to not ask my DD to quieten down

[humptyhump]

This has happened on a few occasions now.
My DD can be quite noisy when we are at soft play/activity centre, she is very vocal in her playing, squeals and screeches when she's excited etc
However my friend who I usually attend the places with (with her DS) always makes comments on how loud she is, sometimes she says it in a jokey way 'oh your so loud haha' and other times she makes comments on how she's got a headache
AIBU to not tell my DD, we are at play centres surely this is the place where she should be allowed to let off some steam and have fun without a bossy adult commenting about it
Her DS is just under a year younger and isn't talking much so not much noise from him

Also if we were in a place where the volume should be lowered such as the library I would of course ask her to lower her voice

YANBU. Wait a year and the tables will be turned. Your DD will have matured a little and her DS will have found his voice and not be afraid to use it. You can ignore, or choose to take the mickey a bit then!!

YABU. Screechy high pitched children should be gagged.

Squeals and screeches I would try to discourage personally

Taggie I don't let my DD run around all day screeching but at an activity place I think she should be able to make as much noise as she likes as long as she's not bothering other children

YABU. No-one wants to hear your daughter screeching and squeeling. It's annoying and a habit that should be discouraged wherever you.

MammaTJ I am surely looking forward to that day, I am currently feeling rather smug sympathy for her as her little angel is hitting the terrible two's and not quite as amazing as she thought

DS is a squealer. I do tell him to quiet it down. There is a difference between fun and being loud and grating. I love the sound of children playing, laughing and having fun. It's what they do! But I think YABU to just let her screech, it can be really really annoying listening to.

Humpty - imagine what it would be like if every child was allowed to run around screeching it would make those places even more unbearable

YABU. If every child in the place screamed and screeched think of the noise we'd all have to put up with!!

This is one reason I hate the places!

High pitched is for outside
Yabu

Smug??

YABU. There are few things more irritating to one's ears than screeching. Children can have fun without screaming like a stuck pig. Screeching isn't appropriate unless you're gushing blood imho. I'd discourage it.

None of the other children or parents complain though and my DD always plays with other children so they're obviously not bothered, I just think a child should be allowed to be a child and express themselves, doesn't constantly telling a child to shutup have a negative effect on them in the long run!?

Humpty, the other parents are use too polite to mention it. I wouldn't mention it to you if I was at the soft play place, but I would be hoping your daughter broke a leg or something just so you'd take her away.

YABU. Last time I went to a soft play area I had a migraine for a month. Well it seemed like a month. Screeching is just not on. Tell her to quieten down a bit.

I can't stand squealing. There's no need for it, kids can let off steam without screaming.

DS2 is naturally a very high pitched, noisy child, which was a shock after compliant DD and more-or-less silent DS1. But even he knows that squealing is Not Allowed. It makes soft play even more hellish than it needs to be.

YABU, noise is fine, anti-social screeching isn't.

When I say screech I don't mean at the top of her lungs its more of a very high pitched giggle, obviously if she was screaming at the top of her lungs and making a huge racket I would discourage it

You don't need to tell them to shut up, you ask them not to squeal there is no need for it.

Small children make lots of loud noises, but screeching/squealing/screaming is hideous even in soft play etc. If I hear my children doing it I tell them to stop as it's bloody annoying! It's not constantly telling them to shut up, it's saying "That noise isn't very nice, please stop it". It will have a positive effect in the long run because other people won't think your child is a screeching horror :)

And as for the outdoors comment, yes she still makes comments about DD when we are at the park too

Of course you're being UR. There is a world of difference between children having to be quiet, and being allowed to screech and sqwawk unremittingly.

Nobody in your immediate vicinity wants to hear it.

You obviously have an irritating child, OP, but you love her so just don't notice it.

I work in primary school and we discourage screaming, squealing, high pitched inappropriate noises even though it's outside at playtime. Children can be loud and have fun without getting out of control excited. You should probably tell your dd to tone it down.

Have you had her hearing checked recently?

aww I am feeling a little sorry for the OP some of you have your meanie pants on today she is at soft play maybe a litte over excited OP ask her to shh a little but let her play obviously if she is screeching 24/7 then you have a problem .