to be shocked that in 2012 there are women who iron their dh shirts?

[SmileyPenguin]

Chatting with some other mums this afternoon it emerged that two of them iron their dh shirts. Not as s favour as they were ironing some of their own shirts, but because their dh expects it!

I admit, I seldom iron my own clothes, I choose ones that don't need ironing, or if its a shirt I'll do it for myself, I'd do dcs when they're older, but no way dh, he can and does do his own, he wears a shirt everyday so has a few...

Aibu to believe in this day and age men should be doing their own ironing and also their share of housework? do I live in a feminist bubble?

Perhaps that is what works for them? Perhaps he does other things.

I never understand why people are so keen to criticise other people's domestic set ups, as long as everyone in the house is happy with how things are done does it matter?

YABU

There is nothing specific about ironing that makes it a worse kind of drudgery.

There is nothing wrong with a woman ironing her DH's shirts.

Maybe one of you hates ironing but the other hates hoovering.

Being the one who does the ironing is not necessarily a sign of oppression.

What impact does it have on you? If it works for them who has the right to criticise?

Here we go again.

I iron my husbands clothes, today I did a huge pile of ironing.

He also irons my clothes, it depends on who is working and who isn't.

I also -shock horror- do all the cooking , I enjoy it. He does the majority of the cleaning.

I don't know what links ironing and housework...

I iron DPs shirts. He doesn't know how, I do. I could show him (he'd be happy to learn) but I can iron them myself faster, and I worry about him ruining a short or breaking my iron.

He has offered to pay for them to be done at work but that's a waste of money.

He does other things. Runs me baths, hoovers, cooks half the time. Goes to get me books, gets me drinks, is generally lovely. But he probably does expect me to iron his shirts because I always do.

I'm not sure that should make a kept woman, or a feminists enemy?

I do all the ironing in this house. Dh could iron for himself if he had to but its not his best skill..

but then he does most of the food shopping and cooking cos its not my best skill

I guess its just we play to our strengths

Well, of course things should be equal, but that doesn't mean everybody does exactly the same. For example, I am a SAHM and I will iron DH's clothes while he is at work during the day if I have time.

When I worked full time, our spare time was shared so we ironed our own stuff. It just depends on the situation, who has more time and is happy doing what.

I do all the ironing. I stick on a dvd and do the ironing while I watch it. No big effort for me. My dh does other stuff that I never do. I don't expect him to do all the things he does and he is the same with me, but jobs need to get done. What's the problem?

I iron everyone´s clothes-so fucking shoot me!

My husband expects me to iron his shirts and has done since we got together 16 years ago. He gets into an almighty piss if I don't do them.

It bothers my sister and she mentions it all the time.

I'm not sure why i do it really. I can't be bothered with all the fuss. That said, we have very traditional roles. He brings in the bacon, I run the home.

Yabu.

I'm happy to iron DHs shirts, but I'll be fucked if I'm going to start messing with engine oil and topping up water and the like.

We tend to have me doing the traditionally female jobs and DH doing the traditionally male jobs. It works for us and I don't care if it pisses all over feminism.

I have ironed DH's shirts, etc. Equally, he has ironed my stuff.

If jobs need doing then they get done, regardless. And he's better at ironing than I am.

Of course YABU. What does it matter to you how any other couple divides up their chores ? Being equal doesn't mean all doing half of each task each you know - some people prefer / are better at some tasks and others hate / are no good at that task, so it makes sense to do what suits you, surely ?

I do all of the washing, ironing, cooking and childcare.

DH doesn't do a single thing - but then he does work exceptionally long hours.

All of the jobs that you might think were stereotypically 'male' (cleaning the car, painting and decorating, gardening perhaps) I pay someone to do because I don't want to.

Imagine that!

You're very weird.

I love ironing (although I hardly ever bother).

DH does the washing up.

We are a team, it is no more subversive than that.

YABU I am shit at ironing, Dh is freakishly obsessed quite good at it so he does it. I am good at cooking, DH is crap so I do all the cooking. We just do what works for us.

I don't iron anything (christ... life is just too short) but I do all the laundry and all the cooking.

DP does all the hoovering, bathroom cleaning and bin emptying though, generally. Works for us.

In my parents house it was the one job that Mum always refused to do for Dad. His shirts, he ironed them. SHe did virtually everything else though. It was strange - like there's some label attached to this particular job. She certainly didn't mind cleaning shoes, and it's a similar thing if you ask me.

what Trills said up there ^^

I iron my husbands shirts, but when I worked and he was SAHD he ironed mine. Equality doesn't mean never doing anything that was once seen as 'women's work' in order to help your partner, you are a team however it works best for you and your family is right for you.

My solution to this problem was to marry a bricklayer. He doesn't need shirts ironing for work and does all the DIY. Bargain!

YABU and coming across as a bit of a dick looking for a bunfight.

I iron all our families clothes and do all the washing. And I work.

DH does all the food shopping and all the cooking and 50% of the childcare.

Doing the ironing does not mean marriage is shit, misogynistic or unfair.

It always surprises me that people judge other peoples marriages in this way. The irony that they are dictating what a marriage should be seems to pass them by.

Should a woman only do the jobs you deem ok op, would their marriage be acceptable then?

I iron my husbands shirts and I am sorry you are so shocked to hear this. I do not to this because I feel oppressed, I do it as one of the many things I do for him. he does loads of stuff for me.
Honestly, I wish some people would just get a life. Its comments like this that give feminists a bad name.
Oh and by the way you sound like a bit of a scuff tbh, for not ironing your own clothes.

I iron my husband's shirts. He cleans the bathrooms. I know which one I would rather do!

I hate ironing, refuse to do it, because my mum seemed to spend my whole childhood ironing and it looked so dull. Though oddly, she never minded doing it at all; she really resented cooking - which I love.

Everyone's mileage varies on their drudgiest chore.