in not wanting to endure a kid's crying in a shop

[AnnaMosity]

I get it - she's tired, shes rubbing her eyes but LADY dont just ignore her and carry on shopping.
it was a bloody racket! take her out, cuddle her shushshushshush her - not just subject the rest of us to this cacophony

I she's volvomo

And if you're not, OP, you should PM her - the two of you would get along famously.

I wonder if the OP does have kids??

I know before I did I was of the 'can't you shut that kid up???now!!!!!' brigade.

now I'm of the 'god I feel for her having to live with that' brigade.

I think* she's volvomo

not with it today...

Or one has children who don't cry.

Right I have clues, she's quick-witted, ROARs and LOLZ in capitals, hangs out in Style & Beauty

anyone got any other clues?

Just saw this thread was a wind up.

I wasted precious insomniac moments writing my little ditty! I'll never get them back! :(

OP why didn't YOU leave the shop if you didn't wish to endure the child crying.

YOU TOO had an option. YOU didn't take it. Why the hell should she?

I've trained my children to howl as I queue for a checkout, I just say ssssh wait until I've paid.

It makes shopping a lot quicker.

@ trying

Hope the OP never takes a flight with my DS.

He howls like a pack of wolves when made to sit on his own seat. If the flight attendant will let him sit on my knee (or his DH's knee) he is fine, but make him sit on his own, and he will howl like a banshee.

So, OP, we travel BA and usually mainland Europe. Might want to avoid us cos I don't much care WHAT you think of us.

His DH Worry?

I'd be worried too!

yabu

but if you had of been winging about a baby crying then a extreamily loud parent doing loud in your face up there own arse parenting such as 'OH DEAR FRED MUMMY LOVES YOU AND CANT UNDERSTAND WHY YOUR CRYING DO YOU NEED' all practicly yelled to make sure people hear what great parents they are. then that would be a perfectly ok thing to get titty about

Mary. On fire

I trained DS1 to howl loudly in the immigration queue at JFK airport - got us to the front of the queue everytime.

I think op might take a bit more time over her typing these days. Posts seem slightly more legible?

oops DC is going through a tantrumming stage in a takeaway.

He screamed the shop down for 40 minutes, I ignored him (as per professional advice), and waited for my food, was it embarrassing, hell yes, was I going to give into his tantrums, hell no!

YANBU. I am amazed at the amount of parents in restaurants, shops, buses, whatever who just let their children cry and ignore them. They don't seem to have any "empathy" for their children or for the people around them who are disturbed by the crying, and often concerned too.

When my son was small and started to cry I would pick him up or take him outside to find out what the problem was and come back in when problem dealt with

Sometimes I think the English are very, very cold towards their children. Their attitude: let them cry and let everyone else put up with it.

A proffessional advised leaving a child to scream for 40 minutes?

"Because it was HER child who was crying"

This ^^

I have every sympathy for a parent who has a crying child in a supermarket and is trying to do their shopping. However, this woman was browsing with a friend in a clothes shop, one of them could have took child out and pushed her/him up and down until s/he fell asleep. I've done it myself in the past, consideration works both ways.

I also judged in New Look a couple of weeks ago when two boys, aged about 8, were running around playing some game with a ball in the shop.

You can flame me now

I'd be judgey about that too.

There is a massive backstory to DCs tantrums, hence why I sought professional help in the first place.

The advice is to ensure DC (and siblings) are safe (which I do), but not to give in to the tantrum. At the moment, the only thing to do is allow DC to calm down in own time. 40 minutes is a good day, they can go on for anything up to 2 hours and can occur anywhere from no times a day, to 5/6.

I have various strategies in place for trying to head them off, but once DC is in full blown meltdown, there is no reasoning with DC at all.

'YANBU. I am amazed at the amount of parents in restaurants, shops, buses, whatever who just let their children cry and ignore them. They don't seem to have any "empathy" for their children or for the people around them who are disturbed by the crying, and often concerned too'

Totally agree janelikesjam, some parents seem to become deaf to it and are not at all in tune with their child. I don't think you are being unreasonable OP. It would have driven me crackers too. I would absolutely love if there was one day a month when my local large shopping mall would go adult-only for a day - no-one under 16, for just one day a month. Not that I don't like children (although some people don't and that's fine by me) but hideous tasks like shopping are much easier without other people's badly behaved, out of control kids. And yes of course i know that children cry, but I think too many parents just accept this as a fact of life and don't do anything to try to find out what's causing the problem.

I rarely take the DCs out at the moment, so its not often an issue, its a vicious circle really.

I admit I get upset when DP and scrimp and save to go to a nice restaurant and someone just ignores a screaming child through our whole meal. I try to accept 'babies cry' but like at the movies, I do kinda feel like 'I paid a good amount of money to be here, shut the hell up.'

But then I feel bad about it, so iunno where my loyalty lies. I do know I will boot a parent and squawking child out of the theater every single time. Didn't pay fifty bucks to hear your toddler scream!