worried about social services

[mysecretworld]

i have heard in the news alot of bad press about childrens social services. can any social workers in here put my mind at rest and tell me what the reasons are for removing a child ?

You're worried because you've heard it in the news or because you currently have involvement with them? It's a big subject and I think you'll have to be a bit more specific.

I had an old baked bean under my.microwave. :( wasn't even mine.

The main reason for removing a child is evidence of actual or risk of significant harm. This is the law. The definition of significant harm is deliberately vague but is generally neglect, sexual, physical and or emotional abuse.
I'm a SW. You can ask questions if you want I don't mind

Your very loose OP says hardly anything about the bits of the huge decisions taken ever day you'd like to discuss, it's almost like an invitation to have a go at social workers.

It was planted there by the SW. Bastards.

I was reported to SS by someone I had fallen out with. They had a chat with my HV, they came round and had a chat with me, my DP and my DD1. Then they left and wrote to me to confirm they had no concerns. Nothing to be scared of imo!

I find it interesting that the OP is called Secret World and the second poster is badgers bottom. Not far from where I live is what was a farm and now rescues badgers as well called Secret world.

DD2 doesn't have a bed.

I know thats one of those big red flags.

However. She smashed up and broke 2 beds in 3 years and I'm too skint to keep replacing them.

my daughter had a little boy 6 months ago but before he was born there was 3 domestic incidents where the police were called. when he was born she left his dad and went into a mother and baby home for protection from him but 2 weeks ago he was taken by ss because of the dv reports. but she has not been with the father for 5 and a half months. i cant understand why they took him as she has had no contact with his dad. we need help ......

i have come on here for help as both me and my daughter are doing everything we have been asked to do by ss but we dont seam to be getting anywhere. my daughter has supervised contact for a hour 3 times a week and i can only see him supervised once a week for a hour. its breaking our hearts as we have done nothing wrong

Me too sole.

ghost - I love badgers and anywhere that rescues them is good with me!

If that is your situation why not mention it in your OP? Drip feeding makes people suspicious.

Have you specifically asked them what needs to happen before the situation can move forward mysecret?

It sounds a difficult thing to deal with.

i knew coming on here was a bad idea as no one wants to help us as everyone believes if ss take a child its for the right reasons. well my grandson was took and his mum did nothing wrong she did everything she could to protect her son from his father who has anger issues.

Its not a bad idea you just need to give clear and precise information on what happened, what proceeded the event and what was said at the time

Is there anything at all your daughter might not be telling you?

I've had a lot of contact with SS through teaching, and it has convinced me that with all the procedures they have to go through, children are only removed when there is compelling evidence that it is the best thing for them.

I hope you and your daughter are able to work with SS, and they with you to get the best outcome for the little one.

That is so far removed from my experience of them.

Secret World link.

OP, What did the court say when it made the order to take your granchild into care? You need to see the reasons given, get legal advice, and work with social services to understand the way forward.

did the child's father ever have unsupervised contact?

did your daughter have a solicitor or advocate?

what things did she do to try to reassure SS that she did everything she could to protect her son from his father?

did she comply with SS requests?

Children are not removed without many many attempts to rectify the situation first; I do wonder if your daughter was totally honest with you

Nobody presumes social services are always right, if anything I think it's the opposite and they have to justify intervening just as much as not intervening.

Posting in AIBU when it's such a sensitive and painful situation is a common mistake to make, it's unusual if you thought it may have not been a good idea, what changed your mind?

i cant be considered as a carer as i am in a wheelchair and they say i am not suitable. my daughter has not kept anything from me. she was in a mother and baby unit so that she was safe from his dad as he could not find her when she was there. my grandson has never had any injuries or anything, he was clean, well fed and ans looked after by my daughter.

i feel helpless cause all she does when she is not with her son is cry.

yes we have a solicitor and he even said that in all the paperwork he has got from ss he doesnt see any reasons for ss taking him from my daughter.

any advice would be much apreciated.

What does the court order actually say?