To think he should buy a new fucking engagement ring!?

[BlueSuedeStiletto]

I got a text from my ex fiance this morning saying:

"Hiya, this might sound a bit weird, but can I have the engagement ring back?? Think I may have found a new recipient!"

My face was like this .

I've not seen him for a while- since I picked the last of my stuff up- and have been distancing myself, but he didn't mention anything when I saw him. I asked him when we split if he wanted the ring back, and he said no.

Obviously I don't wear the ring, but it still means something. And what woman in their right mind would want a ring chosen by a man's ex and worn by her for nearly 3 years? I think that's pretty insulting for both of us. AIBU??

tell him its on ebay hes welcome to bid....

hahaha thread was made in 2012

molliver i think it was way to much money to spend on a ring. might sort of understand if it was actual wedding ring. still to much though well i think so. but engagement ring defo to much... can understand the money grabbing comment but they she could of hung about longer and took more but she did not. so shes a bit crap at it really

As an aside, what they do in Finland is buy a plain gold band for use engagement ring, then the sparkly diamond one is given on the wedding day. Shame your son isn't Finnish molliver

I noticed that too reni

molliver presumably your son is an adult. Why does he need you to get advice for him?

Ffs I read the whole bloody thread and it's a zombie! Grrrrrr

Molliver your sons presumably a grown up so you should just let him deal with it, your obviously very biased

molliver1 Post about it in legal, they should have soem advice.

Your son's situation is so far from the OPs you are missing the point. Her ex was a cock, insisted she keep the ring and then sent a message which was likely taunting 'look I've moved on'. She should have swallowed the ring and sent back a baggie three days later :)

Your son should see a solicitor and speak to the Police again, it is theft. Get advice in legal but I suggest your son gets some advice from a solicitor.

Zombie indeed.

Everybody should start and end their post with zombie so nobody else answers the op. OP might have married and started worrying about preschools or done a PhD in the meantime so won't need advice on an engagement ring from back then. OP's ex had time to get married and divorced even without the ring.

Zombie

In the US laws are a bit tricky. An engagement ring comes with the stipulation that you will be married. So if you don't get married then the stipulations aren't met and the ring is no longer yours.

But who gets to keep it depends on who broke off the marriage. If the woman backs out, it's his. If he backs out, it's hers because it's his fault the engagement failed.

I'm replying to the Judge Judy comment.

I know it's a zombie.

He was insane to spend £5k on an engagement ring.

Who gives someone an engagement ring without actually proposing?!

Weirdo.

Zombieeeee!!!!

Aaahhhhhhh

I think a) you had a lucky escape as he is either completely insensitive or just really horrible and b) he probably doesn't have a genuine "recipient" but either wants to make you jealous or wants to see if you are still interested in him (if you had got rid of the ring maybe he would have assumed you were not).

Just realised this is a zombie thread .

I'm less concerned with the keeping or returning issue than I am about the poor girl that he's planning to give it to!! I'd rather have a haribo ring than one he used to propose to someone else before!!

Zombie threads do have a warning when you go to post.

Unfortunately, I think that once enough new posts have been added to the thread, the zombie warning goes away.

I'miss new to this site but being asked if I want reanimate a zombie thread 😕

What an arse. Wonder if his new GF knows he thinks she's not worth a new engagement ring?

You don't. They are months or years old.

This is a zombie thread - this means that no one has posted on it for ages but it has come back to life. The OP posted in 2012, then it was revived in Oct 2015 & now Angel has brought it back again.

I know it's a zombie, but this might be useful to anyone in this sad situation:

This is UK law onl.

findlaw.co.uk/law/family/other_family_law_topics/who-gets-the-engagement-ring-if-a-relationship-fails.html