To think it's not "sick" tO have a bath with 12 week old DS

[HeidiHole]

Tonight I hopped in the bath with 12 week old son. He loved it, I loved it but I mentioned it to my husband and he said its "sick" for mother and son to share a bath.

He said even though baby is so small he still can't get his head around a mum and a son being in a bath together, the thought was odd.

DH also said he would never share a bath with DS or future children which I think is sad for both of them.

So I said I'd ask on mumsnet. AIBU to bathe with my baby? Have you? And has or does your partner ever have a bath with the kids. I think somehow because DHs own dad was an emotionless distant father who wouldn't in a million years do something like bathe with his baby he imagines all dads are the same.

For what it's worth I vaguely remember baths with my dad and mum (not at same time!) as a toddler/very young child so maybe that colours my view?

DH and I always bathed with ours until quite old .... maybe 5 or 6 when they got body aware, Blimey I couldnt have a bath alone without someone shucking their clothes and hopping in

oh my gosh, i must be a total sicko! i dream of the day when DS's aged 3 and 6 don't hog my bath!

A 12 week old? Really? What on this Earth is your DH thinking could possibly be wrong with that?

Does that not worry you about your DH? And to use the word 'sick', words fail me.

it's not odd that you want to bath with your child

it's also not odd that your DH doesn't

each to their own, he will find other ways to bond

Why on earth would you not have a bath with your baby (except for practical pooing in the bath issues )?

I had baths with mine from the first week or two. Still have baths with them now, one or the other or both. They are 5 and 3. It's getting a bit of a squeeze now, but at least they don't poo in it any more.

What is his concern exactly?

YANBU. I bathed with my DCs when they were tiny.

Emmm, your DH has some issues there! I loved bathing with dd, it's such a nice way to bond with them, also it helps give the message when they are a bit bigger that your body is not something to be ashamed of. Plus it saves water

Your DH is being a twit.

FIne to bathe with DCs, at least until they are 4 or 5 (or they don't want to anymore.)

Bloody hell. What does he make of breastfeeding, then? DH shared a bath with dd occasionally until quite recently - she's 5 and I don't think they'd both fit!

I bathed with my children when they were babies and toddlers and I think it is really quite weird to think that bathing with a 12 week old baby is sick. I cannot imagine the thought processes that are going on there.

The last time my DS got into the bath with me he was 8 years old.
I doubt he remembers it now, but he obviously isn't scarred by the experience..

I think your DH is sick actually.

it is very odd that he considers it 'sick' though

bathing with your child is so normal as to be unremarkable.

I have bathed with all my kids especially when they are babies as they were easier to hold that way! I have 1 son and 3 daughters. My DH has also bathed with all of them.

We haven't done it for ages but that's mainly due to having a shower that's better now so its only the kids that are bathing ( they hate showers!) . They used to hop in when we were bathing especially if we were in a hurry and needed to get them all bathed.

I bath with my three year old and five month old regularly. Your husband obviously has issues! I take his point once they are past four or five, but before that perfectly normal!

It is not sick, OP

Hell,I am a sicko.

We have a very big bath that accomodates me, DP and DD (6 months), should someone call SS?!

I always have bathes with my dd :) she's now 16 months but have been bathing with her since she could hold her own head!! Not weird at all... she loves splashing me! And we play with her bath toys together! Even my partner ( unfortunately not dds real daddy but acts the part!!) Jumps in!!
Think we'll stop when dc2 is here tho, won't be enough room lol!!!
Basically your not weird or "sick" at all!! Loads of parents I know do this too!! x

bloody hell I vaughly remember said child of mine (son) using me as a water slide at about 2, I distictly remember the joy of getting in the bath as hot as possible just about to leasurly (sp) shave legs etc, when a small naked child would appear beside me with kitchen pots and jugs in tow, and my having to cool the water down so he could get in, never had a bath on my own.

Dont even go there on never having a wee or a number two on my own either because child would scream if i closed the door, oh the joys of single parenthood.

I think he needs to work these issues through...

I have 7rolds that hop in the bath with me given the chance.

What does he think of breast feeding?
Are dc allowed in bed to cuddle?
Can you get changed in front of them?

It's terrible if children think nudity is sinful or sexual.

I feel sorry for your dh really-he's so screwed up if he really believes this

Can't remember the last time I bathed alone. Not the DCs now, as I rather draw the line at bathing with teenagers, but DH has only got to hear me slip into the tub and he's in like Flynn!

Of course this is normal! I remember my Dad having a bath with my younger sister when she was toddler age and although I don't have baths with my DCs, I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with it.

Does he show much affection to your DS?

Me and DH are sickos too! Join the club! Your Dh obviously has a few issues that he needs to resolve!

Perfectly normal to have a bath with your children both DH and I did (not together, no olympic sized bathtub in our house!). It probably stopped when DS1 got to 7 ish but he and DS2 (4) still share.

Your DH's reaction seems quite extreme OP.

DH often bathed with DD in the early days, largely because it was easier to keep hold of the slippery little sucker that way! I thought it was a lovely way for him to bond with her.