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...to be beside myself with pride over this?

398 replies

trumpeter · 08/09/2012 17:03

Had to share, I'm prob being very pfb but I have been bowled over by dd today.
After a bout of bullying at school then a period of 3 - 6 months with no 'real' friends, dd (15) has been talking about a girl she's met at school who she's became close with. She's been talking about her CONSTANTLY for about 3 or 4 weeks, she's 'great fun, a good laugh, really friendly, not bitchy like all the other girls etc'. I feel like I know this girl inside out already, and we didn't meet until last night when dd asked if she could come round for pizza, a film and stay the night. I was really looking forward to meeting her. So, to cut to the chase, this girl, who is indeed just lovely showed up about 6pm last night, came in, said hello etc then they disappeared off to the room. I left them to it. This morning they came down in their jammies and to my surprise (and don't ask me why I was surprised) I noticed that my dd's new pal is an amputee, she has no right arm below the elbow. I immediately asked her what had happened and she told me she had been in an accident as a baby. Anyway, they ate, lounged about and then her mum picked her up. I asked dd why she hadn't mentioned it before and she simpy said, 'why would I?' while looking at me with a perplexed look. I honestly don't think I've loved her more. Just thought I would share, AIBU to be bursting with pride about my dd's nonchalance about something I'd imagine lots of teen would be awkward about?

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xMumof3x · 08/09/2012 17:06

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MyCupsRunnethOverWithGold · 08/09/2012 17:06

That made me tear up a little.
How lovely that your DD has a good friend and her friend has your DD.

OrangeImperialGoldBlether · 08/09/2012 17:07

Your daughter sounds nice, but why did you do the opposite then and immediately ask her friend what had happened?

Waitingforastartofall · 08/09/2012 17:07

That's lovely. How fab for your dd and this girl to become firm friends which is probably a massive confidence boost. And your dd sounds like a lovely young lady you should be very proud

Bossybritches22 · 08/09/2012 17:08

YANBU - how fab is that?

Maybe the paralympics will breed a new level of nonchalance about disability!

Sounds like your PF has got herself a nice new friend

McHappyPants2012 · 08/09/2012 17:08

Yanbu your DD sounds a wonderful young adult.

SoleSource · 08/09/2012 17:08

Well OP, what a marvellous girl you have!!!

Yadnbu x

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 08/09/2012 17:08

what a lovely girl your DD sounds. Of course you should be proud.

DuWop · 08/09/2012 17:08

thats amazing. well done your dd. and you for bringing her up so well. :)

NicholasTeakozy · 08/09/2012 17:09

You're not being all pfb at all. You're quite rightly proud of your daughter for not making a fuss out of something that's really not worth a fuss.

Oh, YANBU by the way. :)

trumpeter · 08/09/2012 17:11

orange I grew up with a brother who had cerebral palsy. When I was small I hated people staring and whispering, always wished they had just asked what was wrong, as an adult I've adopted this rule for myself and have always found that people are generally responsive and pleased that people ask.

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Hooleywhipper · 08/09/2012 17:13

What a lovely young lady your DD is,yes be proud

Secondsop · 08/09/2012 17:18

How lovely - you are right to feel very proud.

trumpeter · 08/09/2012 18:32

Yes, I think a treat is in order Grin

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mumofjust1 · 08/09/2012 18:36

Am I the only one who is confused by this thread?

Floggingmolly · 08/09/2012 18:38

You've raised her well. Smile

Frontpaw · 08/09/2012 18:40

I worked in the same office as someone for months before I noticed she had a false arm. I am really really unobservant though.

BoomerGold · 08/09/2012 18:43

What's confusing, mumofjust1?

Take it as it's meant to be, a rightfully pleased mother wanting to share her experience with the rest of us.

I hope there are many more like your daughter, OP.

FermezLaBouche · 08/09/2012 18:52

mumofjust1 no - you're not.
The OP's daughter is no doubt a lovely young woman, but the idea of gushing praise for befriending someone "despite" their disability doesn't sit right with me, sorry.

mumofjust1 · 08/09/2012 19:00

Fermez - I'm glad its not just me then!

Yes its lovely and op has obviously done a wonderful job with her dd, but I couldn't imagine being beside myself with pride that my dd had done something which I would percieve as "normal" - by which I mean becoming friends with someone who has any kind of disability - partial amputee or double amputee for that matter, and not making a big deal of it.

LydiasMiletus · 08/09/2012 19:03

I would be proud as well.
unless it was a specific conversation, I can't see why it should be mentioned and I think its great your dd has that attitude.
My mum was really shocked when I brought my first boyfriend home who was black. I am white. She asked like you did and it honest never entered my head.

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Bluegingham · 08/09/2012 19:12

"I sort of get you mumof it's like saying you are so proud of your dc because they've made friends with an Asian or black child. Why should it matter?"

Because being black or Asian isn't a disability.

FermezLaBouche · 08/09/2012 19:16

Bluegingham - why should a disability make you any less "friendworthy"? Surely it's just something that makes you different from another person - like skin colour.

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