Women who pack suitcases for men.

[AnnaMosity]

I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

Why not?

Do you have some sort of a problem with married couples doing favours for each other?

If DH is going away on his own, he packs his own bags.

If we're going away together, I pack because he is shocking. Will end up with a massive bag whereas I can do it much more efficiently.

He is quite happy to do it though.

We have the same problem packing up the car boot when we're going away. He will not accept that I can do it better. Which I can, natch.

Is that OK?!

DH helps me by doing stuff I hate I return the favour ....works for us.

Why?

I tend to pack for all of us and quite frankly it doesn't bother me.
The reason is I work shifts and have a lot of time off in the day.

DH is self employed and works long hours and lately working longer and longer to keep going. Often he is working right up to the hour before we are due to leave. SO he will come home get showered and off we go.

When we come home he unpacks and does the washing and ironing.
Clearly every relationship has it's own dymanic and way of doing things.

Therefore mind your own sodding buisness on how our packing should work. It has suited us for the last 20 odd years Thank you very much!

DH does the packing in this house, he has skills that elude me.

I know of no-one who packs for their husband. Have only heard it referred to on here.

Why not?

I just dont know what dh would want to take and if I forgot something I would feel reaponsible.

Plus, I do the prep and packing for me and dd and also do the driving when we go.away so he can contribute by making sure hes ready to leave on time qith everything he needs

Why not? What happens?

Mine has the opposite problem, BIWI... for holidays he reckons all he needs is his Kindle and maybe a toothbrush. And if travelling for work, he'll pack his laptop and paperwork as well. Completely underestimates the need for additional clothes etc.

.... but if we're going on holiday and taking a bag each, he packs his own.

[not a surrendered wife]

My SIL does this. Bonkers.

If we go away I pack for me & the kids (don't get me started) & dp deigns to pack for himself.

I pack for DH, he works incredibly hard so I can be a SAHM for our son so if there's stuff I can do to help him I will.

He is a bit fussy though so I have to pack "the army way" minimises creases!

No. He's a grown man. He can decide for himself what he wants to take, and manage his time so he can pack it.

Hell, I don't even pack for my DCs, who have been packing their own bags since they were about 10.

I am guilty of this - but I don't feel remotely guilty, because I do it to make my life easier!

When we go away, we take one large suitcase between the 4 of us. So I pack everyone's clothes in it, much more efficient to put everything in it in one go, rather than me packing for me and DDs and then DH coming along later and possibly not managing to fit all his stuff in, so perhaps having to take stuff out and repack it etc etc.

Or finding that we have both packed shower gel/toothpaste/shampoo etc when we could have shared.

If he is going away by himself then he packs his own bag.

OneHandFlapping - dd packs her own bag - she's 6. Makes sense as she gets to choose what to wear.

Honestly, why do you care? What affect does it have on your life if I pack my husband's bag for him? Actually, how is it even any of your business?

I am so fucking fed up with the 'don't do anything for your husband or you're an anti-feminist, oppressed sad case who should be ashamed' brigade.

I like doing things for my family.

I also like running my own company.

The two are not mutually exclusive, FFS.

I do all the packing so I can ensure that DC and I have at least some clothes. The one time I left DH to do it, he packed for himself and put one day of clothes in for us. Now, he gets all his stuff out, I remove half of it, pack it and Bob's your uncle!
We tend to start packing about an hour before we leave. It's not advisable.

My mum packs for my stepdad. Drives me bonkers. They have a ritual where he sits in a chair in the bedroom and she pulls items out of drawers and wardrobes for him to yay or nay then packs them. It takes ages. How infantilising is that?!

DH packs for himself, I wouldn't dream of presuming what he may like to wear.

When we go away together, I pack. Otherwise he'll pack a bewildering number of brightly coloured novelty tees, two pairs of pant and a spare pair of socks(if we're lucky). Remember - I'll have to be seen with our with him.

Also, agree Tee2072
What's wrong with doing favours for each other. Don't wear blusher whilst you're doing it either.

Why not? Clearly it works for some people. I'm not sure though, in that situation does the female partner also decide what clothes he is taking?

I get out what I want to take and the kids' stuff. DH gets his stuff and he packs. I am useless at it, it never fits so it's his job!

My dad once packed his own suitcase for a holiday. He forgot all the books and magazines he'd carefully chosen for his holiday, packed only 2 polo shirts (for a 10 day holiday) and a whole load of my mothers old 'sloggi' knickers instead of his own pants. Mum insists on packing it herself now as his whining drove her mad and they had to spend the first day of the holiday shopping for pants. It works for them!