Hi all.
Thanks so much for all the supportive messages people have put. I have been lurking but wasn't in the right frame of mind to get into a debate about pro life vs pro choice, that wasn't really what I intended when I posted .
Initial shock has work off and I'm starting to feel OK about being pg but it was absolutely right that people suggested termination as an option -its so nice to think that (most!) people aren't judging you.
I'm due during in the summer hols so although it will be intensely hard work I'm hoping to start a teaching job maybe just 3 months later than I would have anyway and my course will finish when I am 32 weeks- so hopefully before I get to the really knackered bit!!
But it was so lovely how many people posted messages of support/ hand holding/hugs because its really hard when you can't talk to people in real life.
MyBaby I have just got to say that how inappropriate your posts are. You clearly have no concept of the what raising children and providing a secure environment takes- stable income and parents who are not physically and emotionally exhausted. You have to do more than just feed them and celebrate xmas for f*s sake.
You are correct that few people starve in the UK today (although many children are malnourished through poor diet) but there are plenty of people who live in cold,inadequate moldy accommodation,have to place their children in substandard childcare, neglect their children's needs through lack of energy or funds, have to make their children changes schools frequently because they are forced to move from home to home,live in areas with huge crime and drug problems because they cannot afford better and their children get caught up in it. I know because I have done almost all of my teacher training in inner city schools where this is the reality for many children. I see children every day in dirty clothes because parents can only afford one set of uniform; shoes that hurt them because they can only afford cheap ones and can't aford to replace as soon as the grow out; children who are dirty and absolutely infested with nits because mum is too exhausted with more kids than she can cope with to look after their physical care properly. Kids who arrive at school freezing because they only have 1 crappy thin coat and have a long walk to school- and they are not coming from a nice centrally heated house. Most of the parents I see are decent people struggling to do their best but utterly defeated by life.
Until you have a clue about the realities of bringing up children in the real world jog on and do not dare to bother anyone in an upsetting position again - the next person you bother may be bullied by people like you into the situations I describe above. I'm sorry if you are ill or can't have children, taht is horrible for you and I certainly wouldn't wish either on you, but bullying other women into impossible situations won't change your situation.
I am upset that my circumstances mean I can't bring my children up quite the way I would like (work life balance mainly) but there are women who find themselves pg in far more dire situations than mine and you have no right to give them this bullshit- of course they know when their baby's first xmas will be etc- but they also have to provide financially and emotionally for baby (and any other kids they have) the other 364 days of the year.
Steps off soap box.
That was only directed a mybaby's silly comments and not the more sensible people who suggested that all would turn out fine and I would regret a termination because they are valid points balanced against an understanding of the reality of parenting.
I was mainly coming on to thank people for their kind messages but it really does bother me what effect posters like mybaby would have on women far more vulnerable than me and in far more desperate situations (I was having a VERY low day when I posted but am usually a bit feistier;) )
Thanks you again.