To think he should buy a new fucking engagement ring!?

[BlueSuedeStiletto]

I got a text from my ex fiance this morning saying:

"Hiya, this might sound a bit weird, but can I have the engagement ring back?? Think I may have found a new recipient!"

My face was like this .

I've not seen him for a while- since I picked the last of my stuff up- and have been distancing myself, but he didn't mention anything when I saw him. I asked him when we split if he wanted the ring back, and he said no.

Obviously I don't wear the ring, but it still means something. And what woman in their right mind would want a ring chosen by a man's ex and worn by her for nearly 3 years? I think that's pretty insulting for both of us. AIBU??

Say you'll give it back if he coughs up for the car bills you subbed him.

I'm just being nosy - what's it like?

I am now being subjected to a text rant about how I fucked him up by leaving and am responsible for his depression.

Cru tis this one, But I'm sure mine was about £780

In that case everyone who said he was just using this as an excuse to contact you was right.

Delete all texts and don't engage with him (no pun intended)

Sounds like he doesn't want the ring back, sounds like he wanted an excuse to contact you and tell you how he's found someone else he loves soooo much more in a hope it'd make you jealous and hurt, then he'd come and collect it from you all triumphant, getting to see you all curious about his new love and regretting letting him go. He's now pissed off that's not what happened.

Just ignore his texts and stop interacting with him.

He sound unhinged.

You need to cease all contact.

My ex asked for mine back during our divorce. checked with my lawyer and under Scots law as it was a gift prior to marriage it was legally mine. Any jewelry given during the marriage would have been joint matrimonial assets so would have had to be shared equally.

i promptly hid said ring with a family member before getting my will sorted so he would have no claim on it if i died before our divorce was finalised.

tight bastard probably wanted to give it to his ow! strangely my oh has no problem with me still having it.

If stone was nice, melt it and reset it. Only sell if need to.

Either way he can't ask for it back, tough titties!

How bizzare.
I can see why he is your EX.
btw did you go with him when he bought the ring? Or did he just present it to you?.......Just a thought.

God, he sounds unhinged!

Sell it. Quick.

I understand everyone who tells you to sell it, and there is no proper reason why you should give it back.

But there is something that tells me that you should return it just to close that door. He may not deserve it, I just think you might feel more content knowing there was nothing that linked you together, not even his perceived view of she has/he has issues.

I suppose I am saying do not give him any chance of even thinking he has any moral high ground.

I think you have to decide what you want more - the few quid from selling the ring - or him to have no reason to contact you about it!

I'd not keep it if it meant I was likely to have to deal with hassle from him.

It's just not worth it for the sake of a bit of cash.

Despite my previous comments I'd advise you to give up the ring if it means you get to cease all contact with this man.

I think I agree with posters telling me to send it back. I really don't want any reason for him to contact me again.

The conversation I had with him today was just plain weird- he doesn't even seem to know this woman very well, and he kept jumping around, beinf nasty then saying something nice and not really following the conversation at all. It was all a bit disturbing and I think I need to be well away from it!

I'll pop it in the post. Any ideas what to write in the accompanying card?

I prefer the idea of finding a cheap similar ring, would he really know that he had the right one back?

I wouldn't bother sending one.

'Here's the ring as requested. Wishing you all the best for the future.'

Done.

card, that is.

The classy thing to do is to give it back.

You know that.

Don't write anything if you decide to return it. Send it registered. Just so he can't deny receipt.

www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/2325381.htm

www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/2325817.htm This is the closest I think!

www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/2323307.htm

:o:o

Bogey that is a tempting idea. I think I like the 3rd one best though. Or, more to the point, I like the £16.99 price tag!

Ok I'm going to change my mind as he sounds a bit unhinged. Post it back by special delivery for insurance purposes and he can't try to engage you in further conversation by it "getting lost". If you must put a note in make it short with no emotion, here is the ring as requested.

Hmm, I wouldn't return it, but then that's me. grabby cow that I am

I also would just refuse to have any contact with him in the future.