to want to stop breastfeeding just because...

[takingiteasy]

I do? Oh I dunno if I'm making much sense but here goes. Ds2 is almost 5 weeks old. Both he and I took to feeding really well and have had no real problems. He's gained a pound since birth, sleeps well, only gets up once in the night and is very content. I took a bout of mastitis a couple of weeks back but we fed through it and coped.

So in spite of all this I am thinking about stopping. My reasons are so selfish. I feel like I do nothing but feed I swear I'm going to get pressure sores from sitting on the sofa. I haven't spent any decent time with ds1 and miss that. Thinkin forward I would quite like a night off sometime in the next wee while and a gin

In all honesty I wasn't expecting to get this far. I only made it ti day 5 with ds1 and have no guilt. I sais I'd give it another go this time round but really didn't think it would work and here I am looking for an excuse to stop. All the while there are women putting themselves through hell to do it.

I also have zero.sex.drive which is no fun.

But Down, who here is telling the OP to feel guilty because "anything else will be terrible"? One lone poster among dozens, as far as I can see. Again this comment looks like an example of the prejudiced assumptions people frequently make against those who show enthusiasm for bfing - ironic considering how long you bf'd for! Enthusiasm for one thing does not automatically lead to judgementalism against another.

I'm sorry to hear that your DS' speech development is so delayed, and really hope you get some sound support and intervention soon.

OP I am currently bf a 5 week old and it is relentless. It's also distressing when she has a bad day and won't latch on or feed properly. I've spent many evenings in tears with my baby screaming at my breast. A wise mumsnetter told me to just let this time be what it is.

When bfeeding is good it is very good and I know that it will get much easier. I admit sometimes I wish I had ff from the beginning but I always change my mind.

I decided to look at it this way; when in my life will I have license to sit on my arse, watching TV, reading and eating dark chocolate all while burning more calories than a spin class every day? The baby will NOT fit around my life, I have to fit around her.

I understand that your situation is different with two DCs though so I can't speak about that...

Maya, I agree almost no-one on this thread is beating up the OP for her decisions - but even on here I've seen other threads where people have been, shall we say, less measured.

idocrazythings and Jnice

Thanks for your posts and for seeing my post for what it was - an opinion. And fair dues to the op for taking my opinion for what it was and not getting silly or defensive about it like so many posters did (not that it bothers me, just shows how defensive they are) who cannot stand anyone who doesn't mollycoddle a person when it comes to breastfeeding and perseverance.

stillorsparkling - you obviously have NOidea what you are on about if you think breastmilk doesn't make a difference to a baby.