to not ask my DD to quieten down

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This has happened on a few occasions now.
My DD can be quite noisy when we are at soft play/activity centre, she is very vocal in her playing, squeals and screeches when she's excited etc
However my friend who I usually attend the places with (with her DS) always makes comments on how loud she is, sometimes she says it in a jokey way 'oh your so loud haha' and other times she makes comments on how she's got a headache
AIBU to not tell my DD, we are at play centres surely this is the place where she should be allowed to let off some steam and have fun without a bossy adult commenting about it
Her DS is just under a year younger and isn't talking much so not much noise from him

YABU I'm afraid. Not only is it incredibly annoying, it's bloody dangerous too.

When i was about 9, me and a friend were having a water fight in the garden, and my mum was doing something inside. We were screaming and making a noise and my friend slipped on the wet grass, broke her arm and passed out. I screamed, but Because we'd been screaming before, she didn't realise anything was wrong and I had to run and get her, leaving my friend alone. It was horrible and my mum felt terrible, so after that, we had a no screaming rule and that's carried on into my own household- no screaming unless it's a real emergency.

Now it appears the op's child doesn't actually scream, just screeches?
Can someone explain the difference in volume, and maybe assess the nuisance value of each of these, because they're equally bloody annoying to me?

If she's the loudest in the room, I tell my girl to put a lid on it.

My DS has a screeching screamer friend (still doing it at 8 years old). Very irritating but to be honest never something I had to tackle becauce mine didnt do it. Can you get a 2 year old to stop screaching? dont think it would be that easy.
My DS is however loud and I often have to tell him to quiten down as he gets quite shouty and show offy.

My rule is that if they are in the actual softplay area they can be as loud as they like - they are usually drowned out there by other children. However, if they come and sit at the table then they have to be quiet.

It is the same for outside - in a playground they can be as loud as they like but as soon as there are other people near they should be considerate.

There are other people near at softplay too, and you get that its not soundproof, right?

OP you sound like an idiot to me.

classic AIBU

Op..."my DD does thisinsert horrid anti-social behaviour, and everyone of you are telling me it is annoying, but the fingers in the ear trick and signing or screeching ta la la la has tuned you all out.

Not seen one of these in a while.

Bless

It can be annoying. My DS1 gets over excited sometimes and gradually gets louder but I don't tell him to "shut up", there is no need to. I just tell him to come down a few decibels. Job done. Doesn't stop him from enjoying himself one bit. And I can't see how telling them to tone it down a tad stops them from expressing themselves

Maybe it's because I'm Italian and we are all loud.
Maybe it's because my DS has autism and one of the things he does is screeching and making strange sounds in places like the playground (NOT in school or the library), and, of all the many, many things he needs to learn, so far, frankly, that is not quite top of my list.
Maybe it's because even children need to let it all out sometimes FFS.
Y.A.N.B.U.

YAbU no one likes a squealing child - or the parents of one

"now she is 6 though she is getting to old for it anyway"

At 6? I don't think so. DD is 12 and doesn't do soft play, but she was happy to do so until she was 10.

Bunbaker If i tell her she is too old for it now and its full of annopying younger children, she believes me . no but seriously she is begining to grow out of it, she would much rather stay at home and do some crafts or go and play in the park or kick a ball around with her friends.