...to be angry & upset with parents for considering going to see sister in Oz?

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Sister emigrated to Oz with her family at the end of August and have had many a rant about that with Dh, knowing what they ar elike and also discussed with mum at length. Now my parents are considering (and with great probability will go at the beginning of DEc and spend Xmas over there with them. I have my own family(Dh, 2dc and my in laws will be coming for lunch on the day and had assumed my parents would be there too. My Dsister has always relied on my mum for childcare and support while living over here and now they are hot footing it over there. My Dh says I should remind them that they have another daughter and 2 more grandchildren too. HAve waves of feeling selfish and then waves of feeling very emotional nd angry that they will be going over there when they haven't even been gone 6months yet! My mparents will be back in time ofr my birthday and my kids, bu twould still be bitterly disappointed they weren't here.

Yabu.

I think if I had the opportunity to go over to Oz for Christmas I'd take it.

So because your sister emigrated, she should never see your parents again??? YABU they are her daughter too surely you are used to sharing your parents?

I can see why your dissapointed but they presumably get to see you and your children much more now than they do your other sister.

They can't be in two places at once so either way someone will be upset

Well why shouldn't they go?

If they weren't going then you're sister would be in the same position you're complaining about. How old are you?

So you get to see them most of the year and your sister gets them for a few weeks over Xmas?

Don't see the problem tbh.

I'm not sure I totally follow.

Are you really angry and upset because your parents want to see your sister? That seems odd.

Ummm, yes, I think you are being a bit unreasonable. It is natural that you should want to see your parents at Xmas - but - you can see them as often as you like (within reason), your sister, in Australia cannot.

Also, after 6 months of separation, I expect your parents are seriously missing your daughter and their grandchildren.

and your sister wouldn't be 'bitterly disappointed' if her parents didn't celebrate their first Christmas with them in their new country?

Really? Yabu

Sorry but you really need to grow up and get over yourself.

Your parents do indeed have another daughter and they're going to visit her over Christmas whilst their other daughter has a DH and inlaws to spend Christmas with.

What exactly is your problem?

if they are only going for a visit then YABU. They havent seen their daughter and other grandkids for nearly 6 months whereas I assume they have seen you and your family several times over that period of time

Sorry, your sister

Why should they see you and not your sister?? I mean that in the nicest way, but you are both their children, why should you get preference?

Yabu and sound like a bit of a brat

I can't understand at all why your parents holiday plans would be any sort of issue for you.

My parents would love to have their children living in beautiful places around the world, and being able to experience another country through their eyes. And if we lived abroad we'd love to provide them with that opportunity (practically free holiday - yay!).

You sound jealous and very unreasonable.

I'd imagine your parents might just fancy the idea of a holiday too?

Actually, is this a reverse? That makes more sense. Are you the sister in Oz?

REverse IABU? Reckin this is the Oz-based sister canvassing opinions as to whether her UK sibling is BU for sulking that parents will be in Sydney for Xmas.

yabtotallyu.

Unfortunately, yabu. It's perfectly understandable that they want to see their daughter and her family in their new home - obviously to spend time with them, but also to get a sense of their new life. Christmas is the best time to go to Australia - they'd be crazy not to.

It sounds like you're pissed off with your sister for various reasons ie emigrating, using her parents for childcare and this has brought these to a head.

I hate the attitude that choosing to emigrate means you must be punished for "leaving everyone behind".

Your parents want to see their daughter and Grandchildren who they haven't seen for a few months and probably won't get to see for several more moths afterwards.

You have a problem with this why?

What a horrible jealous person you sound.

I wouldn't say anything to your parents because you will be putting them in an unwinable situation and will ruin their Christmas. Also they may just not bother coming back if you continue with this attitude!

Haha! Xpost Sassy

And your DH sounds like a stirer. Is he jealous too?