I think I have just caught my dh lying to me...

[Corrie4Ever]

I've changed my bname for this one, it seems pretty serious
DH went to London today for a work meeting. Said in the morning he "wouldn't be home till late, 9 or 10 pm".
"Why?" I said. "Those meetings never go on much past 5pm do they?" (is a 3 hour journey back to us, max)
"Oh, uh, no," says he, a bit flummoxed. "I suppose I'll be back more like 8ish then."
Thought no more of it. then got text at 7.50pm saying "some poor soul has jumped in front of the train, gonna be late"
Followed by "god I hate London!"
Then I rang him at 9pm and he said he was back out of London and had picked his car up at Basingstoke, and was driving home. I asked about the suicide, he said the train was sat on the rails for AGES while police investigated someone jumping under the train in front of him all this on the railway just between Waterloo and Clapham.
I begin to remember that earlier conversation this morning.
Look on the internet. No record of any such incident, delays, nothing.
Ring South West TRains, nothing happend at all...
He is still not back- what do you guys reckon??
WE have been together 8 years, 2dcs, never ever had any cause to suspect anything before...happily married...I think...

Has he been watching the football with his mates? Would you be upset if he had been?

It sounds like a lie to me... :(

Hmm would make me very suspicious and I would be waiting for him and not happy, he is lying but about what?

There must be a reason you don't trust your husband for you to actually be rining the rail company

Well if you've checked and there's been no delays or incidents, he must be lying.

Was he talking about the tube rather than overground rail?

I couldn't care less about football or anything, he was going to have missed dcs bedtime anyway which is when I could have done with a hand...
ages and ages ago I found a "masseuse" card on his table which he managed to persuade me must have been dropped by his brother when he visited us - I have had a bit of a inkling ever since, but he seems like such a nice, lovely, normal honest guy. I put it to the back of my mind.
Shaking, upset, and now he is back claiming "knackered" - I bet...
Question is, is it worth the massive rows upset etc to us and the dcs if I front him up on this. When the whole massage card thing was going on he just stuck to his story for days, in the end I just gave up on it...
Bloody hell...

I would be suspicious too.

What do you think he is hiding?

I'd be tempted to just wait a little and do a little snooping myself. Sounds a bit suss.

Could you do some digging around? Do you have access to cc bills / his phone?

I will try to find the train ticket. Without absolute concrete evidence he will just deny it, I am sure.
AS I said, bloody hell...

Just ask him, youl drive yourself mad surely after being together for so long you can have an adult conversation with him

could you maybe ask about the "suicide" just out of curiosity?I am a morbid cow and if my DP came home with this story, id probably have questions and then we would have a discussion about how sad it is etc. Then you could be on your lap top and say, oooh, where did it happen, let me google see if i can find it on the news - then see how he reacts?

Yes but gingerchick it feels to me like Ii would be chucking a hand grenade into our family and relationship, isn't it? trouble is I am absolutely convinced there is no good explanation for all this...

I think if hes managed to talk his way out of suspicion before he could do it again and, if there is any, get rid of evidence too.

Look for something cast iron.

You rang the rail company over this?

You clearly don't trust him anyway.

Just be frank and ask him what's going on

How about mentioning the suicide and say you'd looked on the BBC website for reports of it and not seen anything. You could just say you were bored after the dc had gone to bed and was reading the news.....

Yes doggie mama I will do that, maybe tomorrow though cos I don't feel my actress skills are up to much tonight. Is really weird, I am shaking like a leaf, can hardly type. I want my mum! but I really do feel if I told her, it would cause endless ructions. She would be so angry. It actually means a lot everyone that I can at least talk about it here, thank you. If you knew my usual login, you'd probs know who I am...

You don't trust him. And he seems rather shifty about this. Think of your sexual health and ask him.

I do see what you mean I just know I couldn't sit on the information and would act differently and cause a row anyway, feel for you BTW

I would do what midweek said. Say it casually, but clearly wanting an answer.

I know what you mean about the handgrenade. It might just feel much easier to leave things but make it clear to him you are watching him, but manicbmc has a good point. If he is going to a masseuse or similar, you really need to know.

Well you obviously don't trust him if you were suspicious about the suicide story.

Why on earth can you not have a normal conversation, as opposed to resorting to Miss Marple style antics?

You have deep reservations about the masseuse card, now this - why waste your energy trying to find tickets etc? Do you not feel you can confront him with your suspicions?

Horrible for you, by the way .

There is NO WAY I could keep quiet. It would be burning me inside not to say anything, and I wouldn't be able to sleep. I second MidWeek's idea. Lots of luck, I hope it's nothing.

Oh God, Manic, I hadn't thought of that side of things... :(

It's not something you should have to be thinking of in usual circumstances.

But take care of you.