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AIBU?

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...to be angry & upset with parents for considering going to see sister in Oz?

201 replies

flowerfairy · 28/10/2012 11:38

Sister emigrated to Oz with her family at the end of August and have had many a rant about that with Dh, knowing what they ar elike and also discussed with mum at length. Now my parents are considering (and with great probability will go at the beginning of DEc and spend Xmas over there with them. I have my own family(Dh, 2dc and my in laws will be coming for lunch on the day and had assumed my parents would be there too. My Dsister has always relied on my mum for childcare and support while living over here and now they are hot footing it over there. My Dh says I should remind them that they have another daughter and 2 more grandchildren too. HAve waves of feeling selfish and then waves of feeling very emotional nd angry that they will be going over there when they haven't even been gone 6months yet! My mparents will be back in time ofr my birthday and my kids, bu twould still be bitterly disappointed they weren't hereSad.

OP posts:
ThatBloodyKnid · 28/10/2012 11:45

YABU. Though I suspect there is more to this?

wilkos · 28/10/2012 11:45

so who set it in stone that your parents MUST spend Christmas with you?

your parents are entitled to go and see your sister without you having a strop about it. grow up.

pigletmania · 28/10/2012 11:45

Yabvvvu and selfish. Do you know how childish you sound

toxtethogrady · 28/10/2012 11:46

yabu, gobsmackingly selfish of you (if you're not the one in oz). clearly the issue is btween you and yr sister. dont drag your parents into it.

MrsKeithRichards · 28/10/2012 11:46

Yabu!

Dh's brother lives a days flying away. I feel for my pil's as they miss him and spend every holiday flying out to see him at great expense and meaning they don't get the cruises and fab holidays they used to. It must be so difficult having one of your children on the other side of the world.

I dread one of my ds's deciding to do this!

ThatBloodyKnid · 28/10/2012 11:46

have had many a rant about that with Dh, knowing what they ar elike and also discussed with mum at length

^
What do you mean by this? 'what they are like'?

HoldMeCloserTonyDanza · 28/10/2012 11:47

Oh if this is the Aussie DSis maybe your DSis is jealous/sad she can't afford to see you?

Or maybe she is just very childish and can't imagine not seeing her parents at Xmas as she has done every year. If so, SIBU, just ignore her, she'll get over it.

AgentProvocateur · 28/10/2012 11:48

I don't believe this is real, because I don't think that any adult could be so selfish and childish. If it is real, and not a reverse AIBU, then, yes - YABVVVVVU

sashh · 28/10/2012 11:49

YABU.

How old are your parents?

I'm assuming they are in good health and not frail, they won't always be, this is a fantastic trip let them enjoy it.

There will be many more Christmases and birthdays they only see yo and your family.

treas · 28/10/2012 11:49

YABU - your parents have got an opportunity of a lifetime and you are placing your own feelings over theirs.

If I were your parents I'd stay out there and enjoy the experience for as long as feasibly possible. In fact if it were my parents I'd actively encourage them.

Marzipanface · 28/10/2012 11:50

Eh?

You can see them anytime? Why can't your sister see them this Christmas? Is there more to this than you are letting us know?

pinkyredrose · 28/10/2012 11:50

OP do you actually like your sister?

Unacceptable · 28/10/2012 11:51

YADBU
Why on earth are you upset that your parents want to visit your sister.
This sounds like serious sibling rivalry that you need to sort out.
How old are you? Have you always been jealous of your sister?

BalloonSlayer · 28/10/2012 11:51

Well Christmas in Australia isn't very Christmassy (by UK standards) and it costs a fortune to travel then so they probably won't do it very often.

MaryZcary · 28/10/2012 11:55

YABU and selfish, sorry.

I presume your parents have seen your children in the last 6 months? Have you considered that Christmas will be difficult for your sister, being the first one away from home?

You are coming across as feeling very entitled.

CPtart · 28/10/2012 11:55

You sound very spoilt tbh.

littlemisssarcastic · 28/10/2012 11:57

So you want your DH, your 2 DC, your inlaws and your parents over to your house for Christmas lunch, while your sister has whom with her?

Have you expressed your feelings to your parents wrt them going?

littlemisssarcastic · 28/10/2012 11:57

So you want your DH, your 2 DC, your inlaws and your parents over to your house for Christmas lunch, while your sister has whom with her?

Have you expressed your feelings to your parents wrt them going?

littlemisssarcastic · 28/10/2012 11:58

So you want your DH, your 2 DC, your inlaws and your parents over to your house for Christmas lunch, while your sister has whom with her?

Have you expressed your feelings to your parents wrt them going?

missymoomoomee · 28/10/2012 11:58

YANBU of course your parents life should revolve around you and your needs, if your sister has the downright nerve to move away and start a new life then she no longer deserves to have her parents visit her. [hhmm]

littlemisssarcastic · 28/10/2012 11:59

So you want your DH, your 2 DC, your inlaws and your parents over to your house for Christmas lunch, while your sister has whom with her?

Have you expressed your feelings to your parents wrt them going?

littlemisssarcastic · 28/10/2012 11:59

So you want your DH, your 2 DC, your inlaws and your parents over to your house for Christmas lunch, while your sister has whom with her?

Have you expressed your feelings to your parents wrt them going?

littlemisssarcastic · 28/10/2012 11:59

So you want your DH, your 2 DC, your inlaws and your parents over to your house for Christmas lunch, while your sister has whom with her?

Have you expressed your feelings to your parents wrt them going?

littlemisssarcastic · 28/10/2012 12:00

So you want your DH, your 2 DC, your inlaws and your parents over to your house for Christmas lunch, while your sister has whom with her?

Have you expressed your feelings to your parents wrt them going?

diddl · 28/10/2012 12:01

You & your husband both sound pathetic & immature.

HTH.