Cruel? You CLEARLY don't know my MIL.
She is a control freak. I had had the sheer audacity (in her head) to ask her not to do something..... so she did it to make a point. She's done it before with other things many times over the years - she likes to try to undermine me and I like to make sure she knows I won't stand for it when she does.
My photos were locked down to close friends only. I knew about tag review - had it on other photos - but had specifically asked, and got agreement from, all those in my close friends list NOT to tag or share pictures of my DD - that was the condition on which I put them on there. MIL was in that list. Call me stupid for trusting my MIL to actually do as I asked, but don't call me cruel. I honestly believed this would be something she would understand, and wouldn't use to make a point. She made a choice knowing EXACTLY how I felt about it, I reacted in the way I said I would. I also very politely explained to her why I was deleting them.
I don't regret deleting the photos from FB - and I'm not evil, I do send her prints and emails on the understanding that she doesn't scan them onto FB. I think she has got the point now because so far she hasn't.
And whilst everyone is saying how cruel I am - please bear in mind this is a woman who NEVER phones us, has visited US once in 8 years - yet whom I always go see at least once a week every time I'm in the UK (which is usually every couple of months) so she can see DD - and who has the opportunity to Skype with my DD and doesn't. Plus when she does see her she could take her own photos....and again, doesn't.
I don't think it's cruel to want to maintain control over who sees my personal photos of my child. And I wonder just how many of you would be up in arms if your MIL ignored your wishes over anything to do with your children - because this is the same thing.