due).

I'm finding my workload with kids/ study / teaching practice so hard already. DC1 and 2 are 4 and 5 yo. Last couple of years have been horrible mainly becauase of financial probs- been taken to court,had repossession of vehicle- managed to get my English degree whilst all of this going on. Even if I only had 3 months off when baby is born I don't know how we would live whilst I was off and that would be assuming I could find work easily when I needed to go back. I also can't bear that thought of packing a tiny baby off into childcare whilst I work a 50-60 hour week- but I will have no choice. I already feel like I see far less of dc1 and dc2 than they need.

I felt like we were just about to get our lives back on track when I qualify in summer and now I'm back to square 1. I realise that there are people who would do anything for a baby but I feel absolutely defeated by life today :(

best of luck OP and congratulations

agree with everything you said to MyBaby- there ARE children living in poverty in the UK, asthmatic children in housing with wet mouldy walls and the parents can't afford to move etc

It is absolutely right to love your existing and potential children enough to consider whether you can provide for them all adequately before you proceed with having more children!

Glad you're feeling better, Another :)

Thanks mosman and jenai :)

Really glad, OP.
And I too was HORRIFIED at MyBaby's posts. But, I am pleased to see that you saw through them.
I wish you all the very best, for your third child.

Many Congratulations and lots of luck.My dd is a teacher and was applying for jobs when pregnant with dc1.She was offered a job and they were happy for her to start for a week at the very beginning of Sept then take maternity leave.
dc was born mid September.

Wow!
No one starves in England?
Just give it a few years. As OP pointed out in her brilliant answer just now - malnutrition is on the rise. OP is in one of the "best" (as it were) positions to see the reality. This is what you have to think about when you're deciding whether to go ahead with a surprise pregnancy, not Baby's First Cwithmath.....

However, now your head's stopped spinning, OP, congratulations on your new pregnancy. I've no doubt it'll be tough going, but it looks like your timing is as good as it could be, and I think you've got the right stuff to see it all though!

Oh Bravo OP!

Lots of luck with the pregnancy and job hunt

Congratulations op . Im glad things have worked out for you.

all the best with getting a job etc.

So glad to see you have made a decision and are feeling happier about it all now OP.

I meant to add congratulations, too! :)

Don't forget what I said upthread about not packing in your course/NQT year. I ought to come clean really and admit that years ago I dropped out of a PGCE (albeit for different reasons) and I bitterly regret it.

You clearly have your head screwed on though, and are made of sterner stuff than I was back then. You've had two babies already, so you're a pro, and you have your husband so you're not alone. Good luck and take care. I really am genuinely happy for you :)

Congratulations OP, best of luck with everything!

Congratulations op. Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Op - I wish I had seen this before, I was in a dimar position withDD3 -we were £18,000 in debt, DP's business was hit hard by recession and another baby seemed so incredibly hard to cope with but we managed.

And DPs business us improving, my income has risen, DD3 now in nursery and we really feel we have turned a corner. And she is utterly adorable and her sisters love her and vie for her attention.

It was hard work but we got there in the end and you will too - congratulations.

Congratulations OP :)