Women who pack suitcases for men.

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I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

I find it fantastically weird that anyone would want anyone else to choose their clothes for them. And I wouldn't find it at all attractive to have to dress my DP.

I hold the passports and travel documents and most of the money we are taking.

Custody of the travel documents is another of DH's issues we've worked on.

He used to give me my boarding card to hand in to be processed by the final check-in person, then take it back for safekeeping in case I dropped it on the short journey to the aircraft doors.

Because he's well brought up, he insisted that I went first, so I'd reach the doors and the person at them would say: 'Boarding pass, please Madam' and I'd have to turn round and ask DH for it. Sometimes he'd give me his which would hold every one up.

I cured it by explaining that everyone thought he was a wife-beater. He had no idea that it came across like that.

I have never bought a card, packed a case or made a doctor's appointment for my DP. It has never even crossed my mind that I might possibly do so...

If I was flying I would pack everything but all in the same suitcases so if one got lost we all were missing a few items rather than one person have no clothes! I think then it's easier for one person to do it all. Otherwise dh packs his own stuff but I would do it for him or him for me if needed, isn't that what families do?

DP does my packing. he also makes me a cup of coffee every day to get me up. if i am running late he sometimes squeezes the toothpaste onto the brush for me....

i am going to name change to QueenTillyMinto.

I must come across as a right controling bitch then as i deal with the booking in at the airport then put the boarding cards in my travel wallet in my bag. If oh wants duty free then we stand at the till whilst i seach for the right one.

It is quite funny as we often go to Egypt which is very male dominated and when we go to book into the hotel they always address the man of the party. It is unlikely that my oh even knows the name of the hotel we are booking into so he just waves them over to me and they have to deal with the little woman whilst he goes looking for cold drinks/beer.

I once got the blame becuase we turned up to a wedding without DH's trousers. This was after I had asked him before we left: Have you got everything?

These days, he puts all his tuff together that he wants to take, and I pack it into the bag. Because I'm a bit obsessive with me packin. :)

littleducks we as one.

Also, we are often on the move during holidays, so I split the cases into days. Case A = days 1-4. Case B = days 5-9 etc.

That way, you don't have to rummage around. You go straight to the releveant case.

I also take an extra hold all tp put dirty clothes in, until such point as Case A is empty. .

I'm always worried that we'll lose a case, so to counter that I split our stuff between 3 suitcases. It is a militarily run operation and follows with DH lugging them to the car.

I our house we play to our strengths, feminist schmeminist.

enjoy another one with common sense.

I gather my accolytes around me

I do make everyone sort their dirty laundry by colour when returning clothes to suitcases at the end of the holidays. So much easier when we get home and have 30 loads of laundry to put through...

No, cantspel. I explained a few posts earlier on that if it works for people then it's no-one else's business.

It just doesn't work for us any more, though I can see how DH thought he was being helpful just as I thought it would be easier to let him get on with it.

wordfactor dh would LURVE you splitting cases is a joy to him we usually move about some years and he loves a day 1-3 case

I do all the packing for both my husband and myself.
But then he does all the ironing :)

So what

wordfactory sorry

Bonsoir yes!!!!

Same colours bagged up in plastic carriers, to be transported straight to the washing machine. Or put in the laundry room, waiting for its turn!

mrsjay your DH sounds like a man of intelligence .

Word factory, I have also been known on extremely organised occasions to take all the holiday washing to the launderette at the resort before flying home. They ironed and wrapped all our stuff that just had to be re-hung upon arrival.

Was a wonderful time.

I like doing this stuff and i think it is better for the person with the time to take control rather than spliting things up so everyone deals with there own.

There is some benefits to me as well as i like to pack light and use the hotel laudry rather than take clean for each day and bring home 4 cases of dirty washing.

I love all the planning and sorting for holidays but alas we age not going this year

"I love all the planning and sorting for holidays"

I love holidays but I could very easily do without a moment's planning, sorting, packing or travel. Just get me there.

Why do you care?

FWIW, my grandpa did all the packing whenever he and my gran went away anywhere. It suited them both. Gran hated doing it only for Grandpa to come along and tell her she'd "done it all wrong" and Grandpa liked doing it because it meant he could pack things like he did in his forces days. (And also because in hindsight he probably had OCD to some degree and liked to control everything.)

I do all the packing when we go away as I benefit it immensly from this. If DP packed his own stuff he wouldnt pack enough so he'd either start smelling ripe halfway through the trip, or if we were going to his parents' his mum would do all his washing (not a problem in itself!) while telling me in the PA way possible that looking after DP is MY job

i once made the mistake of asking exH to pack for me (i had to wirk late and he was picking me up from work) for a visit to his family. Just said the usual, trousers, tops etc.

When i opened the bag it was full of tight dresses and inapropriate 'sex' underwear. So i was tottering around the north in winter, wearing stockings and suspenders, hoiking my dress down. exPils must have thought i was mental.

If DH is going by himself he packs. If we are all going I usually pack (but he sorts out his stuff). This is because after a few instances of lost bags I like to spread some stuff into everyones cases, and actually also like 1 change for each person in their hand luggage. It may create fewer funny stories but it is nice to have your own underwear.
Everyone packs their own to come home though, then we swap to check on each other (eg. the kids check we've packed everything from our room).
Now if we are going by car we pack our own.

Won't dispute intelligence wordfactor

I still don't understand why people care so much what people do for one another in their own relationships - personal choice surely? I don't think packing for someone, booking dr appts etc makes someone a "little woman" at all...says more about the person doing the name calling imo, can't help wondering why it bothers them so much anyway.

DH is probably seen as a "little man" because he does a lot of the household admin for me including booking my Dr appts...this is down to logistics as he is here when the doctor needs to be called (8am) where as I am in the car driving to work. I find hands free distracting so he makes the call and texts me the appt time. Simple logistics, nothing more to read into than that.

Life is about choices - people can opt to be a housewife if they want and if they don't want to then that's also fine. Lifes too short...