...to be angry & upset with parents for considering going to see sister in Oz?

[flowerfairy]

Sister emigrated to Oz with her family at the end of August and have had many a rant about that with Dh, knowing what they ar elike and also discussed with mum at length. Now my parents are considering (and with great probability will go at the beginning of DEc and spend Xmas over there with them. I have my own family(Dh, 2dc and my in laws will be coming for lunch on the day and had assumed my parents would be there too. My Dsister has always relied on my mum for childcare and support while living over here and now they are hot footing it over there. My Dh says I should remind them that they have another daughter and 2 more grandchildren too. HAve waves of feeling selfish and then waves of feeling very emotional nd angry that they will be going over there when they haven't even been gone 6months yet! My mparents will be back in time ofr my birthday and my kids, bu twould still be bitterly disappointed they weren't here.

This has to be a reverse AIBU no?

If not, when you remind your parents they have two daughters, I hope they tell you to fuck right off and stop being a selfish little girl.

Oh for gods sake - GROW UP!!

for some reason this thread has made me really angry!!

My grandparents had 7 children - 2 went to Oz and one to Canada. Are you really suggesting that they should never of gone out there just in case it upset one of the others.

If they had gone out and spent last Christmas with them then I could kind of seen your point of view but they didn't.

Sibling rivaly at its worse

You have your parents ALL year.

Christmas is one day. Or a couple of weeks.

Yabu.

Itchy trigger finger littlemiss? [hgrin]
YABVVVU. And selfish
HTH

Oh grow up! You sound bitter and jealous.

YABU and selfish.

So is it that your sister gets all the attention/help & when she emigrated you thought that you´d have your parents all to yourself?

But no, they still love her & want to see her?

how dare they

Grow up, you sound horrible.

Actually, different countries involved but... Are you my brother and SIL? This is exactly what they're like!! My mum had to promise my brother she'd never visit me unless he was away on holiday himself, when I first moved away.

I don't understand. Your parents want to see their daughter and are travelling in order to do so? What's the problem?

I have a constant 'score keeping' adult DD, whom l dread even telling l am going to see her brother and my 'other' DGCs. It is not one of her finer traits, jealousy tbh.

YABU and no doubt this persecution complex and sibling rivalry is extremely wearing for your poor parents - take it from me.

Tell you what will happen. This could become self prophesying. Your parents could well end up preferring to spend time with your sister without all the repurcussions etc.

There must be more to this than we've been told. OP, come back! Why is it an issue for you? Do you live near your parents and see them often? What have family relationships been like up to now? Why does it make you angry that your parents are thinking of visiting your sister?

So often in threads about families, people's comments reflect an assumption that everyone lives in families with simple, un-dysfunctional relationships. But there could be all sorts going on here that we just don't know about. I'd like to know more (nosy) before deciding whether or not YABU.

My God, how old are you OP?

On the basis of the op alone you sound like your being really selfish.

You will have in laws and your own ps all year round.

The DSis can't have been that reliant on your parents' help if she decided to move to the other side of the world from them.

Sorry for multiple posts.
Am on phone and have no idea why that happened.

OP? Are you still reading this thread?

op, you sound terribly terribly selfish

I pity you

so your in laws will be with you Xmas day

and if your parents dont go your sister and her family will have no one

is this what you want, for your sister to be unhappy?

no wonder she emigrated

I can understand you being disappointed that your parents won't be around for Christmas, but It will be lovely for them to spend it in Oz.

Have you got issues about the way they treat you and your sister? Do you think they prefer her to you?

I'm confused that you expected both your parents and your dh's parents to be at your house for christmas. Families are not made up of a central person around which everyone else revolves. I would never have imagined having both my parents and my in laws at my house.

Yabu. Why not go with them?

"So often in threads about families, people's comments reflect an assumption that everyone lives in families with simple, un-dysfunctional relationships."

Can only comment on what has been posted!

Yabu. Why wouldn't they want to visit one of their children and have a nice holiday? You're lucky that both your parents are alive, and presumably , well and you have them close by most of the time, except when they dare to take a holiday. You have your own family, it's not as if they're leaving you to spend Chriatmas alone.

Yabu, sorry but you do sound very much like you think the world revolves around you. Your parents can see you and your kids all the time.

Sorry for multiple posts.
Am on phone and have no idea why that happened.

OP? Are you still reading this thread?

Come back OP and explain a bit more, or you will just get pages and pages of bashing. [hgrin]