in not wanting to endure a kid's crying in a shop

[AnnaMosity]

I get it - she's tired, shes rubbing her eyes but LADY dont just ignore her and carry on shopping.
it was a bloody racket! take her out, cuddle her shushshushshush her - not just subject the rest of us to this cacophony

yabu

lurking, obviously I wouldnt allow it in a theatre, although I did have to literally pin him to the floor in the lobby a few months ago after he decided he has to be naked in the middle of winter. I NEVER take him out for meals.

The problem is, he is all sweetness and light one second, raging, screaming ball of fury the next, and there is no predicting what will set him off.

Thanks Maryz, yes I agree, but a stranger cant tell the difference.

OP you're being unkind, babies cry for lots of reasons, and having been the one in a queue with a grizzler, I hope I'm more tolerant than you.

There was a very fractious toddler in a pushchair this morning when I was getting my hooves trimmed a spa pedicure. It was annoying, but I just felt sad for the child; he seemed tired and looked to me as if he'd settle if he was comforted. But I don't know, the mother might have been in for her wages, she might have been up all night, he might always grizzle and will go to sleep if he's not overstimulated. The world's a better place and I'm much happier if I don't judge and don't go looking for trouble.

Try it!

YABU. This was me earlier. Tired baby wailing in buggy while toddler got under feet nearby. Unfortunately the baby needed a prescription collecting so I had no choice but to 'inflict' my tired baby on the other shoppers. Fortunately they were, without exception, a lot more empathetic than the OP.

OP YABU although I find it interesting that the majority say that given that the OP who started the thread last week annoyed that a man had been rude to her toddler who had dared say hello to him while he was working in a coffee shop was repeatedly told swbu. Where were you defenders of children then?

Oh I wasn't suggesting you do FaLaMa! Sorry f it seemed I was targeting anyone.
I think the movies is one any reasonable parent would agree is very unfair to take a tiny tot too. Here we have special screening of films specifically for parents..Seems a lot of arrogant parents don't ^want to hear other toddlers cry. Well I don't want to hear your kid cry! No qualms getting an usher involved there.

With meals I'm talking when DP and really saved to take me somewhere extra special. It has only happened twice, but the amount of money we were spending on a meal did make me feel like it was unfair. Especially because in both instances the poor kids were just bored and up late at an adult setting. Anywhere else even if it's annoying I try to believe if parents are ignoring it's for the right reasons, like you and your son. Gives me more faith in humanity!

..Which definitely needed restoring after being a bloody cashier through high school!

OP you're very intolerant.

Purple: Wandering kids annoying strangers is a bit different to a child having a tantrum

As I said in that thread, I actually spilt coffee on a poor kid racing around. He was screaming, his mother was swearing at the top of her lungs trying to attack me, it was bloody horrible. :(

Its OK Lurking, I didnt think you were - it was more of a general observation.

It is very limiting, having a child who is experiencing difficulties.

I really feel for those on the SN boards whose lives are permanently like this, DCs issues have a root cause and hopefully with time and a lot of love he will get over them, I cant imagine having to cope with this for the rest of my life, sucks the energy right out of me.

There is never a roll of duct tape handy when you need one.

I have the deepest respect for parents of disabled children, especially 'invisible disabilities' that garner a lot of public judgment. That's why I try not to judge most situations too harshly, I have extended family with issues like Autism and AS. I do get shitty with parents who think shopping is a family outing to allow their kids to run rampant, but usually if I see a seven year old lying on the floor screaming in Subway, I don't understand why people glare..Obviously something's wrong ffs people!

I agree thatlistening to an endlesslywailing tired baby is awful. However the baby maybe refused to have its usual midday nap or something and mum maybe planned her day expecting baby to sleep and it didn't and now has the shopping to do. Shushing won't work with a tired baby just get on with the shopping as fast as possible.

To the person who PMed me and told be not to have any more children, I have reported your PM and don't intend to engage with you further.

Name and shame MrsPratghett. I hate the snidey PM senders

MrsPratchett*

It's the first one I have ever had. Normally people are so nice.

MrsTerryPratchett OMG who did that?! That's so unreasonably harsh. (May I ask what your big offence was? I can't remember your posts in this thread)

Name and shame!

I wonder how in the world they think they're a better mother when THAT'S the example they set, yeesh!

Hello Lurking we'll never agree about that other thread. I do think that people are generally very intolerant of screamers until they have been the parent trying to deal with it. Ds has tantrumed all over the place and sometimes the best way to get him out of it is to ignore him. As for a baby screaming, it's a baby...that's what they do.

God, sounds like the child in the restaurant on Sat eve. We were sat in the bar with friends looking at menus. People sat behind us with a toddler in a buggy who was very tired and wailing.

I did not go out childless to listen to someone elses.

I am all for going out for "tea" with little ones, but dinner when they are grouchy?

Purple: But we can agree in THIS thread!

Oh, I've reported to MNHQ. I said that DD had had a tantrum in a restaurant, which I chose to ignore (it only lasted ten seconds otherwise she would have been removed). I therefore shouldn't have any more children. I'm not going to name and shame because I don't like being a bully. Which is how I would feel if I called her out.

I might check out that thread Maryz, thanks.