to not ask my DD to quieten down

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This has happened on a few occasions now.
My DD can be quite noisy when we are at soft play/activity centre, she is very vocal in her playing, squeals and screeches when she's excited etc
However my friend who I usually attend the places with (with her DS) always makes comments on how loud she is, sometimes she says it in a jokey way 'oh your so loud haha' and other times she makes comments on how she's got a headache
AIBU to not tell my DD, we are at play centres surely this is the place where she should be allowed to let off some steam and have fun without a bossy adult commenting about it
Her DS is just under a year younger and isn't talking much so not much noise from him

I'm a bit about this talk of 'girl' noises too...

Felt I wasn't being judged for having a screechy baby, then I read AThingInYourLife's post. Ah well. :(

Well maybe it depends on your ears.

I can definitely hear a difference between playing noise and screeching but if you can't then you're maybe in a lucky minority of people who hear them the same.

I don't think anyone's complaining about babies who obviously can't regulate their noise making.

So much for letting children be children.

Cassette If you leave a play place because you are intolerant of other children making noise, then YOU are causing your children to miss out. Not the other children - they are just being children.

And frankly I don't worry about what other people think - about DS2 making noise OR about whether or not we left because he was upset by other children making noise. In the whole scope of things, it's just not that huge a deal.

I guess next time we go to soft play, I'll be able to play "spot the MN'er" by looking for cat-bum's faces.

I know screeching is annoying but it is a soft play it is supposed to be noisy lots of grumps on this thread

Op what a load of old bollocks.

Parks and indoor play places are where children should be able to make a bloody good noise and let off steam.

I always allowed mindees ( ex cm) to go for it.

In the house or anywhere else of course not, also garden as not fair on neugbours.

As for the teacher posting telling children to Play quietly in the playground wtf, not surprised behaviour in the classroom is bad.

Tell your friend to stop being precious and get a grip. Silly cow.

Op let your dd enjoy herself but as you have stated she isn't allowed to screech and scream in other places.

Also don't like the snide anti girl feelibg to this post.

I have 2 of each and all can be noisy.

It's just common fucking sense really Triggles and Athing but that's something this thread is clearly lacking all of a sudden...

My DD has just turned two and I don't let her squeal or screech. She's well able to enjoy herself without that, and there's no need for her enjoyment of soft play to infringe on everyone else's!

By the sound of it, you'd do well to listen to your friend.

The massive gulf between common sense and good sense is apparent on this thread.

:o

Arf at having special ears that can tell the difference between "the noise of playing" and screeching.

What do you geniuses think the screechers are doing, if not playing?

They may be playing more noisily than you would like, but you can't redefine their activity on the basis of how noisy it is.

Can't say I'm too worried tbh. If people want to be precious and obsess about the noise, that's their problem, not mine.

Seriously, I have got to start going to the soft play with all the happy children playing calmly with a low level of noise.

Where are they?

Not even a little squawk of excitement from anyone?

Sounds like soft heaven :o

Giggling, laughing, yelling, shouting = adorable

High pitched squeal that sounds like someone has run over Flipper= annoying

Screaming like a bad B Movie actress= fucking annoying

YABU. Soft play area is an enclosed public space. If you want to give her the freedom the scream and squeal (a ghastly habit) then at least go to the park or the beach.

My DD2 is very high pitched and I DO tell her to keep it down...I can't stand high pitched noise...it hurts!

Yabu OP.

Yabu. If it's loud enough to disturb other children or adults then you should be stopping it.

Little boys do the horrible screeching as well. Mine did, and was quickly and firmly told not to, he might have been under 2 at the time, but he knew exactly what I meant, that it was the tone not volume. On the very rare occasion he does it he's generally looking in my direction expecting to be told off. Prolonged high pitched screeching is totally unnecessary, and I judge people who allow their children (not babies) to continue such poor behaviour. Even my DS, now 3, understands the difference between shouting and screeching.
Can I add a question? Everybody keeps talking about girls screeching, I can't think at such a young age their voice boxes are so different, is it more socially acceptable for girls to screech?

YANBU

Yup. Whatever. I get so tired of the "judgey pants brigade." Judge away.

Bunch of no-fun intolerant people on this thread. Good grief.

"Bunch of no-fun intolerant people on this thread. Good grief."

Perhaps we have better hearing than you and find that loud screechy noises hurt our ears.

Id ask her to quieten down if shes doing that ear piercing screeching thing. Its so offensive. Both mine have been guilty of this and i ask them to keep it down a bit.

God no scaredy cat, its not more acceptable for girls. My dd sounds far worse than ds.