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Original poster

to reject Pink Barbie bike for DDs birthday

249 replies

LazyMornings · 04/09/2012 00:12

I'm opposed to the whole pink/princess/barbie thing. My brother knows this and still, he just picked up a fecking Barbie bike to give to her on my daughter's birthday.

I don't want my daughter to even see it. She's also still very happy with her old bike. I am hurt that knowing how I feel about it, my brother chose that bike. I know he will be very offended if we don't accept it. Thoughts?

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Noqontrol · 04/09/2012 00:13

How old is your dd?

whiskyfudge · 04/09/2012 00:13

YABU, it's a BIKE.

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 04/09/2012 00:15

I let other people buy shit pink things for DD, I don't buy it myself.

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LazyMornings · 04/09/2012 00:16

Daughter is 6

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whiskyfudge · 04/09/2012 00:17

My dd had a Barbie bike. She's now 17, likes piercings, tattoos, blue hair and Panic at the Disco. Chillax.

CoolaSchmoola · 04/09/2012 00:17

I get that you don't like it.... but your daughter's birthday isn't about you, it's about her.

So what would she think about a pink Barbie bike? If she would like it then YABU to stop her having a present from her Uncle.

I would never buy my DD a Barbie bike - but if someone else did and I thought she would like it then I wouldn't DREAM of rejecting it. That's just a bit mean and somewhat selfish.

5madthings · 04/09/2012 00:17

yanbu as its a crap bike! most of the 'charachter' bikes are! far better to go to a proper bike shop and get a decent childs bike that us the right size forvyour child. it will be lighter; have better brakes etc and will last.

dawes, marin, trek etc all make childs bikes that are good quality and not too expensive.

would nevet buy a charachter bike esp from toys r ys etc they are shit!

MrsFaffnBobbocks · 04/09/2012 00:18

Sounds thoughtless. But a generous pressie. Does your dd also dislike pink? If.so, thank graciously and park it elsewhere...If she likes it, then given your concern to avoid bthe pink princessness, one thing won't harm. If your brother is anything like mine, he might just not have processed your point of view (or at least not during the purchase!)

NellyJob · 04/09/2012 00:21

in the psychology of gift giving, it's a wind up.
accept it and say...oooh thanks how lovely....as that will disappoint him.

McHappyPants2012 · 04/09/2012 00:22

newsflash this isn't your birthday it is your DD, unless she hates pink and barbie i really don't see the issue.

even if DD was your DS i still wouldn't see a problem

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LazyMornings · 04/09/2012 00:23

to those saying it's not important... ok what if instead of Barbie it had, let's say, Hitler's face on it? or the Playboy bunny? Would stil be OK? I'm trying to educate a child on certain values. Barbie and all the pink paraphernalia represent exactly the opposite.

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NakedButNotFamous · 04/09/2012 00:23

I really don't understand this hate for pink. Big wow! It's a colour. I liked pink as a kid and now I go to football matches, cook things from scratch and can assemble Ikea furniture in minutes. It means nothing!

DioneTheDiabolist · 04/09/2012 00:26

YANBU to feel how you do.
YWBU to not allow her to have it. Its her birthday present.

BTW, I know how you feel. My DB bought DS a Nerf gun. I was very unhappy and asked him why he had bought it, knowing how I feel about gun play. His answer? "I bought it because I knew he would like it and knew that you would never buy him one."

He was right.

McHappyPants2012 · 04/09/2012 00:26

some values. A toy is a toy in this house. A colour is a colour.

gender sterotyping does not exist either.

DioneTheDiabolist · 04/09/2012 00:28

As much as I hate Barbie (and have done from childhood), it's not promoting genocide or porn.Biscuit

peanutMD · 04/09/2012 00:28

Barbie and Hitler!

Now there's a comparison I never thought I'd see :o

MrsFaffnBobbocks · 04/09/2012 00:31

One pink bike gift doesn't undermine those values, does it?? A box set of princess DVDs and some Barbie lip gloss and high heels maybe..... I wouldn't let it rile. If it's a crap bike however....you could encourage dd to evaluate it on performance....

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LazyMornings · 04/09/2012 00:32

It's late, I'm tired, my head is killing me. I can't believe I'm worrying about a * bike. I should just set it on fire at DD's party and take a picture of ** brother's face. Oh wait I can't do that!

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whiskyfudge · 04/09/2012 00:33

Barbie and Hitler?! Only on Mumsnet leaves discussion

featherbag · 04/09/2012 00:34

Really? I mean, really? YAB totally U.

missymoomoomee · 04/09/2012 00:37

OMG, rarely do I encounter an attitude so over the top and selfish that I am lost for words its a pink bike not a bag full of cocaine ffs.

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 04/09/2012 00:38

If you described a woman as a bit of a Barbie, we would all have an impression. Yet, that is what some people want plastered all over all girls' stuff. She could have a cool, 'proper' bike or she could have a crappy, cheap, nasty bike that is bought only because it has Barbie on it. Your choice, everyone.

thepeoplesprincess · 04/09/2012 00:39

You need to get over yourself.

CoolaSchmoola · 04/09/2012 00:40

Did you honestly just compare Barbie and HITLER???

Wow.

thepeoplesprincess · 04/09/2012 00:40

No mrsterry, that's exactly the point. It isn't our choice. It's (or should be) opur kids choice as to what colour or crappy cartoon character they want plastered all over their own fucking bicycle.