to ask people to read the whole thread before responding...

[notmyproblem]

... or at the very least all the OP's posts?

Just change your settings under Talk: Customise above to highlight the OP's posts in a different colour so they stand out. Then you can scroll through the pages and read all the OP's posts before posting yourself. You can even change how many posts appear on a page in a thread so you don't have to keep going through page after page.

I know some of you see a thread title and nearly wet yourselves in anticipation of posting your opinion before reading barely more than the OP but it might save you some embarrassment when the thread has moved on from say... someone saying her DP complains about her cooking to when it's revealed he's abusing her and the kids. Not to mention it keeps the thread cleaner and more on track.

TIA.

I also think customising your settings to 100 posts makes reading threads a lot easier too.

ie, 100 posts per page that is!

Just make your threads all one page like I do.

Yes, I too can order people to do things that I think are necessary.

YABU

Oh come on, who wants to let the facts get in the way of a good stoning

But seriously - I agree with you. How many times has an OP even admitted they were wrong and then had to suffer pages and pages of people STILL giving them a kicking!

And that's before all the 'moved on' type threads you mention where it has become clear the situation is not as it seemed to be.

Yup, a quick scan of the OPs posts wouldn't kill anyone!

why not ignore those that have obvioulsy not read the whole thread

i often reply without reading the whole thread as i can not be arsed to read it all

does it really matter than much

It can, though. What about the OP that posts something seemingly trivial but through discussion and exploration, realises that it is actually a symptom of a really big problem - eg an abusive relationship, and then you get someone who only read the OP and comes on saying oh ffs grow up, don't be stupid, it's no big deal...

Absolutely agree.
It's one of the things that really annoys me.
Especially what Hecate says about posters that put their hands up and say they were BU, in the middle of the thread and 'still get a kicking' pages on.
I just want to post Read The Fucking Thread.

Ha, I started a thread about this before and was surprised to get an absolute flaming.

YANBU!

So post that! You have as much right ask for it as I do to ignore you!

That is harder to do if you post from the App - currently no option to change the colour of the posts or bookmark, so on a really long thread you might not read every post.

Ahhhhh thanks, I didn't know how to do that!
Will be much easier for me to trail through the massive posts now! I tended not to bother even replying to them because I didn't want to read the whole thing!

Freudian yes it can matter if the OP has asked for advice on a sensitive issue & someone steams in with a flaming only to totally bark up the wrong tree & turn it into a bunfight!!

I agree with notmy bloody annoying when you read "haven't read the whole thread but ..yada yad yada" The highlighting the OP's posts thing really helps on a long thread.

YANBU

Really besmirched ?
It's so bloody annoying, and as notmyproblem said, if you highlight the Op's post you can just skim it to get the gist, you don't need to read the whole thing.

I do TRY to read all the OP's posts in s thread, but it's not always possible.

Leave him.

It wouldn't make any difference to some people OP.

I think some people enjoy baiting the OP of any thread in any section by 'misunderstanding' their posts and the point of them and then focusing on something that hasn't actually been said or asked at all in quite an aggressive way.

Then the thread takes a totally different turn while the OP tries to reply to their nonsense and gets called defensive or a drip feeder. They are the worst sort of trolls really, because they are regular and recognisable MNers who just seem to enjoy derailing a thread for the fun of it and turning the focus of attention onto themselves rather than the OP.

many are likely to not change their mind when it becomes obvious that abuse is going on, replies will then go along the lines leave him or i would not put up with that

not everyone has time to read the whole thread and not everyone wants to bother too that you have to accept when you post something on here. the threads on relationships do not tend to be like, its more of a conversation and advice given than giving your opinion that but on aibu or chat they are that way

I'm guilty on that thread of not reading through (though was not negative to op in any way) but it has been the only one I haven't done so on and that's because I'm on my fucked iPhone abroad and don't have the data capacity to read 10 pages.

Also as a new user the ability to rearrange settings isn't instantly clear.

So although YANBU to be irritated by it especially if aforementioned kickings occur YABU to not think there may be a reason, that you could educate new users (as here) and that ops can also tell when a whole thread hasn't been read and disregard that individual post.

I do read the threads, however that highlighting bit sounded good, shame the app doesn't allow it

The app is rubbish. Just use the mobile site.

Just like the OP and Tee, I can also tell people what to do.

I agree I also did this on a thread earlier but I really hadn't noticed it had more pages. I wasn't harsh to the OP in any way and i apologised when i realised i had made a mistake. It was the thread you have mentioned too. I haven't checked but did loads of people do it?

I have seen quite a few threads where people are quite nasty but its because they have read something wrong. Sometimes i sit here and read the comments and think I can't even be arsed to explain what the OP means if people can't even be arsed to read what it written to find the answers to their questions.

Ow that's a lovely shade of lavender thanks for the tip!

YANBU!