Women who pack suitcases for men.

[AnnaMosity]

I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

I pack DH's clothes, as I said upthread, because I am packing the whole suitcase in one go - we don't have separate bags.

So obviously I have no problem at all with husbands and wives doing things for each other, playing to their strengths, yadda, yadda.

But I am repeatedly at all these tales of men who actually can't pack and just choose some random, inappropriate items to bring. I mean, really??!!

My 4 year old chooses her own clothes to pack, (though I put them in the suitcase, as I said before.) Even she knows, and has done for a while, what sort of clothes she needs to bring with her. Yes, she tries to sneak in a tutu, lots of necklaces and her ballet shoes, but she wouldn't put just those things in. She knows she also needs underwear, pjs, trousers, tops, hairbrush, toothbrush, jacket, swimming costume. Yes, we're not quite there on the right numbers of different clothes yet, but she's only 4. So I tell her, OK you need 7 pairs of pants and 7 pairs of socks, and then we count them out together. I can't imagine having to do the same for your DH

I am totally flummoxed by the idea that a grown man wouldn't know what he needs.

Now, truly can't think through what they need and how many would surprise me.

Despite buying all his clothes for 22+ years, I suspect that if I was truly unavailable DH most certainly could pack.

In a real emergency he'd probably manage for me and our 14 y DD.

DD2 has so many clothes and is very fussy she's quite a challenge, but I think he'd manage to keep her decent if cross.

But then DH is a smug bastard, who can do almost anything if he has too.

What the hell has it got to do with anyone you included op what I do or don't do for my husband. I pack his close every time we go away and shock gasp horror I even do it if he goes away on his own. Wait for it I also iron for him, do his washing and cook the main meals most of the week. He on the other hand does all the d.i.y stuff and works damn hard in his own business. I am not in any way a surrended wife and have no intention of transforming into one any time soon. This is simply what suits us. Therefore what the hell has it got to do with anyone else ?

2rebecca yes i was younger, but i did say buy their own. It's amazing how many people don't actually need a towel/suncream if they are forced to buy it! They just answered 'no we don't need it' then would take mine. It is very hard not to look petty (which is what these people rely on) when you have 4 towels and they want to 'borrow' one and you say no. Everyone from my peer group thinks i am really uptight and possessive just because i want my own things, whereas they all grew up in hippy commune type households.

We were in a villa and if i went out when i came back all my stuff would have been used - shampoo etc. Then i was being a 'freak' if i said anything.

Funny how all those people into sharing never brought anything with them to reciprocate with!

Also 2rebecca suncream is really expensive whenever i go abroad because they know you need it and hike up the price. it was about 15euros for a small bottle. So there's no way they spend that.

Same as another group of 'friends' who never bought drinks but used to have 'just a swig' of mine. When 8 people are having a swig your drink goes pretty quick, as does a packet of 10 fags if they each want 'just one'. But of course it's the furrowed brow you get of 'like wow, you're so stingey'

Anyway - totally digressing here - as you were.

"I am totally flummoxed by the idea that a grown man wouldn't know what he needs."

So am I.