Women who pack suitcases for men.

[AnnaMosity]

I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

Thespokennerd you should have met my Dad. He was hilarious. He cared not a jot what he wore. And I mean not a jot.

I once caught him wearing an elasticted snake belt (remember those) to hold up his cords. He must have found it in a charity shop.

He was over the moon when he got a job as a postman and was given a pair of doc martens with the PO insignia on the side. He wore them everywhere.

My Mother did her best. Often buying him clothes. Often laying them out for him.

I pack for DP, because he either under or over estimates what he needs. I get everything we need to go on holiday as it's in my nature to be more organised, if it was down to DP we would never get out of the house. And I actually enjoy getting everything done, it's part of the fun for me.

DP does the driving as he really enjoys driving. I enjoy a glass of wine with our evening meal so this suits me just fine.

I won't stop doing it

GracieScotland - I am intrigued. What is packing the 'army way'?

When I was with XH, he would put his pile of clothes by the suitcase and I would pack them properly. Otherwise there would be a he mind f stuff in the middle. Yes, he could have learnt to do it properly but, TBH, I had the time and he didn't.

I am currently training the SmallDragons to pack properly so this won't be a problem going forward!

No Kitchen...it would be better for men like that to learn how to be slef sufficient!

It's like women who can't change a tyre...ridiculous....my DDs will both be going on a car maintenance course before they drive any vehicle.

Boys are mollycoddled and then their future partners have to pick up the mess their MOthers left.

But you should never have everyone packing their own seperate suitcases for a flight. Never!!!!

word I've just never met a man like that! My Dad was a very stylish man...liked good clothing and knew how to look after them. My DH is the same...he buys good stuff on a non regular basis and cares for them well. He knows exactly how to pack and what to pack.

I can''t get my head around someone not caring what they wear! But I suppose some people just see clothes as somehting to keep them warm/cool and that's it!

Rather like the way I see food as fuel and not a hobby like my food loving frend.

DH does fuck all round the house, so I do pack for him. Is there a reason I should focus on getting him to do this one specific task?

Will it be the magic antidote to his lazyfuckitus?

tee2072 I completely agree!! My DH works long hours away from home. He'll email me a general list of how many shirts/shorts/jeans etc he wants packed and I pack it all. I'm a SAHM and I actually like doing things which make my family's life easier. They do things to help me out too, should we stop those things just to please you OP??

Why wouldn't you have everyone pack their own suitcases for a flight?

I sometimes pack for dh, and he has sometimes packed for me. Dd is 3, so she just stuffs toys in a backpack until one of us sorts it out.
For us, it depends who's about at the time of packing. My dh is better at it than me though, I can never make everything fit.
I dont really see the issue. I think it's a weird thing to get worked up over.

YABU.

Packity packity pack.

beamae always try and mix up everyone's stuff in different cases. That way if one goes missing it isn't such a disaster.

hmmm I've had a rethink.
I'm happy to pack for DH because it is not expected of me - it's a help out.
Like I said earlier sometimes with his self employment things are a bit last minute.

I wouldn't be doing it if he was sat on his arse barking orders. That is so not like him.
He packs for himself when he goes off to conferences - again last minutes sometimes so I'll chuck in his toiletries to help.

He buys his own clothes and when I haven't been around and he has taken the boys away he has packed for all of them. Same when the boys have been on residentials and I have been working, he doesn't need me or anyone to tell him what they need.

It's pathetic.
FFs my wife packs for me.

Smacks of little woman

(business trips. Not family holidays )

beamae always try and mix up everyone's stuff in different cases. That way if one goes missing it isn't such a disaster.
This is a very good tip and something we do.
We also have a change of clothes in hand luggage. (Be prepared and all that!)

What inspired this thread annaMosity?

DP packs my bags because I'll take half my wardrobe.

In our house, we're a team. We divide the jobs equally depending on who is best at them. Packing/cooking/driving/mowing/etc/etc.

Its a well oiled efficient machine chez 'Pru. That's how we stay ahead. Is my DP a 'little man' because he's toiling in the kitchen while I manage the household finances?

Nope. Won't stop it. I am a control freak Either of us can pack the cases, he does pack the cases.

I then have to secretly, cos I'm embarrassed that I do this go through the cases, reorganising things and making sure that what I think should be in there is in there and that it's all packed in the right way.

It's a very unattractive trait, if I'm honest. But not pathetic little woman.

this message was brought to you by the woman who organises her bookshelves by genre and within that, by size.

Not every case (heehee) of case packing is 'little woman'.

It just wouldn't happen in this house.

We are both quite independent - he does his own washing because he likes it done 'his way' - suits me

I do the packing because I'm better at it. I ask everyone to bring what they want to pack and then check it off.

I do it because I distribute clothes between all four cases so that if a case goes missing one person won't be left with nothing to wear. If I left that job to others it wouldn't end well...

Business trips. Not family holidays

Anyway.
I'm
Off out. Enjoy !

Bea if one person's suitcase goes missing (and they do. regularly) then that person will have nothing for their holiday.

And you will waste precious time and money buying new. Half of the things you won't even be able to locate.

For this reason also, you never put all of anything in one case if you can help it. Share out toiletries, sunscreen, underwear, swimming costumes, books etc between cases.