To take a job on a phone sex line?

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Name changer.

I'm skint, on my own with dd who is at school but has a lot of health issues, misses school sometimes and has a lot of appointments to go to.

Finding work to fit in with this is proving bloody hard, I'm not highly qualified!

So I've been browsing work at home things after realising Avon and all that guff isn't for me I came across a company looking for female phone sex chat line operators. Big company, done a lot of googling research and they are legit.

So called them, filled out my application and was offered a start. So logged on last night at 10pm for 3 hours. It was fine. Most of the guys were really nice, some shy, some not, none were creepy! I am an open minded person anyway, and very chatty. I found it very easy to be honest and in those 3 hours I made £12.80 which isn't mega bucks but considering I was sitting in my lounge watching a movie between calls I don't think it's too bad.

I'm thinking I can log on whilst dd is at school and bring in some extra cash.

Will need to register as self employed etc which I will do.

I need to get in touch with them today to let them know what I want to do.

I don't think I could tell anyone though!!

Amberleaf - That's what the thread is about if you read back. The op has described what she does and what the men do. I didn't say you were doing it, I saw that you were 'going to look into it'.

The fact that men wank over the phone calls makes it a part of the sex industry.

Lovebunny, I'm afraid I would feel 'yuk' about it, and when I tell my grandkids what I had to do during the most difficult and resourceful times of my life, it won't ever involve having been a part of the sex industry.

I just hope a few others jumping on the bandwagon here look a little further into their futures and think twice about it.

Amberleaf - my friend has only just had her benefits renewed. If your child is autistic then the benefit will be there.

If my child is autistic? there is no if

You post did imply that I was doing it as you wrote in the present tense.

I am fully aware of the benefit situation and I get everything I and my child are entitled to.

Things are changing though.

Are things changing just for you? They're not changing for my friend. You're very highly strung Amber. I wasn't meaning to be offensive. Go and do it then - it seems your mind is made up anyway...I get the impression you just came on here for an argument, not to hear two different opinions on one topic.

I wouldn't judge anyone else but my yard stick for anything like this is 'Would I want my daughter to do that when she's older?' Would I say 'hey, it's legitimate, it's your life, go for it'.

Truthfully and definitely - no.

I would be worried she'd feel demeaned afterwards and I want more for her than talking dirty to a stranger. Yes I realise people do what they can to make ends meet but I'm being honest and it feels like a risky, dangerous path to tread.

Ok you seem to be the expert on welfare reform! being that it is highly relevant to me im kind of abreast of what is being planned, but hey you know best!

Im not at all highly strung, im amazingly chilled

Why did you post on this thread, other than to be condescending?

Amberleaf - So that some of the people on here thinking about taking this line of 'work' up would have a differing opinion to the many recommending it as a good 'job'.

I would hope they would think twice.

Proudnscary - I agree completely.

I've toyed with this, ive not really got round to it because obviously you make most of your money in the evenings and i don't really feel comfortable doing this in front of DP. He has said he doesn't mind and doesn't see anything wrong in it, but i know he would laugh his socks off in the background if i were having to oooh and aaah on the phone to some poor sod getting wrist ache.

seen you are being very judgemental. You can object to things without judging the people who do them.

kim147 I do have a problem with lap dancing, chatlines etc. I would never judge the women who do it, any more than I would judge a woman for wearing heels.

Lovebunny, I'm afraid I would feel 'yuk' about it, and when I tell my grandkids what I had to do during the most difficult and resourceful times of my life, it won't ever involve having been a part of the sex industry.
heyho! well, my grandaughter is likely to know that her grandma had a wide range of life experience!

People are saying that the women who do this are doing this because they are so poor they will do anything for money?? Really? £4 an hour? I earn more cleaning, but i'd do it, because i think - please get your pearls ready to clutch - i'd enjoy it and be really good at it. I would probably not tell people about it because i know how judgemental people can be - heavens, i even have had people at DDs school make a cats bum face because i have told them i have taken on a cleaning job, they would die if i told them i worked ona wank line - it might be worth it to see the look on their faces

I would do it, if I could earn money in my pjs, at times to suit me. No travelling into work. However DH would hate it. Pity.

Why are you so angry and defensive Lucy?

I know you are probably not talking to me - but I said I did not judge people that do this. However I would be very concerned if my dd decided to this as you simply don't know how you'd feel afterwards. You might feel demeaned and depressed and used. You might not. But it's a risk.

If people at DD's school make a face at you for cleaning then they are fucking arseholes btw.

Not angry, not defensive, not said anyone has judged anyone on this thread.

I can honestly say that i woudlnt feel bad about myself after doing this. Why would i?

Ok, good. I thought your last post was quite angry so was asking a genuine question. If playground mums are cats bumming you then do remember they are complete and utter knobbers.

Re 'I can honestly say that I woulnd't feel bad about myself' you haven't done it so you don't know. Theory vs actually talking to panting, wanking man who may or may not say things you really don't want to hear is surely very different.

I'd love to do the domination stuff

lucyellenmum have you ever been a cleaner? I've been a cleaner. I can't say "enjoy" is the word I'd use to describe my feelings towards it.

Lucy is a cleaner at the moment, FromEsme

i wasn't poor as such but i did need extra money. it was something that did fit in with my everyday life, in theory. i'm happy talking to people - i turn up here, don't i? talking sex is not the same as doing it - it doesn't impinge on me as a person. just like the abuse i get on mn doesn't affect my opinion of myself.

FromEsme - I am a cleaner! And despite thinking i'd hate it and be crap at it, i actually really enjoy it. I only do two hours a day though and i could NOT do it all day long, id keel over

proud I could take that as a challenge

Whatever floats your boat.

As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult then I don't see the harm.

You will probably get bored/creeped out by it though.

No different to writing erotic fiction IMO.

I think the ones who are being so very judgemental about it are probably a bit sexually limited and think the penis is somehow yucky.

WOuld you be happy and proud if your DC were working for the collections department of a payday loan company?

Ah, I see, I misread your post lucyellen .

My point stands. I wouldn't enjoy cleaning, you wouldn't enjoy sex texting. Shrug.

I'm very happy to discuss the feminist points raised by this kind of work, but just going "it's GROSS and DEGRADING" is very judgemental.

Solid gold - we've already seen you're on a recruitment drive so we know your motives.

And no, I wouldn't be proud if my dc's were working at the collections department of a payday loans company - that's not what I'd call an honest living.

I love the way that people like you think that just because I have morals, that I'm a prude. What a terribly unimaginative attempt at an arguement! Oh, and very wrong by the way ;)

If I am offending any of you by being judgmental, it is because I think it is such a seedy way to make a living - so I guess I am judging it...but it is just MY opinion. So why should that bother so many of you when you are obviously in the majority here. If you DON'T think it's seedy, then I'd be interested to hear how your friends and family have taken the news of you doing it as a job (those of you who do) - I don't mean your dp's or dh's, I mean your parents, and children, and friends at the school gates.