to be shocked that in 2012 there are women who iron their dh shirts?

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Chatting with some other mums this afternoon it emerged that two of them iron their dh shirts. Not as s favour as they were ironing some of their own shirts, but because their dh expects it!

I admit, I seldom iron my own clothes, I choose ones that don't need ironing, or if its a shirt I'll do it for myself, I'd do dcs when they're older, but no way dh, he can and does do his own, he wears a shirt everyday so has a few...

Aibu to believe in this day and age men should be doing their own ironing and also their share of housework? do I live in a feminist bubble?

Oh, I do my DH's ironing. He cleans the toilets. He also does a whole load of other stuff including - shock, horror - check the oil and tyres on my car. I'm perfectly capable of doing those things myself but he's taken it upon himself to do them.

The thing is, it's a division of labour. It makes sense to specialise rather than have you both doing the same tasks. I don't feel that I work any harder than he does, or that the work I do is much drudgey than the stuff he does. It works for us.

Yep I iron the shirts. I'm rubbish at it but better than him. He does the kids lunches, cooks me dinner on a Saturday night, cleans bathrooms and earns all the dosh. He loves shopping so done all the Xmas shopping too. Actually I think I'd better start being nice to him!

YABU - as others have said there are a lot of jobs that need doing that keep a household running and personally I don't understand why it matters who does what. Like others have said I don't think there's a problem with someone expecting something from the other and under some circumstances getting annoyed if it didn't happen. Being in a relationship is a partnership and there will be things that need doing for each other and if they aren't done it can cause issues for the other person.

Feminism does my head in!!!

DH does all our ironing. About 80% of it is his, but he does mine whilst he's there. Have never seen ironing as a personal task, it's a household job. DH does a big batch in front of some crap on the TV.

If your DH has to iron frequently and you seldom need to, wouldn't it be more efficient for him to do yours?

I'm now allowed to iron DH's shirts- die hard ironing perfectionist he is thanks British Army! but i do it cause they're in the ironing pile, he'll iron his trousers because they're flipping awful to try and get perfect creates in.

Creases not creates. Silly me.

I do the ironing
I like it because you can sit down and watch the telly and get out of doing Sunday night bathtime if you do the ironing
Dh does the school run
I consider it fair trade

Also if I don't do it he leaves it until the eleventh hour and attempts to do it in the mornings
Which is a disaster

Whatever's in your "feminist bubble" I don't like it much.

I consider myself a feminist and would be happy to iron a man's shirts. Naturally I would expect him to do tasks I didn't particularly care for. That's the way normal couples work, surely?

Why reserve your ire for the shirt ironers, in particular? Why not the pack-up makers, the dinner-preparers, the washer-uppers?

It would be so weird if dh cooked his and the kids tea and not mine and said 'oh i find cooking a personal task'

I just don't think of jobs around the house that way.

YABU I enjoy ironing, I don't however enjoy DIY.

YABVU

I hate ironing and have never, so far as I remember, ironed one of DH's shirts. He doesn't iron them either, unless he's somewhere very smart or they're very creased. I don't see the issue with sharing jobs, though, so long as it is to do with what suits you rather than imposed expectations.

Not only do I iron DH's shirts, I also pair his socks and fold his pants. Hope you were sitting down for that revelation OP.

He cooks and I do laundry. I'd never trade, you can't save up a week's cooking and do it all in front of the TV.

YABU and daft.

I hate all this crap how you are a put upon little wifey if you iron your husband's shirts or make his packed lunch for him. What is wrong with doing something for your loved one because you have the time, because you want too do something nice or helpful or just because whatever.

I iron DH's shirts when ironing DC1, 2 and 3's uniforms as it is no bother and he always says thank you and appreciates it. He also does not mind if I don't fancy doing them.

DH irons my shirts . He also does the vast majority of the outside work , field maintenance , fence mending , log splitting , electric fence untangling , plumbing , and school pick ups . Because he's retired , and I am working a 72 hour week , every week if you include the travelling . I do the majority of the heavy laundry , the muck heap sculpting , floor cleaning, food shopping, menu planning , and general car maintenance .

Why ? Because we both do what we're best at . Yes I expect him to do my shirts , but then he expects me to work out what's for dinner . Because I can't iron , and he finds it difficult to plan a meal . Isn't working together to make each other's life a little easier , part of what makes a relationship work ?

If you only do things for yourself and not for your dh, how do you manage when it comes to sex?

YABU, I do DH shirts mainly because he works 50+ hours & I do 18, yes I'm at home with the DC the rest of the time but I have the opportunity to do them & don't mind. Whatever works for you is what I think.

It makes more economic sense for me to do all the ironing in one go, rather than heating he iron up for one or two items at a time. I do the family ironing, works if us.

Has the op been back? Genuine question.

I iron my DH's shirts. He pays the cleaner to do the housework and the other ironing. I do all the shopping and cooking and lots of other household stuff and most of the running around after the dc who are now teenagers. DH does the bins, the garden, the outside paintwork and works at least 15 hours a week more than me outside the home and I work fulltime.

Oh dear op!

All successful relationships and happy lives are about loving, supporting, caring, helping.

Sad thread really.

I don't iron anything so it's not really an issue in our house.

However, any time I've said on Mumsnet that I don't wash DH's clothes I've been met with outrage - how could a woman not wash a man's clothes??? I've been told my husband will leave me, my children are neglected , I don't love my husband etc etc. Plus no matter how many times I explain that the washing machine only ever goes on with a full load I am still told I must be wasting water electricity etc. The response is just bizarre - people absolutely will not accept that that's the way we do it and it works for us.

Laundry does often seem to be a woman's job, I'm not sure why.

All that said, if a woman did wash/iron her husband's clothes I would have absolutely no problem with it as long as she didn't feel resentful of the situation.

Yabu.
What's wrong with ironing your Dh's shirts?
My Dh works 50 hours a week and still finds time to spend with our children and help with other chores (without me asking or nagging him to). I think the least I can do is iron his shirts.
You only have the right to moan if you work more hours a week than him and he's a lazy so-and-so.
If you're ironing for your children, why on earth would you not iron for your Dh?