in not wanting to endure a kid's crying in a shop

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I get it - she's tired, shes rubbing her eyes but LADY dont just ignore her and carry on shopping.
it was a bloody racket! take her out, cuddle her shushshushshush her - not just subject the rest of us to this cacophony

Sometimes its just not feasible to take a crying baby out the shop...she probably just wanted to get it over with as quick as poss and take her baby home.

Load of people make a bloody racket shopping, not just babies.

What happened to empathy?

Were you trying to get to sleep? If not, YABU.

All children are different. Some babies, when they're overtired, find it more stimulating to be picked up and cuddled or shushed, and just need to be left alone to go to sleep.

Having said that, I wouldn't linger in a shop with a wailing baby - would get out and start walking, as that's more likely to help them drop off.

Depends if she was in a hurry to buy something - in which case YABU, or just browsing in which case, YABLU (Less Unreasonable) tho' still a bit intolerant :)

I agree OP ( ex retail worker ) however most will probably not see it that way.

Yanbu, if it was possible for her to leave the shop then she should have. If she was going through the checkouts at the supermarket then yabu.

Are you the woman who was giving me evils in a restaurant the other day? My 18 mo was screaming and I am trying to ignore the tantrum and I was getting glared at. You don't know what is happening so YABU.

If it was in a restaurant and the baby would be spoiling your meal out I'd agree, but in a shop, no.

Agree its earsplitting, but personally i would feel in a better position to leave the shop than a mum with a screaming child.

Id leave and go back later.

Crying babies, fact of life, you were one once and most likely subjected others to your screeches. We all have to put up with noise interferance sometimes.

YABU, Kids cry, get over it. Lots of things annoy me, but I don't expect them to disappear just because they do.

It's bad enough to have your baby crying when you are trying to do shooing without having somebody judging for it. If you are that bothered why don't you just leave?

YABU.

If a toddler is throwing a tantrum for a specific reason (e.g. I want a comic NOW and mean old mummy won't buy me one) then you have to simply ignore the tantrum. Toddlers are more likely to throw tantrums when they are tired, but sometimes you just have to get the shopping done.

I hope you didn't give the poor mum evil looks.

MrsTP - please don't ignore your child's tantrum if she is doing it in a place where it affects other people.

Not shooing, although that's probably more fun than shopping which I meant!

maybe the mum needed the shopping done and did not have the time to go out walk and come back to the shop. People do have busy lives you know.

Sometimes there is no option but to ignore tantrums. I used to have to ignore DS's when he was small........it may affect other people for a few minutes but to pander to them would have affected me for ever!

People should be more tolerant, its no bloody picnic bringing up kids as we all know, and theres worse things in life than a screaming baby!

It's six of one half a dozen of the other. If it was bad enough to post about I would have left the shop thankful that I'm no longer a mum of little ones who can't verbalise what the problem is. I remember how much hard work that was!

blimey, were any of you children once? did you cry? FACT children do cry, sometimes over nothing, get used to it.

If it was a child and not a baby - you didn't specify - then her mother may be ignoring a tamtrum. Perfectly reasonable things to do in that scenario. The don't ignore your childs tamtrum comment if it affects other people is just daft. If you decide to ignore a tantrum then you don't pick and chose when you do or you don't as the child would soon realise that when they're out and having a tantrum they will get the attention they want. Are we suddenly going back to "a child should be seen and not heard?" Kids cry and moan in public - that's life.

tantrum not tamtrum obviously :)

I have 4 of my own, and I understand that children cry and moan for all sorts of reasons. If mine cry or cause disruption when we're in public, then I leave wherever I am as soon as possible, even if it's just outside to calm them/discipline them before returning. This is my way of parenting. I appreciate there are alternatives, so I try not to judge others who are doing things differently.

Mintyy you seriously feel the mother should leave the shop? Does she leave her trolley full of shopping in the middle of the aisle for somebody else to clear up? How does she get her tantrumming toddler out of there? Pick her up and carry her kicking and screaming? If the toddler is crying because she wants to leave the shop and the mum has told her she needs to wait, then leaving would be rewarding a tantrum with its desired outcome - and would lead to more tantrums in shops in the future. I am wondering if you have experience of looking after toddlers... everybody who has raised a toddler of their own tends to give sympathetic looks and encouraging smiles to another mum who is dealing patiently with a tantrum.

Really Mintyy? So should she have given in to whatever her dc was tantrum-ing about? Maybe given her a bag of sweets to shut her up? Then someone could start a thread on here about this terrible mother they saw in a restaurant just giving in to her child's demands etc etc.

Parents really cannot win can they?

Yabu! Kids and babies cry and have tantrums, it happens, get over it.

I take it by the fact that the op hasn't come back that this wasn't the response she was expecting?

Shops are one thing. Allowing your toddler to scream in a restaurant when people have paid for their meal seems selfish to me.