To think he should buy a new fucking engagement ring!?

[BlueSuedeStiletto]

I got a text from my ex fiance this morning saying:

"Hiya, this might sound a bit weird, but can I have the engagement ring back?? Think I may have found a new recipient!"

My face was like this .

I've not seen him for a while- since I picked the last of my stuff up- and have been distancing myself, but he didn't mention anything when I saw him. I asked him when we split if he wanted the ring back, and he said no.

Obviously I don't wear the ring, but it still means something. And what woman in their right mind would want a ring chosen by a man's ex and worn by her for nearly 3 years? I think that's pretty insulting for both of us. AIBU??

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Ha! Ha! What an idiot! I would so not be impressed if my husband had given me an ex's ring!!
Don't give it back! I think it's disgraceful he has even asked! A gift is a gift!

Tell him you sold it, keep it if you really want it or get rid of it and buy something nice with it that you will really enjoy! :O)

I know it's a zombie thread, but having read 12 pages of comments before I realised, I'm now going to post an update for everyone:

1. Bluesuedeshoes and XP bought ring together
2. He ended it and insisted on her keeping the ring when she tried to give it back
3. 2 years later he asked for it back to propose to someone who was not even his girlfriend (and was someone else's)
4. Fourteen pages of discussion around moral and legal obligations of keeping vs giving back the ring
5. Conclusion that OP's XP just wanted to be a gloating twat
6. OP sold the ring on eBay, paid some bills and lived happily ever after

Until mumsnet sent it out in their daily bulletin.

Haha! I haven't managed to read through all the replies but I still have my engagement and wedding ring from my XH. I know he used his wedding ring again when he re-married last year and his wife wasn't very happy but it was a tungsten one so relatively cheap but extremely strong for his job as policeman then prison officer.
Tell him no, it's weird and why would his potential new fiancée want your engagement ring?

Legally the ring is your property.

Personally I would not want to keep such a symbolic gift from an ex-lover and would have returned it at the breakup.

He is exceedingly tacky to consider using it for another women.

Legally speaking, i believe it is yours. That said, I would simply text him and say he can pick it up whenever, and congratulate myself on my lucky escape.

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Very simple:
The Law Reform (Miscellaneous Provisions) Act 1970 provides the answer and it is actually relatively straight forward. This legislation states that:

The gift of an engagement ring shall be presumed to be an absolute gift; this presumption may be rebutted by proving that the ring was given on the condition, express or implied, that it should be returned if the marriage did not take place for any reason.

Basically, although it can seem unfair, this means that unless there was an agreement to return the engagement ring if the wedding was cancelled then the recipient is under no obligation to return the ring. The courts will generally say there was an implied intention that the ring would be returned if it had particular sentimental value to the person who proposed, for example if it was a family heirloom.

If I was proposed to with a ring that belonged to his ex fiancee I'd call time on the relationship. I'd be livid. Surely every woman deserves her own engagement ring. (Unless of course it's an old family heirloom or belonged to a mother or grandmother.) No one that belonged to an ex!!!! It's also proved to be unlucky so it would be a no no. Also as it's a gift, it's yours. Maybe ebay is calling sooner than you had planned.

Oh God!

Hallo everyone - as this is a zombie that keeps getting bumped, we're going to suspend posting indefinitely. Many thanks to those who flagged.