To think he should buy a new fucking engagement ring!?

[BlueSuedeStiletto]

I got a text from my ex fiance this morning saying:

"Hiya, this might sound a bit weird, but can I have the engagement ring back?? Think I may have found a new recipient!"

My face was like this .

I've not seen him for a while- since I picked the last of my stuff up- and have been distancing myself, but he didn't mention anything when I saw him. I asked him when we split if he wanted the ring back, and he said no.

Obviously I don't wear the ring, but it still means something. And what woman in their right mind would want a ring chosen by a man's ex and worn by her for nearly 3 years? I think that's pretty insulting for both of us. AIBU??

It had died yesterday until you bumped again though.

Although I really don't get the angst at old posts that keep popping up. Still interesting to read, still useful to other people reading

Tell him to go f**k himself. Sounds like you had a lucky escape. It was given in good faith (one hopes). You offered to give it back at the time. Its yours, sell it and do something nice with the money. Some guys !! xx All the best to you xx

If he didn't want the ring when you gave him the option, he can't come back and change his mind. He is out of order. Either he wants to give it to a new lady which is inappropriate or he's short on cash and wants to make a quick buck. Either way he got the option to take it back and he said no. I say stick to your guns. Alternatively if you want to make a compromise, sell the ring and give him half the money.

At the end of the day if you give a gift you have no legal right to ask for it back - it was a gift and an engagement ring counts as a gift.

I think it shows what sort of man he is that he wants a ring back to give to another woman, rather than buying a new one. You are well rid of him. But I don't know the legal position. Have you tried googling?

I gave mine back to a bad boyfriend years back, as I was so glad to see the back of him!

This is from Nelsons solicitors site:

The gift of an engagement ring shall be presumed to be an absolute gift; this presumption may be rebutted by proving that the ring was given on the condition, express or implied, that it should be returned if the marriage did not take place for any reason.

Basically, although it can seem unfair, this means that unless there was an agreement to return the engagement ring if the wedding was cancelled then the recipient is under no obligation to return the ring. The courts will generally say there was an implied intention that the ring would be returned if it had particular sentimental value to the person who proposed, for example if it was a family heirloom.

It is however possible to ask the court to adjudicate on the issue if you are not able to agree, although given the high costs of litigation this should always be the last resort.

Tell him not to be such a tight arse. I know it's not exactly the same, but I often wonder if Kate Middleton was p*d off being given Diana's ring. Fresh start = new ring.

If you give that ring back to him, I will personally go get it back for you. first, it is a gift. Second, regarding the contractual meaning of it, if you were wearing it for a week or two then broke up, I'd say you should return it. But you had it on your finger for three effing years! It is yours, and very lame of him to ask. If he insisted you take it when you broke up, it just means he doesn't feel like spending the cash on a new ring - why is that your problem?

Ignore the text and and don't give it back. This happened to a friend of mine- her ex was a class A ocean going knob jockey. I was angry on her behalf. He was a cheater too.

Omg zombie - someone pm her.

Tell him you sold it after you asked last time if he wanted it. What a nob.

What a catch and a cheapskate.

If he's that into this new woman then he'll pay for a new one.

Say sorry you've sold it.

I kept the necklace my ex gave me in case I wanted to sell it in the future- I don't wear it though and not sure where it is now!

ZOMBIE THREAD PEOPLE!!!

Tell him he might find it on eBay if he's fast enough.

Do the new woman a favour and don't give it back. Who wants a second had ring. Imagine her proudly showing it off and everyone cooing over it unless you unreasonably hate her guts Poor woman.

Saying youve already sold it gets you out of it nicely without causing grief.

I was always of the understanding that if you broke off the engagement you gave back the ring, if he did, you got to keep it and if a mutual decision, you agreed who had it at the time of the breakup. To come back now and ask for it is unreasonable if he had agreed you should keep it at the time. Who wants a second hand engagement ring anyway unless it's a family heirloom? 😕

SHE SOLD IT 4 YEARS AGO WHEN THIS THREAD WAS STARTED!!!!!!!

I didn't think we did swearwords in the fucking titles?

Extremely rude message to send, regardless of the reasons for break-up. I would be so offended if I found out my partner gave me a ring that he'd originally bought for someone else, and who had actually been wearing it!

Sell it. Then go on an amazing holiday.

who appointed you to the rank of mumsnet obersturmfurrer??

I did. Who appointed you to the rank of illiterate user of offensive nazi terminology? Assuming, of course, you meant Obersturmführer.

Anyone with an ounce of common sense can see that people are wasting their time answering the OP as if it is a current thread and that they are pissed off with it.

Thats outrageous! It was a gift. You wouldn't buy a man a watch and then ask for it back if you had a new boyfriend!
Id tell him you've lost it or given it to a charity shop.
Cheeky beggar!!

TBH I would tell him you have already sold it (how will he know any different?). I think its outrageously rude of him.

Text him back and say' Thnx for the text. Congratulations! Unfortunately sold the ring X mths ago. All the best!'

Job done ;-). Imagine asking him for a pair of pants back because you want to give them to someone else?

Oh and do sell it!

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