To take a job on a phone sex line?

[myphonesexdrama]

Name changer.

I'm skint, on my own with dd who is at school but has a lot of health issues, misses school sometimes and has a lot of appointments to go to.

Finding work to fit in with this is proving bloody hard, I'm not highly qualified!

So I've been browsing work at home things after realising Avon and all that guff isn't for me I came across a company looking for female phone sex chat line operators. Big company, done a lot of googling research and they are legit.

So called them, filled out my application and was offered a start. So logged on last night at 10pm for 3 hours. It was fine. Most of the guys were really nice, some shy, some not, none were creepy! I am an open minded person anyway, and very chatty. I found it very easy to be honest and in those 3 hours I made £12.80 which isn't mega bucks but considering I was sitting in my lounge watching a movie between calls I don't think it's too bad.

I'm thinking I can log on whilst dd is at school and bring in some extra cash.

Will need to register as self employed etc which I will do.

I need to get in touch with them today to let them know what I want to do.

I don't think I could tell anyone though!!

I do think it's seedy. Doesn't mean I'd judge someone for doing it. We all have to make ends meet and you don't know someone else's situation.

Well saying it is seedy is about as much bad as I've said about it! Oh, and saying I wouldn't do it because it would make ME feel 'yuk'. So how have I judged anyone differently to you admitting you think it's seedy???

Some people are okay with it, I'm not...so how is that being any more judgemental than you?

I'm not 'on a recruitment drive'. I am not the manager of any phone/text company, nor am I actually working for any of them at present.

But when I did do it, most of the people who knew me knew I was doing it. They were cool with it. I didn't discuss it with DS because he is only 8 years old now, was younger then, and didn't know how babies are made, let alone what BDSM is.

Oh and I do find it a particular stupidity-indicator that people claim to have 'morals' when what they mean is 'dislike of other people's sexual choices and a rather keen interest in stopping them doing whatever they want to do.'

I find it a particular 'stupidity-indicator' when someone assumes people with morals are assumed to have no sex drive.

I'm sure your son will be very proud of you when you tell him.

How much sex drive you have is your lookout. But if you get your kicks more from condeming other people's sexual choices than engaging in what sex you do engage in, then you could be a tiny bit dysfunctional, or in denial about something...

I wouldn't necessarily tell my son, any more than most people tell their DC the specific type of sex that they get up to. But if I did tell him then I would imagine he'd take it like most people (well, most of the sort of people I care to share airspace with) mild interest and some amusement.

I get no more kicks from trying to make people think twice about decisions they might regret later than you do about sending them in single file to the recruitment office!

You want them all to do it to normalise your time on the job, and I want people not to do it, because I feel some of them would regret it.

We are coming from both ends of the scale, and are hopefully giving a balanced arguement. You and I will never agree on this in a million years, so shall we stop insulting each other and move on?

Just because people are deeply concerned about the sex industry and feel this is not a good job choice doesn't mean they are sexually repressed SGB.

That is, as I'm sure an intelligent woman like yourself really knows, the biggest load of bullshit ever.

As I said upthread when I ask myself 'would I be happy for my daughter to do this?' and my answer is 'hell no - I would be worried about her emotional wellbeing, self esteem and view of men afterwards' then I have my answer.

I agree proudnscary, I'm not sublimating my own desires or anything complicated like that... but I don't like to see individual women do something that damages all women indirectly. Women too often conform to a MALE view of female sexuality. That's what I hate. I hate the sex industry because we all end up overlooked at work, objectified, groped, taken less seriously, valued by our looks etc. etc... that is a totally different issue from having a low sex drive.

I HATE cleaning!!! DP and I have high standards (bloody MIL and my DM's influences there!) and we both just get so frustrated with it all... So much so that I am desperately trying to afford a lovely person to come and clean our home. I think that being the woman on the end of a phone would be BRILLIANT way to solve this you're genius!!!

Ribena - I'm sure if you explain to your MIL and your DM what you would be willing to do to earn the money to pay a cleaner, they might expect less of you on the cleaning front...

How about cleaning whilst sex lining? Double whammy !

Or maybe they wouldn't seenenoughtoknow

Is this a personal crusade for you or something?

What's it to you if it is Amberleaf? Am I not allowed to have an opinion that is different to yours? I'm assuming you are very hard to live with.

And if Ribena DOES tell her DM and MIL, I'd be very interested to hear what they think.

You are allowed an opinion as much as the next person! just letting you know that you're coming across a little obsessive about it that's all.

You're assuming a lot aren't you?

surely nobody really believes this doesn't affect anybody or anything outside the immediately obvious?

I think trying to stop me voicing my opinion time and again is a little obsessive of YOU Amberleaf. You jumped on me from the first comment and have stalked me since - whereas I have just voiced an opinion where and when I felt I had something to say, and not to anyone in particular time and time again.

You need to have a closer look at yourself Amberleaf.

Julia - I believe, as part of the sex industry, (and like every other part of the sex industry) it plays it's part in ensuring women are objectified, and women will never be on an equal footing with men, and that women will forever be seen as something men can buy for a sexual experience if they can't be bothered with the more morally accepted approach of talking to and dating a woman.

It doesn't paint a healthy picture of our future.

I jumped on you oh dear, are you serious?!

You had posted twice right before my first post, yet as soon as I did you responded saying how you felt sorry for me if that was the only way I could make money.

I don't need to take a closer look at myself thanks and your posts really do speak for themselves.

Phone sex with strangers. Right. Wouldn't do it for any money. Find it hard to believe that anyone wouldn't regret doing this eventually. So sordid. Just my opinion. The sex industry is abusive and mysogenistic.

toomanydaisies I've done it. I don't regret it. I hadn't even thought about having done it for years.

nope, no regrets here. except perhaps that i didn't do more. it wasn't difficult, it wasn't unpleasant. it wasn't personal.

Amberleaf - you responded to my post with your ''forgive me for' sarcasm.

You get back what you give out.

seenenoughtoknow just had a chat with my DM she laughed. Thinks it's hilarious to make money from men like that but totally not for her (she is a lot more shy and a lot less liberated than I am!) However asks how I'm planning on fitting it in to my already packed days may have to quit mnetting!

MIL has always been incredibly supportive. I luff her very much. I'll let you know her reaction if I manage to pursue this further! I'm wondering if I stop sleeping if I can work a graveyard shift!!!

seenenoughtoknow I appreciate your strong and uncompromising opinion but I'm intrigued, what exactly have you seen enough of to know?