Women who pack suitcases for men.

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I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

DH has a system. I just chuck what I want to take on the bed and when I come back it is all done.

He packs for my business trips as well.

Both my husbands were better packers than me. We've never packed for each other though, and definitely don't choose what clothes the other would bring, that would seem very controlling and odd to me. Now my kids are teenagers they sort their clothes out and pack for themselves as well although I do check what they've packed to ensure nothing vital has been missed.
I suspect the women who pack for their husbands are the same women who do all the card and present buying and thank you letter writing and see being runner of the household as an important part of their identity.
Why would anyone make a doctors appointment for another adult?
I don't get the housewife mentality.

I pack for me, DH and DS. Works for us!!

Bonsoir because I have a system .

DD1 was packing for her own holiday last week and she had a list on her suitcase and was ticking it off lovely neat packing I was impressed her dad has taught her well

Dh mostly does it and then I extract half the running gear and add a couple of nice tshirts. I then say "did you pack swimming gear?' "do you need PJs/book?" "did you pack razor and toothbrush?" etc etc. It's exhausting and might be easier just to do it myself!

He packs all the electrical stuff - kids DVDs, laptop, cameras etc etc.

I am a control freak Either of us can pack the cases, he does pack the cases.

*I then have to secretly, cos I'm embarrassed that I do this go through the cases, reorganising things and making sure that what I think should be in there is in there and that it's all packed in the right way.

Hecate DH is just like you. As you say, it's a very unattractive trait. It's quite sad; he can't relax unless he's done it. But I came to the conclusion that it had to stop because it's really controlling and inadvertently disrespectful.

We now take turns. He twitches when it's mine and I can see him fighting the urge to start all over again. So far, it seems to be working out okay but if I slip he'll just take over again. I will not slip because we're making such good progress on his therapy .

I'm not having a go at you btw. I know it's hard to let go.

But special OCD traits aside, OP is being stupid. Not to mention insulting to

other people's arrangements.

We have a system too. My husband is usually working the day before we leave for an early morning flight, so pack our cases for going away.

The deal is that he packs the cases at the end of the holiday, while I have whatever is left of the holiday money to go and blow on whatever I fancy...

I get back, our cases are packed, and we go home...

I need a system.

I also need a spare room so I can start laying things out the week before.

If we are going on holiday i pack for everyone. About a week before i go though with them what they want to take then make sure it is washed, ironed and packed. I also buy all the suntan cream, toothpaste, shower gels ect.

I also decide where we are holidaying, sort out the finances for it and book it.
I hold the passports and travel documents and most of the money we are taking.

All my oh has to do is make sure he books the time off work and book the taxi for the airport run.

You might not want to do theses things but it works for me.

I pack for both of us & obvs ds.
I enjoy packing,the build up to the actual holiday is exciting & I love a list!
If dh packed,I wouldn't be allowed to take as much stuff :o
Once the suitcases are packed & labelled,what's he going to do?!

DH was working until the hour before we left for our last holiday (own business). He works really long hours, and normally just buys three or four t-shirts before we go away, so I don't pick his clothes I just pack them as we share a suitcase.

The kids had trunki's this time and loved packing their own stuff. They were a hinderence in getting stuff done but they had lots of fun.

I really don't see the issue, but then again I think we work hard to maintain a balance of who does what in our house.

Oh God, this thread has made me want to go on holiday. Now!!!

Only three weeks to do .

DH packs badly for himself on business trips.

He washes on his return too. No way am I washing four day old smelly socks.

I suppose I should say I don't choose what DH or the DC are taking.

I just add or subtract as necessary. So if DH puts out five or six plain white tees, I reduce it to three. If he puts out seven pairs of converse, I reduce to two!

wordfactory we have had to cancel our holiday poor dd2 has a broken leg and wouldnt be able to get round the caravan and campsite, so no packing this year

MrsJay.

Could you do October half term. DS shopuld be better by then?

oh i don't choose the clothes tho - he puts them on the bed (and i add things like socks and pants that he has forgotten).

I did it last time we went away because I wanted to leave as soon as he got home from work and we can't pack the night before because we store stuff in our suitcases that has to be taken out and left on our bed.

Dh has packed the kids suitcases more times than me and back in the day I can remember many a time when I was completely useless after a heavy last night whilst ds was packing both rucksacks and making sure the room looks presentable. It's no big deal.

wordfactory we are going to go for a weekend somewhere in a hotel we are all kinda bummed about it, not her fault though

When my DDs were younger and I was a SAHM. I used to pack for all of us including DH as it was easier to do it during the day while he was at work. He sorted our other stuff. He would have done his packing if I asked. Now we all do our own packing.

There is no choosing involved. I just empty his underwear drawer and wardrobe into the case.

What's all this about the downtrodden housewives doing all the card buying, packing and making appointments? I do all that as I have my own business and work from home. I can take time out of my day for trivial crap like that. DH can't sit on the phone on redial trying to get an appointment when he's at work and all the appointments are gone by lunchtime when he does get a chance. If he needs a doctors appointment it's more important that he gets one in my eyes than me trying to point score on what I've done for him. He does loads for me too. It's a partnership.

I dont think it says much for the person who packs ('little women' etc) but it says more for the person who accepts this and doesn't get stressed. I feel a bit , they must be very relaxed people, the type of people who never get ill and live 100 years. I'm too control freak to let someone pack my case.

I remember reading somewhere that it is about trusting others 100%, putting everything in someone's hands.