in not wanting to endure a kid's crying in a shop

[AnnaMosity]

I get it - she's tired, shes rubbing her eyes but LADY dont just ignore her and carry on shopping.
it was a bloody racket! take her out, cuddle her shushshushshush her - not just subject the rest of us to this cacophony

I work in a shop, and you can tell the difference between a child crying because they've been told "No you can't have that" and a child crying because they are BORED SHITLESS and have been dragged round a million shops/want a drink/are hungry/tired/not been listened to for the whole of the day/whatever and the parents just ignore them because they can't be arsed to deal with them

Guess which is the more ear splitting, irritating kind of noise?

My sister has a mental disability and people really do stare its horrible even if shes not kicking off but does have little ticks.
Its shocking how many people are just so intolerant.

TBH Maryz I was hoping she would name and shame herself if I brought it up on thread. I didn't realize there was a problem with this on MN. It does seem oddly stalker-like. As you say, I quite like the cut and thrust on the threads and am certainly not all sweetness and light myself. I just wouldn't dream of PMing someone to tell them not to have any more children.

I will think on it.

You know, there is nothing so ear splitting and so utterly annoying as your OWN child screaming in a shop. You feel so powerless and trapped by the necessity of finishing the shopping/getting through the checkout/getting home.

I can bear any amount of children screaming in shops, because even though my youngest is now 14 years old, I am still thinking inside, "Thank God that's not me. Thank God that's not me."

Can't believe someone sent you a PM like that, I would struggle to restrain myself tbh.

Yabu, frankly I don't give a shiny shit if my dcs crying upsets anyone while they are shopping for their lentils. Restaurant Yanbu, normal shopping yabu, suggest you don't go out if you don't like noise

Totally agree Bertie Only thing that got me through my job!

I think all the people who are advising shopping online for clothes ABU, and the high streets of Britain would be a much more attractive sight if more people tried things on before buying them.

I can't be the only parent who feels a strange sense of relief hearing other children having tantrums in asda to just be reminded that it is something every child does and for once it's not my child!

Mrs TP, just wanted to add my support, it is shocking for people to do that, and isn't or shouldn't be what MN is about.

DON'T
Date: Mon 25-Jun-12 15:39:56
inflict your brat on people having a day out. What horrendous parenting.

"Are you the woman who was giving me evils in a restaurant the other day? My 18 mo was screaming and I am trying to ignore the tantrum and I was getting glared at."

No fucking wonder. Please don't breed any more.

This is it. Charming, right?

Also, I feel for people with children with invisible disabilities. I have been in situations twice recently with people judging mums with children who obviously, to me, had some LD or ASD stuff. I used to work in the field though so I think maybe it is more obvious. I'm just so glad it's not mine kicking off, i can handle any amount of other people's doing it.

Don't BREED any more?

That's how a MOTHER refers to it? Maybe she should go out more so we're not inflicted with her internet bile.

Anna, I do agree with the irritation of a screaming baby when the mother does nothing and dawdles along, but I don't get what you mean about cash? What does paying in cash suggest?

thats a banning offense surely

Maybe I'm being a bit green here, but surely we're all mums, prospective mums or WANT to be mums on this forum. Even if we all disagree on various methods of parenting I'm genuinely stunned anyone would send something so utterly vile.

I'm going to cut to the chase and ask the important question - what did you buy?

I wasn't thinking about someone who couldn't cope, I was thinking about someone who couldn't have any more children.

I will post on Soupy's thread. for all the support.

I bet you cried a lot as a baby, as you do now :)

Sorry about the hijack, OP.

this is why i don't ever go to supermarkets anymore

the last time i went a child screamed for a full 45 minutes so i have just not been back to one.