to not ask my DD to quieten down

[humptyhump]

This has happened on a few occasions now.
My DD can be quite noisy when we are at soft play/activity centre, she is very vocal in her playing, squeals and screeches when she's excited etc
However my friend who I usually attend the places with (with her DS) always makes comments on how loud she is, sometimes she says it in a jokey way 'oh your so loud haha' and other times she makes comments on how she's got a headache
AIBU to not tell my DD, we are at play centres surely this is the place where she should be allowed to let off some steam and have fun without a bossy adult commenting about it
Her DS is just under a year younger and isn't talking much so not much noise from him

We're posting while drinking now QOD so we are in equal danger of being flat on our faces.

I want many things for my DD, one of which is for her to be good company, both for other children and adults. If she was making a noise that was clearly upsetting others, I'd ask her to turn it down a bit. Doesn't matter where we were. I would never ask her to be quiet in a soft play centre, but there are degrees of noise and most people can distinguish between them, and it is right that children learn about them.

there's a huge difference between children making a bit of noise whilst having fun and shrieking and screaming unnecessarily to the annoyance of everyone else.

But then there are some parents who believe that as long as their DC are ok, it doesn't matter... not my way but hey, as long as their kids are having fun who gives a wotsit about anyone else

"We're posting while drinking now QOD so we are in equal danger of being flat on our faces. "

To be honest about it, I don't need distractions or alcohol to cause me to fall over!

Worra - lamp posts are my worst enemy. I have literally knocked myself out being a clumsy bitch in the past.

Ive done that queenofdiamobds. Although to be fair, walking down the street with my eyes shut didn't really help the situation.

I cant spell either. Sorry for what i just did to your name

This is a very timely thread.

DS2 (6 months) has just started that squawky pterodactyl thing that people who don't have to listen to it all day call "oh bless, he's finding his voice".

I am about ready to shove him back where he came from.

Except that would mean that I would have annoying screeching coming from my own stomach and be unable to escape it EVER.

[cries]

[snatches wine of worra]

off

kingfu. i was lucky, the 6 month screaming thing never happened to me, although it happened to a friend.

Damn, what is it with me and spelling peoples names!!

Yes I'm back much to the suprise of some I'm sure...had a busy afternoon at the park
For those who have commented about screaming I wouldn't allow my DD to run around screaming, my op states squeals and screeches and no she doesn't run around screeching her head off for the whole time but while playing she does laugh and her giggle is quite screechy,
I made the comment about feeling smug as my DD is 3 and my friends DS is 2 and she is always passing judgement on how her DS is so much more well behaved than mu DD
When my DD is getting a bit excitable at the library etc I do ask her to keep it down but soft play/ctiviy centres are for children and surely some level of noise is to be expected, my DD's noise level is not higher than any of the other children her age, if her noise levels were so high that they bothered other children especially those who may have SN's or sensitve ears and the said child appeared distressed or the mother asked me politely I would ask my DD to quieten down or play in another area,
But the only person who ever complains is my friend, maybe I will stop going places with her and tell her to try and find somewhere for children that you won't hear any schreehing [hmmm]
Anyway u miserable lot I'm about to join triggles and co. And enjoy a nice

Some people just refuse to accept their children are screechy and make other people's ears hurt. I've worked with young children long enough to know that adults and other children do not tolerate screechers very well. It's unfair on the child not to encourage them to exercise some level of screech volume control as it won't make them popular when they're older.

TBH humpty, Its really impossible to judge fairly from a description of the sound. I think if your friend finds it irritating enough to comment, then the chances are it is a bit much and it might be worth getting her to tone it down.

Screeching is unreasonable and should not be tolerated. Your friend is right OP.

My daughter screeches sometimes and does that very loud fake laugh, it does the same to me as nails on a blackboard. She gets told to stfu in a nicer way obviously and nowadays she has stopped thank god. God knows how loud and annoying she would be if I hadnt got her to tone it down.

It is no different to teaching them to chew with their mouths shut.

pinkappleby - I'm sorry my post about the teenager made you sad. But not quite sure why? If you had speech therapy to reduce the level of your voice, then someone somewhere must have suggested that you needed it, or you may have realised it for yourself?

Jareth

Phew! Thank goodness DD is too old for soft play now

When I have children, they are never ever ever ever going to soft play ever!

You say that, crashdoll, but I bet they do end up going - I thought that too and we never did go to soft play in the UK - but here? Yep, MIL started the rot and one of our playgroups decamps to the local one whenever it's too wet. It's not too bad at the local one, quite small and fairly decent snacks - and so long as we don't go in school holidays it's usually bearable.

I don't know why you bothered asking OP, seeing as you just want everyone to agree with you!

It sounds as though your friend finds your dd really irritating tbh, whether you can see that or not.

my dd only goes to soft play if she has been invited to a party, it has never been a choice of activity in our house. now she is 6 though she is getting to old for it anyway so hopefully the soft play parties will be a thing of the past.

I've been the Friend of the Screecher's Parents in soft play. Its an embarrassment as you're acutely aware of all the other parents glaring at your table & the convos going on about how someone should tell their child to keep it down. In the end I ended up being just as annoying by doing the Loud Parenting thing so people would know it wasn't MY child making that godawful noise :)

& no I didn't go with them again, far too stressful being the object of everyone else's hate

Yabu. No one wants to hear it.