To think he should buy a new fucking engagement ring!?

[BlueSuedeStiletto]

I got a text from my ex fiance this morning saying:

"Hiya, this might sound a bit weird, but can I have the engagement ring back?? Think I may have found a new recipient!"

My face was like this .

I've not seen him for a while- since I picked the last of my stuff up- and have been distancing myself, but he didn't mention anything when I saw him. I asked him when we split if he wanted the ring back, and he said no.

Obviously I don't wear the ring, but it still means something. And what woman in their right mind would want a ring chosen by a man's ex and worn by her for nearly 3 years? I think that's pretty insulting for both of us. AIBU??

Is it an heirloom ring OP? If it's got special family meaning and belonged to his Great Grandmother or something, that would be a factor for me. Otherwise, no.

Sorry if you've mentioned that - I did read the thread quickly!

Oh. X posted with someone screeching Zombie Thread at me.

This thread is 3 1/2 years old.

Why would you want keep a ring from a ex, I would of given it back at the break up.
If dh had given me a ring some one else had chosen would I of worn it? No probably not

Are people really still not understanding this is a zombie thread from 2012

I'm loving all the people advising the OP to 'text him back and say ...'

He's probably on his 3rd wife/9th engagement ring by now.

3rd potential wife and same engagement ring is more likely :)

I wouldn't want to wear someone else's engagement ring. Tell him not to be tight and buy a new one.
My exh was married before me. When they met she had just cancelled her wedding to another man. When they decided to get married (quite soon after meeting) my exh had the engagement ring off her ex re-set slightly and gave her it. He gave her her own engagement ring from another man back!! . They then went on to marry using most of the stuff from her cancelled wedding that her ex had bought. Wedding dress, bridesmaids dresses. Even table centre decorations. Basically she had the wedding, just swapped the groom! . I should have run a mile when I heard this but love is blind!

Let's move on to all the lovely NEW, threads. Let this one die.

Tell him no for his own sake. Mate of mine did something similar and when fiancée No 2 found out the ring had a previous owner she went apeshit. He had to get her a new one. Keep the ring and make everyone happy.

You say you don't keep it for sentimental value, but in your op you say it still means something...

I'd say congratulations but you bought the ring for me as a gift and leave it at that.

I remember this thread from the first time round.

I absolutely wish OP would come back and give us an update, 4 years later!

Haha me too Captain
Was reading thinking "bloody hell, not another woman who can't let go!" (Sorry, it was all the analysing the messages etc), when I read a post, agreed with it so much before reading it was me with a Previous name!
I really need to quit MN...

Why Paris. I'm pretty sure her update on Tue 27-Nov-12 20:53:50 covered it nicely.

Funny to see so many people not reading a thread! Don't even need to read every post, but maybe make the effort to at least read the OPs updates from four years ago

Soupdragon

If you want to discuss the rights and wrongs of keeping an engagement ring, start a new thread that doesn't make people waste their time spouting nonsense whilst trying to help an OP who doesn't need it ,

who appointed you to the rank of mumsnet obersturmfurrer??

People are arseholes if the post on a thread without noticing the updates 300 posts in.. people aresholes if they only read the last couple posts and not the whole thread.

People who happen to notice it's a zombie are ultra clever.

Got it.

Not your problem. Wish him well, tell him to come and pick it up, it's his ring

Like bollocks it is! It's OP's ring, he gave it to her. It's not a loaner, its a gift.

Tell him to fuck off and buy the poor cow a new ring, cheapskate.

Ah fuck off, who dug up a zombie thread?

tell him you'll sell it to him but only if you get to take the potential new wife shopping and get her ring size measured ;) Jewellery often has a story after all :D
When he declines sell it

Sell it its yours

MNHQ, THIS ZOMBIE THREAD MADE IT INTO TODAY'S 'MOST VIEWED' EMAIL. YOU MIGHT LIKE TO LOOK INTO THAT.

If you caused the split with the ex I'd give it back. If you don't need the money I'd give it back. Are you sure you were the first recipient anyway?

MissTurnstiles well spotted - I wonder what she did with the ring all those years ago. 2012